How Can I Stop My Weight Loss Self-Sabotage?

A Guide To Identifying The Patterns That Trip You Up

By Joshua Wayne

A very common question I get asked by the people I work with is “how can I stop my self-sabotage?”  They typically have a lot of frustration with themselves for not following through with their weight loss plan and they often feel hopeless that their situation will never change. 

So if you feel like you keep sabotaging yourself for one reason or another, there are specific things can you do right now to get un-stuck and on track. It might be helpful to get a pen out right now, and write down some notes as you go through this guide. After you have written down some answers to the questions here, maybe pick on thing this week to work on.

First Steps:

The first thing you want to do is identify why you keep doing this.  If you don’t have a clear idea, then it’s hard to come up with the right solution.

In order to understand your "self-sabotage pattern", I’m going to ask you a very important (and maybe a little unusual) question. If you take a few moments to sit with this and really chew on the question, you will find that it’s very powerful and it can actually help you in many areas of your life .


Read that a second time if you have to.  It’s actually a basic logic equation.  In order for a behavior like self-sabotage to be true in your life (and if you’ve read this far, then I’m assuming it is), then what belief MUST you be carrying that allows that self-sabotaging behavior to exist. If you sabotage yourself, then something else MUST be true in your life that allows that to happen.

I assure you this is not as complex as it sounds, and I really encourage you to take a moment to digest it. If you understand what that thing is, you will understand your self-sabotage, and you can then start taking the steps to reverse it. 

Next Steps:

Now let’s take it further.  Below are the common patterns I have observed (the things that MUST be true in people’s lives) that allow the self-sabotage to exist.  I think I’ve nailed the most common and significant ones (and the starting point to turn it around), but if you come up with something else, I’d love to hear what it is.  Please email me at joshua at peertrainer.com. 

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