Gym or Singles bar?????

I'm single and will soon start dating again. I've been looking for ways to meet people other than internet since I'll already be doing that and bars are not my scene. Some of the suggestions I've seen mention "join a gym...". I don't get that. When I go to the gym I just want to keep to myself and from looks of it at the gym, so does everyone else. Its mostly headphones and sweaty people not socializing. I've read some threads on here about annoying gym habits. From the threads, again, it seems most people want to work out and be left alone. Has anyone here met their partner at the gym?

Sat. Dec 15, 5:34pm

I think there's a difference b/t meeting someone at the gym and going to the gym for the express purpose of meeing someone. I think you can still do your thing, be around other people who are there to do their thing and still meet someone.

I've struck up several casual gym acquaintances at my gym - and it only happens if I kind of step out of my box and talk to people - about working out, or something else relevant going on. It's organic, not forced. I don't know. I've read those threads, too. If you want to be left alone - I'm sure no one will bother you! But if you open yourself up to it, it can certainly happen without it being forced or creepy.

To answer your question- I didn't meet my husband at the gym, but I wouldn't have run away from him if I had!

Sunday, December 16, 2007, 6:25 PM

Maybe find a gym that offers classes that create interaction - I used to belong to a gym that had a boxing class and several rock climbing classes. You'd be sure to meet guys in either of those. But, join because you think it'd be fun, not because you're looking for a boyfriend. In fact, the same goes for any activity you engage in. If you are doing it solely to try and find "the one," you will almost definitely be disappointed.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 7:04 PM

How NOT to do it

I once had some idiot shout at me until I took my headphones off when I was speedwalking on the treadmill and plugged into an episode of Las Vegas. I only responded because I was the only person in that part of the gym and thought he was a staff member warning me that the gym was about to close or something. I took off my headphones and he was like "so...you've been on that thing a while, burning lots of fat, workin' on that body, good for you". My first thought (I'm a bit prickly about this) was that he was targeting me because way too many men believe that chubby chicks are desperate for attention and will do anything, and here I was in the gym, alone, at 11pm on a Friday. Hah. Anyway, I managed to brush him off, got the 'phones back on, and he proceeded to grunt his head off doing ab work trying to get me to look.

Hint to all men: the word "fat" should NEVER be your opening sales pitch.

However, I'm assuming you are a girl. I'm afraid that, unless you're very careful and clever about it, your approaches will be interpreted as purely sexual interest. After all, it's the gym, where people go to make their bodies look better. Even if it doesn't seem like a sexual atmosphere to you, it is for a surprising number of men. I've even seen two, on separate occasions, pick up used towels left behind by cute girls and sniff them. Better than the spin bike seats I guess, but come on!

Monday, December 17, 2007, 11:26 PM

op here

Hi ya'll. I'm not out looking for a boyfriend right now. I was just picking your brains to see what other people experience and to see how other people feel while at the gym. I don't see it as a place to meet many people. At least in my gym, there is very minimal talking.

I had a similar experience as the previous poster. I was at the same gym and this dude said my body was just the right size and I should keep doing what ever I was doing (it was my first day at the gym so I'd just started my weight loss regimine). I really appreciated the compliment. On the other hand, I felt uncomfortably embarrassed. I'm self conscious while working out. I'm sure most people are.

That's gross about guys who smell the towels. UGH! Really!!!!

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 3:45 PM

I hate talking to people at the gym. My wife and I can be on treadmills right next to each other and we'll both be listening to our own Ipods, each in our own little world.

I can't even imagine trying to meet someone at the gym.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 3:56 PM

I think that was what some of the other pps were saying - don't try...but I wouldn't rule it out just b/c it's a gym.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 5:39 PM

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