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Sleeping with your ex husband?

Anyone here ever ventured that direction? I would love to hear some feedback. The sex was the only good part of the marriage, lol. We are both single. We can be safe. We both know there will never be another "us", so what the heck. ???

Tue. Jan 15, 7:21pm

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Ooooh, careful. I ended up pregnant after "one for old time's sake". Plus, looking back, I would've been able to move on IF I abstained; at the time it felt like I wasn't moving on.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008, 7:28 PM

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Be very careful!! I also ended up pregnant. The only good thing that ever came out of it.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008, 7:49 PM

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Hmmm...I'm having trouble getting pregnant. Sounds like I should kick him out!

Tuesday, January 15, 2008, 8:27 PM

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The best way to get over one guy is to get under another. ANOTHER! Not the same one!

Tuesday, January 15, 2008, 8:46 PM

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8:46 what is that? She never said anything about not being over her ex, in fact it sounds like she is done with him. She merely said that they had good sex. And no the best way to get over a man is to give it time and get over him, let it be a growing experience, not go out and find a replacement.

Personally if you both go into it knowing and not expecting anything from each other, I say go for it. I have had sex with lots of my exs, just be safe.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008, 11:17 PM

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I think if you are being real with yourself, you will realize that you might be looking for more than purely sex with your ex. If you are looking for just some good sex that isn't too hard to find with someone you don't have a deep and complicated emotional history with. Sex can be just sex but usually not someone you were actually intimate with for a long time. You can't erase your memories. If that door is truly shut, then in my opinion let it stay closed. Having sex, even no strings attached, will very likely open it up again. And all forms of birth control except sterilization have failed, so no matter how safe you are, remember that one of the things about sex is that, like many things in life, there are always risks. I'm not trying to be alarmist but since this anonymous I feel like I can be very honest - and tell you what I wish someone would have told me a while back.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 3:47 AM

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I completely agree w/ 3:47. Why put yourself in the risky situation? If you want sex find someone new.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 9:11 AM

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i have a different view.

I am not the kind of woman who mixes sex with emotions. If both of you are the same type of person, go for it. It's familiar, it's safer than picking up a guy you don't know, and you can trust him. As long as you BOTH understand that you are booty budies and nothing more.

I've done it with ex-bfriends and friends and it worked out well for both of us. No commitment, safe environment, comfort of someone you already know. The worst feeling is getting naked and getting busy for the first time with a new partner. It's so tense and akward.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 9:16 AM

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"The worst feeling is getting naked and getting busy for the first time with a new partner. It's so tense and akward"

For some of us, that's the BEST feeling! Not awkward -- a little thrilling. Everyone's different.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 9:35 AM

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well, thank you 9:35 for taking my feelings and minimizing them against yours. how thoughtful.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 10:27 AM

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I thought 9:35 was just offering up another take on the scene - not minimizing. Oops - I think I just minimized your input. Sorry.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 10:37 AM

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why is he your ex. You must have really disliked him to divorce him why give him any now?

Or did he leave you?
Then why the hell would you give it up to him?

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 3:50 PM

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3:47 here

3:50 also raises some good questions. Even if you are "woman enough" to have no-strings-attached sex (something that is hard to do, especially with an ex, and often isn't very healthy emotionally) why does he deserve it from you?? He seems to have a great deal... all the sexual benefits of his wife but none of the commitment and responsibility. Perhaps that sounds harsh and maybe I am way off... I don't know you and I am simply evaluating the situation from the little information you provided. But I think telling yourself "No" in this situation will really be better for both of you in the long run.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 4:48 PM

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9:16 checking in.

see, that's where my opinion differs. He's not the only one benefiting from a booty buddy. She's getting a piece, too! I am a female and i think women without sex from men for whatever reason rather than embracing it as something for themselves. I love having sex, not making love. i don't think that makes me "less of a woman" for having a difference view and not mixing emotion with sex. I get emotions from men in other ways, but I am pleasing myself as much as the man i am with when I have sex.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:17 PM

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sorry, i meant to say women withhold sex from men, not women without sex....typing too fast again--no one scream at me for it! :)

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:19 PM

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my ex hubby came to visit me in my new apt. every 2 weeks and we always had sex - for about 6 months - it was familiar, it was nice.. it was nice that could LEAVE and we both had our own places.. I stopped that when I found a new bf - it devastated him. i guess he liked having me around without the committment.. oh well!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:41 PM

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OP here

Wow, to log on and see all these comments is so nice. Well, I did. Several times last night in fact, lol. And it was GOOOOOOOOOOOOD! :) I agree I guess that as long as we are both in agreement that it is just for fun, we are all good. Lets see, to answer one question. Yes, I left him for very valid reasons. That is why I would never be able to consider an "us".

Someone said its familiar, yes it is. I am so comfortable with him. He knows my body and loves my body. I agree that I hate getting naked in front of a new guy. Well, we are most all here because we need to lose some weight, so that doesn't help. He knows me and what I like. It is safe in terms of safer than picking some guy up for sex. I am not really like that either. I don't look at it as giving it up to him like another poster said either because it is equally satisfying for me. I cant get pregnant. I am over him in terms of I know there will never be another "us". I do love him and always will, but am not in love with him.

Who knows. I could be making a huge mistake and my feelings could get involved, but I did. It felt nice to be with him again so yeah I guess that is feeling in itself. It was a nice one though to lie there and have him hold me. Maybe it wont ever happen again, but who knows. I appreciate everyones feedback for sure. PT can be so supportive on the DB's when people are real with each other. Thanks for that.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 7:05 PM

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9:16 and 5:17 checking back.

Op--you and I should join teams--we sound so much alike.

I am glad you understand that sex with him doesn't mean love or relationship. You chose a safe way to satisfy your needs. YOU GO GIRL!

Your last paragraph about "being with him" and "having him hold you" is mixing emotion with sex. I know the IDEA of being with someone and not lonely is what you love, just make sure it's not HIM specifically--that's where you'll run into emotional problems.

Good luck to you, hun!

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:26 AM

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I was with a guy on and off for 8 years. It should have been only 2 years and then I should have moved on with my life and met new people and done new things, but it didnt work out that way.
I knew he wasnt right for me, so i seriously thought I could just do the hook-up buddy thing. the sex was amazing!! but every time one or the other would get emotionally attached. It does feel nice to be held. Most people want their intimate partner to care about them. If you are staying over, we should have dinner, or watch a movie, or you start talking about your day - it becomes a relationship- just not a committed one. so when one fo you meets someone new and dumps the other one it hurts. I went through this time and time again with Dave but finally I moved away.

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:40 AM

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9:16- Is this Racheal from CofC?

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:40 AM

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9:16 checking in.

nope, sorry, wrong person.

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:59 AM

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OP here... thanks 9:26. It's nice to know someone feels the same, but damn the whole not mixing emotion thing is soooo f'ing hard. I tried so hard. I failed to do that when he told me how much he cared about me again. It made me not want him back, but sure regret that things are the way they are. He mixed it quick and told me that he was sorry he put alcohol and his job before me and caused the divorce. He told me that he really loved being here, wanted to come here again and be here, not just for the sex, but for the closeness and just lying here with me he said. I'm thinking; "Oh okay, thats nice, well at least we can be closer and not fight so much" I kinda felt the same way. THEN.... WHAMMIE!

His boss finds out he was with me and gives him hell (apparently, although he lies a lot and I never know the real side of the story and it is generally more involved) Then I realize they are in some sort of sick twisted relationship. Boss/employee where both their jobs are in danger. What the hell?? I need my child support! So I got not only hurt after hearing him say those things to me and realizing he was in this triangle, but angry and then very angry when I woke up to my car tire being slashed two nights later. I called her and told her that I had been with him, had not meant to step into the middle of their drama because he told me he was single, and I asked her if she cared about him to stop doing what she is doing because he really needs his job. Of course, she told me to go to hell and was nasty and subsequently he got angry cussed and screamed and was a total jerk. I shouldn't have called her or him for that matter, I know I know. I should have NEVER gone there. The past is like a box that doesn't need to be opened. LIVE AND LEARN I GUESS... All the while, emotionally suffering after such STUPID decisions. Sometimes relationships just suck. :(

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 4:08 AM

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why dont you just get a vibrator? who the hell needs all that crap?

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 7:33 PM

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Thats how I was born. My divorced parents slept together. It kinda sucks being that child.

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 4:41 PM

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sounds messssssy, but understood. i've always wondered if D'd couples do it...the dude from the OP sounds like a LOOOOOOOOOSer. You were right to get out of the relationship. the crazy bitch is all rebound - she is the drama queen. she'll fog up his "reason odometer" - once he gets a clear vision, he will be calling again - good luck and be strong.

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 9:15 PM

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Also still sleeping with ex

I feel for you on this one! I divorced my ex last year in June. And at first I hated him for doing and saying certain things to me. So we didn't talk at first abouthtings. and now I am back to sleeping with him and we both are telling eachother that we love eachother again. I know this is a very confusing time in our lives, but I to think that the sex is even better than it was when we were married. I can't explain it! we get along a hell of alot better than before. But recently it seems like he is making future plans for us and I am at the point that it confuses me more and more. I am not sure how to hadle it. I have had plenty of opportunity to be with other men, but when it comes right down to it I JUST CANT! wHY IS THAT?

Sunday, May 25, 2008, 9:49 PM

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If anything goes wrong between you - the only person you can blame is yourself

Monday, May 26, 2008, 9:34 AM

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Lyrics to The Divorce Song by Liz Phair

It's harder to be friends than lovers
And you shouldn't try to mix the two
'Cause if you do it and you're still unhappy
Then you know that the problem is you

Monday, May 26, 2008, 9:36 AM

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I'm going to speak up for those of us who do mix sex and emotions and say that I think it's a bad idea ... it would certainly be for me anyway. The immediate thing that comes to mind is not being able to let go of what was, what you thought it would be and now it isn't ... that would be what it would be for me anyway ...

Monday, May 26, 2008, 10:48 AM

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Nope, I never look back. He, however, has been trying to get me to "fool around" with him every time we happen to see each other. Even if it's a family event hosted by our kids AND his current wife is in attendance! FYI -- we've been divorced since 1983 and our kids are all grown with kids of their own. He remarried in 1989 and still carries my pic in his wallet, along with a poem he wrote for me while we were dating!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 10:15 AM

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Jesus tells us, that sex is for marriage only. That comes from us loving that person! Don't just do it for old time sake! Because if you were to wait until you got married again, and if you saved your body for your future husband [even though you've already done it] than it will be 10x more amazing. (or so ive heard) ;) ;) ;)

But, even if you arn't a christian, the same principle applies.
Any one else agree?

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 2:46 PM

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2:46 again!

And one more thing;
even though like OP says, we arn't in love we are just doing it..b/c we are comforatable with it..
well, than thats just nuts! dont have sex just b/c you feel like it! what kind of example anyways would that be for your future kids?

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 2:52 PM

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I don't agree PP

I have had some rockin' one night stands - memories of a lifetime!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 2:57 PM

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One question:
whenever I am old and grey, what will everyone have to say at my funeral?

''Well, she was a crazyy women, we had fun everynight, we had sex all the time, it was great, i wish she was still here, we'd to it again all night, her kids will miss her, she taught them well'' (ex husband, b/f, or just some guy)
''My mom was an amazing women. We didn't see her much. But, we are the most popular kids at our school. One night stand is our anthem'' (kids)

I don't know about any of you..but when i die, i want people to be able to say..
''she was a well respected women, love her kids and HUSBAND very well. Her and her husband loved each other greatly!! 60, or 70 years! I want to be in love, and stay in love! I agree with 2:46!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 3:20 PM

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Oh for the love of god PP, relax. You CAN be a wild a young woman who parties and has sex AND a great time - and then have a partner and have an awesome wonderful family in a nice home and get up and make your kids meals and make sure they do well in school and love them and take care of your sick parents and dying sister.

I have done all this

And I have no regrets about being wild. I miss it, actually

I realize this thread is not about any of this - but sometimes you judgemental types who love to put others down are such a mystery to me. Is you life SO terrible and pathetic that you have to look at what everyone else is doing?

Its just so sad

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 3:26 PM

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forgive me for bickering

Im here to give my thoughts, and advice according to what I believe.
Not to start a fight online. She asked for feedback, so I gave it.
I'm sorry you disagree with me. Not everyone agrees on the same things.
Jesus says to go and be diciples! So that's all I am doing. I pray God will touch you and your needs.
God bless you.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 3:34 PM

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In case you hadn't noticed, jesus died more than 2000 years ago. And he was just a guy. Maybe had a little more insight than other guys, but he wasn't superman or god or anything.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 4:09 PM

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Who cares?

Why would you care what people say about you when you are dead? Are you really living for your eulogy? Get your head out of that book and get a life before your eulogy. Then at least someone will say more then 'Yawn' when asked to say anything about you. Don't use Jesus as a crutch or an excuse. Maybe we should all stop trying to be healthy too. I don't know anybody who ever went to a funeral and said "It is too bad so and so died they were so thin." (Except of course in the Karen Carpenter kind of way and that is no compliment).
As far as sleeping with your ex. That is your business. If your both adults, nobody gets hurt and everybody cosents I say THROW THAT THANG!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 5:56 PM

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Shoot, there was a reason why we got divorced! He couldn't keep that pecker zipped up in his pants. Why would I want to go back to diddling with something that's been poked into 1000s -- YES 1000's -- of other women? Once i told him he had to choose between me and them. I demanded total fidelity, undivided attention in that area. Otherwise, what was the point in being married? Poor fool said he just couldn't choose, but "knew" it would help me to know that I was the one he LOVED and I was the one he came home to every night. Shoot! I chose for him. Kicked his no 'count butt to the curb. WHy would I go back to playing games with him? No way!

Wednesday, May 28, 2008, 10:45 AM

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To 3:20 the funeral person

When you say something like your post - you do not reveal how wonderful your values may be. All you reveal is how superior you perceive yourself to be to others.

And by revealing your self stated superiority, what you are revealing is how empty you must be.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008, 12:40 PM

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No, all I was saying..was when I die, I hope to be a respected person..
which is my direction..but some of yall i am not so sure.
different people trust in different hope is in Jesus,God, whatever you call Him. He saved me, and died for me. When I die, I will be going to heaven! But, I would like to say that for you guys, but I realyl doubt it right now. Thanks to Jesus, I am able to lose weight, and be happy..
His miracles are amazing! I am also able to walk away from situations like this be 100% happy with myself! Just because peope put you down for your faith..those are the ones who have it comin' in the end!
God bless you.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008, 1:34 PM

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Hey PP, are you God? Because its God who makes the decision of 'who has it coming'

Or didn't you know that?

Wednesday, May 28, 2008, 5:04 PM

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I know this post is not supposed to be about God, Jesus, Allah, whomever. I would like to say one thing that relates to both subjects.
In the Bible it states that the first person you have intercourse with is your spouse in the eyes of God. The first person, everyone after that is considered Adultery. So, unless you married that guy or gal you lost your virginity too, you will be with the rest of us in the Lake of Fire. There are no exceptions.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 10:40 AM

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You know, from my point of view, the Bible is a nice story but there is no Lake of Fire. In fact, there are a lot of people who do believe in God but not in Hell. And there are a lot of Christians who believe in God's forgiveness. So maybe there are no exceptions for you, but there are for other people.

Many of us live in communities where we are respected and will be remembered for charity and good works, for who we taught or what we built that will be used by others, for saving lives or bringing new ones into the world. All of this is a lot more important, in a concrete sense, than what anyone does in the privacy of his or her own bedroom.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 10:54 AM

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I wasn't aware that Jesus did housecalls to keep me from eating a bag of Doritos and to be my personal trainer!! I thought we were in control of our own weight loss!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 11:04 AM

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to 1:34

don't you think it's a bit hypocritical to begin your post by saying that different people trust in different things, then end it by saying that basically if we don't trust in what you trust, we're going to "get it in the end"?

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 11:07 AM

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I wouldn't sleep with my ex for fear of eternal damnation, I wouldn't sleep with him because he's an A$$HOLE, hence the divorce. I don't have any issues with casual sex, but I don't know how it could be casual with someone that it once wasn't casual with. (does that make sense?)

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 11:11 AM

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LOL, 11:04. You've got me wanting a bumpersticker: "Jesus is my Personal Trainer."

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 11:33 AM

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im out

to 10:40..
i agee..but that is why jesus died for us! to save us from the lake of fire [or known as hell]

but, if all you other women would shut up, and ACTUALLY GET YOUR BIBLE DOWN RIGHT NOW AND READ IT..I MEAN GET EVERY FACT STRAIGHT, you'd realzie what a complete idiot your b eing..b/c you have no clue what your saying!

Jesus says turn the other cheek, which is what ive been doing =]
sleeping with your ex..and not being married..i could call you a slut, whore w/e..or just sleepin pick!
but, i will be nice and just say you have sinned! i have sinned before! everyone of us has! but thats where jesus comes in! go read in Mathew..the story of his birth! Ya know..keep on readin and you'll see is death..the ppl who prosecuted him!
but, im not going to force my religion on you guys !God says to go be diciples..and to ctach the ppl..and he will clean them!
so i'll just pray for you!
good luck with loosing weight everyone! =]

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:14 PM

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pp: it's losing weight, not loosing weight.

you save jesus saves you, but has he been around lately? Because I see more hate out of you than any previous poster. You may want to "put your bible down right now" and give him a call for a little one on one time.

btw: don't bother praying for me, begin praying for you.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:21 PM

Add comment not the best speller. but neither are you! i believe it's say* not save!

And, this quote puts it best...epescially for those who are looking for love instead of sleepin around
People ask me, "Why do you believe in God? How do you know God exists? What if God is a hoax?" But I mean, why do people believe in love? So many people kill each other; our world is degrading, divorces are at a all time high, & a lot of people cheat on one another. With all that, how can you believe in love? When you hear it like that, love just sounds like a hoax. But when you see love, when you feel love, it gives you this hope. That's why you hear about it all the time; that's why it's the biggest issue in our world. Love is something cliche as it sounds, it's truly unexplainable. God is unexplainable. He sent his only son to die for us, us humans who are so screwed up. Love is the very foundation our universe is built upon. Without love, none of us would be here. -Chloe Higashida

there it is! thats why i believe in God. and if you'd read your bible, you'd know that it says he is coming back one day for all the believers, and the others who denied him, will go to hell. you can laugh all you want too, but it's going to happen! people will put me down for my faith! but i know there is just as many who believe too! it's called FAITH..i think you need some!

and how can praying for you,admitting im a sinner is that mean?

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:34 PM

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I didn't say admitting you are a sinner is mean. What is absolute unchristian of you is to make comments like "I could call you a whore or a slut, but instead i'll just say you sinned". PLEASE! You're not fooling anyone. Those comments are your true feelings masked by, what you want us to believe is, helpful, happy thoughts. Don't believe it? Trying doing some research on Maslow's Pyramid of Happiness (make sure it's the 7 steps-not 5).

You must be a Jehovah's Witness....

and I have faith. You need not bother questioning my faith. I just choose not to push it on others as you are doing.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:42 PM

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one more thing. I can't understand how someone as holy as yourself talks about love as if "it's the foundation the universe is built upon, but call people a whore who are sleeping with their ex's. Take yourself out of your box and see that they either love this person, or love people with them, or love being with someone, or love sex, or love touch, or love orgasms. They LOVE something that is drawing them to their ex. Everyone's definition of LOVE is different and you don't have a right to tell people their definition of love is wrong. Nor should holy people judge.....

again, pick up your bible and phone and give jesus a call. You need a recap of what your beliefs and faith is about.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:47 PM

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Well, Jesus didnt hide things..he wasnt afraid to say it how it was.
But he had meakness. I guess I need some, eh? But you do too.
And, Im not afraid to admit my wrong doings..
And, no thanks I don't need the pyramid whatever to go back to..the bible says it all. and, yea u have faith, but not for God.
and wrong again, i am not a jehovahs witness. im just a believer.
The bible says to pray for the non believers, so thats what I plan on doing!

how come you believe in love? how come you believe in air even though you cannot see it? you might feel the air..but if your in the presence of God, you'd feel it too.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 12:48 PM

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if you stepped out of your box, you'd see that Maslow's hierarchy of happiness states faith in a higher power is a key to happiness.

once again, judging others and using god as a way to not admit your own sin. I have faith in god, just don't need to shove it down anyone's throat.

feel free to keep me out of your prayers.

roll another joint and smoke it are so trippin

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 1:16 PM

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I won't get into the whole debate about our world going in the's true, things are bad out there. Just also remember that maybe divorce is on the rise because women (and men) are empowered enough to get out of a bad marriage. "Long" ago, people stayed in horrible, loveless marriages because to leave would be a sin, now people value their own lives enough to move on when necessary.

And just because you didn't actually call any of us whores or sluts doesn't you're a good person. clearly, you think we are but it doesn't make you better because you don't say it directly. I can't stand it when people stand on their religious soapboxes and proclaim that their way is the only way. When you do that, you denounce every other major religion in the world, and to think that your way is the only possible way is just arrogance....which I believe to be quite sinful! Have your faith, enjoy it, revel in it, but don't you dare imply that I am less of a good person than you because my beliefs differ from yours.

I'm not the PP you were tussling with, by the way, but another poster who gets irate when one person thinks they can judge another and hide behind their "faith" as some lame excuse. Guess what, I had sex for the first time as a teenager, have had close to 20 partners since then, and am divorced and remarried. I have no regrets, I love my life, I treat others with respect and dignity. The latter matters more than who I've gotten naked with! But according to you, I should be outfitting myself with horns!!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 1:59 PM

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What if I live a good, rule following, treat people nicely kind of life.....but just don't happen to believe in Christianity? Am I going to hell for not believing despite the fact that I lived an honorable and decent life? Do my good deeds in life mean nothing to God just because I didn't read the Bible or go to church or tack a religious label on myself?

Having faith is fine as long as you practice what you preach. Thumping your Bible and preaching about how you're saved and going to heaven means nothing if you imply that people are whores and sluts. It's your actions that matter, not just the lip service.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 2:04 PM

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1:59--this is the pp that the holy roller isn't fooling.

AMEN (no pun) to everything you said! Thanks for backing me up.

I, too, have sinned my way through life--I'm now 33. All of my sins were against myself, not others. So, you're right--I am still a great person. Having sex too young, having sex before marriage, multiple partners, swearing, and so many other things. I don't think those things are making me go to hell any time soon. I still put in my volunteer hours to ear points to heaven.

Thanks for the support. Good luck to you--you sound like someone I'd love to go have a beer with (unless that's a sin too lol)

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 2:17 PM

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what is 10:40 talking about?
what is anyone talking about?
No wonder all these Christians are so fanatical. They get all confused and their minds go!
This thread is confusing me?
But at the end of the day, Christians - YOU are not the one making decisions about who goes where after death. Quote the bible all you want. I will come back with just as many quotes stating that YOU don't make God's decisions.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 2:19 PM

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Cheers 2:17! I'm raising my virtual beer to you!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 2:38 PM

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cheers to you too 2:38--i'm headed to happy hour with my work, so i'll toast you with my ice cold Amberbach beer.


you go 2:19! well said.

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 2:47 PM

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im hungrey!

Wow people! Yall have nothing better to do than sit around fussing about this?
It makes me tired!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 3:04 PM

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10:40 here I am also 5:56 on Tuesday

I didn't mean to Bible thump. Exactly the opposite. I was trying to point out to a previous poster that everyone has sin. Nobody is perfect. I don't think anybody should have brought religion into this without knowing what they are talking about. I still stick with my previous if everybody is good with it andnobody gets hurt have a good time!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 5:38 PM

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sleeping with my ex

Ain't no way!!!!!!!! So what if he is single, and I am, too. That relationship is over. If you don't feel comfortable with your appearance, you shouldn't be going to bed with someone. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are (extra lbs and all)!!!
I would rather go without sex, than have sex with the ex. Talk about confusing and getting stuck in the past! I am moving forward, not backward!

Wednesday, July 02, 2008, 7:51 AM

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Sex outside of marriage is a sin.

Wednesday, July 02, 2008, 4:02 PM

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Divorced over a year ago and still no desire to see him naked or to feel his horny little hands (or anything else) on my bod. Done that, move on. I am much happier without him and feel a lot more confident with myself now.

Isnt beer fattening?

Wednesday, July 02, 2008, 4:05 PM

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Saturday, September 12, 2009, 9:54 PM

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sleeping with ex-husband

We have been separated for three years now, but, legally married. He is currently living with his girlfriend. My religious views make having sex with another man out of the question. So my "ex" and I still are very intimate with eachother. He knows that I still need intimacy and was the one to initiate the reunion. We do not disclose this relationship to anyone. So even though it may be an unhealthy relationship, we both want it to continue and I have to admit that sex is even better now than when we were together.

Friday, April 02, 2010, 5:33 PM

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5:33 I'm confused. Your "religious beliefs" keep you from sleeping with another man but don't keep you from cheating with another woman's man? Sounds pretty off if you ask me.

Friday, April 02, 2010, 7:30 PM

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You are mistaken. We are still married so he is mine, not the other woman's. Though, I did say that ours is an unhealthy relationship. It doesn't help that having sex with him is, also, my very unselfish way of getting even with the other woman. Allow me to repeat myself, our relationship is unhealthy. We just had sex now and it was so intense. We just want to continue to give eachother sexual satisfaction.

Saturday, April 03, 2010, 4:58 AM

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I'm not mistaken, you are, or your "moral code" is. For one, you can't OWN a person ~ slavery went out in the 1800s For two, if he's living with someone, they are committed and you are, in fact, using him and morally bankrupt for taking someone from someone else. Just because you haven't bothered to file paperwork doesn't mean that he's "still yours." Hide behind religion to justify what you are doing. You have the morals of a horny cat and you're using religion as justification. That's just wrong.

Saturday, April 03, 2010, 8:40 AM

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Don't be too serious. This forum asked for anyone who has ventured in sleeping with exes. It just so happened that this is my situation and wanted to share my experience.

Sunday, April 04, 2010, 4:32 AM

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I don't have an issue with someone sleeping with their ex. I do have an issue with someone using religion as a justification to sleep with their ex who's already with someone else. That's a messed up moral compass if you ask me.

Sunday, April 04, 2010, 9:34 AM

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when people get married, and they say till death to us part, for better or worse., what do those words actually mean?

Tuesday, June 29, 2010, 9:08 AM

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For a lot of people -- evidently it means nothing.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010, 10:10 AM

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I married the love of my life in September 1979. For us it literally was until death do us part. He was killed in a car accident in January 2009. And I STILL feel married to him. I've dated several men since then, but not had sex with any of them because I didn't love any of them enough to feel like I 'm no longer married to my late husband.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010, 10:14 AM

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sex with the ex

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 2 years now and we still sleep together every now and then. I still to this day have not been with anyone else but him and I love being with him in bed. And I have a very powerful physical connection with him and I am scared to meet anyone else.

Any advise for a girl who is lonley and finds comfort in sleeping with her ex?

Please advise and thanks

Wednesday, May 04, 2011, 12:59 PM

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My ex and I always had "chemistry" from the moment we first saw each other. So when we broke up, it was a grey area.. until I found out about his mistake which he admitted to due to his guilt eating him up.
So I totally understand the comfort and security achieved from knowing each others bodies so well.. especially when they click... BUT usually there will be some sort of emotional strings still attached, and I'm not convinced that they are helpful for anyone to move on.

Wednesday, May 04, 2011, 7:11 PM

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Oh goodness no! Been there, done that. I don't go backwards in life, only forward...

Thursday, May 05, 2011, 10:44 AM

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Sleeping with the ex

My estranged husband and I split up 2 1/2 yes ago because he had a female friend that I was not wiling to compete with. I packed up and stayed away so the emotions could "heal". Healing took nine months of seeing them together. At this point I was ready for dialogue and we became good friends. A few months after this we started to engage in intermittent sexual escapades, only when I wanted to. They have since split up and we still have sex whenever we want to, but I am very clear that whilst we were always great partners sexually we are just not compatible on any other level other than FWB's. I know for a fact from friends and family he regrets the break up but actually that is not really my problem, this is all about me and my needs. So I do believe it is possible to have sex with the ex and suffer no emotional wounds. However this is only my opinion basis my situation.

Monday, July 25, 2011, 6:52 PM

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