critcal posting

I keep coming across posts that refer to previous posters as "crazy" or "pathetic" or "vindictive" ... some form of criticism that doesn't seem useful in the community ... respond to the post, not your perception of the poster .. people are generally asking for information or guidance, sharing information or guidance, or just trying tohave a conversation to keep themselves motivated .. you can disagree without being mean

Fri. Jan 20, 9:12am

I completely agree.

Friday, January 20, 2006, 9:13 AM

Yeah, keep those judgments in your head. Why feel compelled to put post them? It's making PT feel like an immature place, which is a disappointment.

Friday, January 20, 2006, 11:46 AM

Let's turn it around now. Right now. Thanks op.

Friday, January 20, 2006, 11:49 AM

AMEN!

Thanks OP! Just what I was thinking for the past couple of days! You put it beautifully!

Friday, January 20, 2006, 3:28 PM

So true

We can be more civil I guess and more understanding :)

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 8:31 AM

Exactly! I posted a thread for help and one of the responders tried to make me sound like I was obsessed with my looks and had some kind of disorder because I wanted to lose weight. I thought we were all here to lose weight and be healthy. Their post really made me feel bad. Some of the other posters chastised the vindictive poster for being so mean for no reason.

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 9:19 AM

hmmm

I don't think I have seen this at all! Maybe its because I dont always read through posts with long responses... but then again I have seen (and been the brunt of) someone's misunderstanding of what you are saying and responses which are not helpful.

Then again, sometimes people need a good kick in the pants and its what they are asking for. But, I agree that really agressively negative comments are not cool at all.

Sometimes, its those who seem overly self-righteous in their new found expertise on health, eating, and exercise which bug me- they seem to sometimes be the quickest to tell you how really you need to stop being vain, or insecure, or weak or whatever when maybe you actually need a strategy or tactical example of what to do- not a berative therapy session!!!

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 10:28 AM

Well, if we were all perfect.............We wouldn't need peertrainer would we? LOL!

Just ignore the advice that you don't ask for. I have read a couple of post that didn't appear to offer anything that would be useful.

So, you can ignore this if you choose! I won't be offended! LOL : )

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 11:40 AM

ITA. ignore is a good strategy. I leave a group when someone annoys me too.

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 11:55 AM

Ignore is definitely a good strategy - things tend to get even nastier when someone replies with like in kind. And perhaps if everyone ignores mean and nasty posts, those posters will stop writing (or change their ways).

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 12:19 PM

I had been thinking that as well... somehow posts about peanut butter or cardio turn into arguments that serve no purpose what so ever. thanks for bringing it up!

Tuesday, February 7, 2006, 5:32 PM

I don't think leaving a group just because of one person is good. I think it would be better to talk it out with that person and not make the situation worse.

Wednesday, February 8, 2006, 8:56 AM

i agree 100 percent. I cannot stand people saying bad stuff about you or posting stuff about the way you eat when they know nothing about it. For example i posted a thread on eating all raw because i have been doing it for a year now, and i got a couple remarks back saying that i am crazy why would you do that, and a couple other ones that just completely dragged me down when all i was asking for was suppport because i never get it from anybody around me. i think it is completely hurtful and meaningless to put that stuff on there.

Wednesday, February 8, 2006, 10:35 AM

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