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I do not deserve the "your doing great" comments

Ok I am just getting so fed up w/ myself! A little pitty party here so please just let me vent ! I am getting compliments on how great I look and that I am loosing weight, yeah it is slightly true I lost a little weight but I am so off track for about two weeks now that when someone says wow look at you I feel guilty and well almost ashamed. after I start out strong in the morning and most of the day eating well it all goes to hell by the evening..I am so sick of saying every night Ok tomorrow will be better, let me get back on track tomorrow. I keep trying to workout consistently and then yes you guessed it that goes down the tubes to. I just want to be consistent w/ my eating and working out and health in general and start feeling good about myself and really just true to myself so that when someone gives a compliment I can truly accept it and know that it was well earned.
I want to feel like I deserve the "your doing great" and "wow you look good, must be working hard" comments
Ok thanks for letting me vent. Pitty party is over! It literally just turned midnight so tomorrow has arrived I want today to be the day I get back on track and become true to myself and get these damn pounds off for good!

Tue. Jan 29, 12:09am

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Maybe you didn't want responses but,
everyone has set backs. To me, it is the way that you deal with them in the long run that matters.

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 2:12 AM

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I agree with the previous poster. Everyone falls off the wagon. The key is consistency. When you veer off the path, like everyone does, do you get back on?

What happens when you get home? Think about what is going on at that time and plan for it. I used to snack while making dinner. So if I'm hungry before cooking I;ll have a small snack and give myself time to feel satieted before starting. Is it portion control? Make meals for the week on the weekend and freeze them in individual serving size.

The messages we say to ourselves have a real impact. You ARE deserving of these compliments. You have had a tough few weeks but that does not cancel out the hard work you have done. Coming to this community on Peertrainer is definitely helpful, you have a place where you can "vent" and get support. Let us know how you are doing. Good luck.

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 8:50 AM

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here's the simple truth: you've lost weight and you're slimming down--that means you've done good. you took it upon yourself to make a change. that doesn't happen overnight. in fact, you'll probabaly struggle your whole life!

try our group: Y eat. we're here to help with eating habbits other than hunger.

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 9:44 AM

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I am op...thanks for your comments I really am so happy to be part of PeerTrainer
I appreciate the support and ideas I like the pre-planned meals, and the reminder that the long run is what matters. I will keep you posted I am truly determined to make a difference in my life, long term!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 9:49 AM

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remember, don't beat yourself up when you slip--you're human and we make mistakes. binges here and there are ok as long as they don't happen too often. It's hard to break the cycle, but you can do it! you're well on your way to being who you deserve to be....

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 9:53 AM

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Or, maybe you are someone who needs to beat up on yourself before you slip. If that's the case, unleash your inner drill instructor- when you reach for something you shouldn't be eating, let that inner voice rage.

Or, play good cop/bad cop with your brain- Be mean to yourself to keep yourself on track. Be nice to yourself when you stay on track.

Good luck!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 11:19 AM

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I'm also familiar with this phenomenon, or something similar...for whatever ironic reason, people start up with the compliments when I start to falter in my routine or hit a plateau. I have concluded that these are the moments when your body "catches up" to all of the good stuff you've done for it over the past months and it becomes more visible. So you actually need these bumps in the road, as long as you stay on the road. Support for this theory: There's a common practice amongst hardcore gym rats to take a 1-2 weeks off every 2-3 months because their bodies become too efficient and burn fewer calories.

Now bask in the glow of your hard work, and know that the healthy bandwagon is waiting for you to jump back on when you're ready.

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 11:28 AM

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me too

This venting made me feel better I was doing so great until thursday when I went home and ate a lot and didn't exercise nearly as much as I usually do. I did have a good time visiting so I have to remember that I'm not the only one who slips up. But I can do it too!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 3:25 PM

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thanks 11:28 that makes me feel better. I ate well today and will go home do some exercise and eat a good dinner of veggies!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008, 3:27 PM

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