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I'm so fat....

I have recently found this site and don't even know where to start. After years of denial I realized that I have become a very fat person, really by standards an obese person. I'm feeling sort of helpless and don't know where to start. I have terrible habits but am so tired of being this big fatty I don't even recognize anymore. I finally faced myself in the mirror and on the scale and just about had a heart attack. I am 26, 5'2 and weigh 235 pounds, my body doesn't even look like my own, I needed to know what size I actually was and finally fit into a size 22. I know it sounds strange but I don't even know how I became this fat, I look in the mirror and don't even see myself, I certainly don't feel this big. So where do I start? Do I start learning portion control, giving up everything? How does one start on this sort of journey? I so don't want to be swallowed up in this weight and the way I'm going I feel like I can easily become a 400 pound person because of this heavy depression I am in. Any help would be appreciated.

Fri. Dec 14, 9:49pm

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First of all, here's a big hug from me to you. I feel your pain..

And second, it sounds like you have already've taken the first very difficult steps and had a "reckoning" with reality. That's tough and if you're tough enough to do that you WILL be successful at losing weight.

I have found the Beck diet solution very helpful..I'd recommend getting a copy this weekend if you can to get you started right away. It's not the kind of book that you need to read in one will walk you through, day by day, getting in touch with what hunger really feels like and how to manage emotions that come up during the process. I'd also recommend "the Solution" by Laurel Mellin.

So if you do anything this weekend, get yourself to a bookstore and check these out! Hang in're doing great!

Friday, December 14, 2007, 10:35 PM

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I feel your pain too! I was 5'4" & 238 lbs at my heaviest. I didnt see it in the mirror either. But in pictures i sure did! Now I am down to 207 and continuing to lose weight. I think Weight watchers is a good diet to start with because it teaches you portion control. You can do it! You have already found Peer Trainer. Just keep coming on here & logging your food & everyday will get better. Good Luck!

Friday, December 14, 2007, 11:03 PM

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I also agree with getting your hands on the Beck Diet Solution. It's the mental work that goes into your new lifestyle change. I first checked it out from my local library. Now I am going to buy it as reference for lifelong maintenance.

Baby steps. Change one behavior at a time. It will happen. We didn't get here over night.

Good luck to you! I'm glad you landed here! It will happen for you!

Friday, December 14, 2007, 11:07 PM

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Hi and welcome!

Many folks do find reading helpful to gain an understanding of good nutrition, portions, different types of foods to focus on/eliminate, etc. However that's not where I would start.

You are starting on a journey and you are only realizing that you need to 'go somewhere', but where do you want to end up and how do you want to get there? And most importantly where are you now? and how did you get to 'here'?

IMO you need to log. Find out where you are by putting it down where you can read it. Then look at what your bad habits are, what good things you do and what changes you could make that would have an impact but not require painful changes and start there. You balance you checkbook by looking at what you've been spending and then you forcast the future based on the past and your current income and you make a budget based on that. Same thing with food. How can you get where you're going if you don't know where you are? How can other people give you meaningful directions if they don't know where you are coming from?

Log log log. Read while you log if you like and see if you can identify a weight loss philosophy that you can get onboard with. Personally I don't go for any of them. I spent a good several weeks weighing every ounce of food and counting calories until I knew what a balanced, well-portioned diet looked like. I've lost my weight and am maintaining. I kept track of it all in my log. Often just knowing you have to log it makes you more mindful.

Best wishes to you! Losing weight is a journey that I used to think was just about pounds, but along the way I gained strength, confidence, knowledge and a whole new outlook on life and how I wanted to live. I hope that you are able to find your way as well.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 12:06 AM

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I like what the above poster said. But I also will add that you need to find out why you gained the weight? What drives you to eat? What hole are you filling? You won't be successful unless you figure that out and then try to find a healthy thing to replace it. Good luck.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 12:26 AM

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I've been there to. At my heaviest I was 240 at 5'3 and it was like I never knew I was getting so big until I had to get a dress for a formal event. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks and made me really face myself. How did I get like that? I think you really need to dig deeper and figure out why you eat the way you do and what triggers it. You've taken the first step in realizing what you have so now you just need to take baby steps and start changing your patterns. I started on WW and it really helped me. If its something you can afford I would suggest looking into it. My first 6 months I lost 33 pounds and it made me more motivated. I think it sounds like you need some motivation right now so find it where you can. Good luck and keep us posted.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 2:12 AM

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I'm another woman who can relate...I agree with everything that has been posted so far but I have one thing to add. Please consider going to some kind of therapy. I was in a really awful place a year ago and I couldn't bring myself to do anything other than eat and watch tv in bed. I was already obese, and I just became more so. I've been going to therapy since the beginning of the year and it has really been an important part of my weight loss plan (I've lost 35 lbs so far). You mention that you are very depressed and that's why I think you might benefit from therapy as well. It really helps to have someone to talk to.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 7:43 AM

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OP here thanks for the comments. I was afraid that I would get mean, nasty replies but so far none. I hadn't thought of what I've done so far as taking that first step. Probably because 7:43 is right, I am depressed and all I seem to have the energy for right now is laying in bed and wallowing in my self pity, and of course eating. I am going to take your advice and look into finding a therapist and checking out WW. I knew someone years ago who did WW and it worked for her and she lost over 60 pounds. Its just really hard to face reality and see what I've done to myself and it feels even harder to do something about it right now. I live in a city where I have no family and only a few friends but I don't even see them that often so I feel pretty alone. I will go out today and get a few books from the library. A few of you have mentioned the beck diet, I will look into that. I think I will walk to the library since it is only about a mile away, I guess thats a start. ThANK YOU!

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 1:48 PM

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Just curious...

Why did you expect to get mean, nasty replies? If you do happen to get some like that, please don't give them the satisfaction of acknowledging their pettiness! Best of luck to you on your journey. Stick around PEERtrainer and you will certainly find lots of support and lots of very interesting people.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 2:08 PM

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1st... welcome... 2nd congrats for make the decision to make a change. All the previous recommendations are all great. Just remember that this will be a long journey, at time frustrating, and occasionally seems furtile. As long as you persist, take the baby steps [no matter how small it might seems to you]. you wil see the change. and, if you fell off wagon at times, do not hate yourself for it, shake it off, but keep on going... Believe in yourself and do not give up, ever. We will all be here to give you, and each other, the support to reach our finish line.

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 5:09 PM

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Its refreshing to see a thread with nothing but positive input. I can totally relate. I started my journey almost 3 years ago and have lost 110 pounds. And believe me I was queen of laziness and a total junk food junkie. I was 280 pounds before I decided to do something about my problem. I still have 35 more to go but I will get there. Its not something that will change in a month or two, there are no quick fixes, it took years to get to where I was and it took years to take it off. Some days were easy, some hard but just keep plodding through and keep in mind what you want out of all this. After all besides looking great there are many other things. Like doing things you never did before cause you feared them, feeling better, being able to walk up a flight of steps, not having 100+ pounds grinding down on your joints. Feeling successful. I think once you lose that first 10-20 pounds you will find you suddenly are excited and will have the motivation to keep going. Just remember it will take time and a commitment to yourself. I hope you did walk to the library today and I hope you join WW, they have helped a lot of people, me included, and its not that much money. It is a great support source for me. Good luck!

Saturday, December 15, 2007, 10:04 PM

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Where do you start? Well I think its important to not jump in and go all out crazy overnight. Start with small things first. Start walking to more places, start by cutting your portion sizes, try to cut back on the junk and replace it with healthy stuff, or start by joining something like WW or JC or any type of support place. I'm, not saying do all this at once but choose one thing and stick with it until your comfortable and then incorporate another thing. That way it has a better chance of become a habit and lifestyle change rather then what your doing now.

Sunday, December 16, 2007, 2:52 AM

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Also remember "Rome was not built in a day." Or eating and being healthy is a process, you don't wake up one day and do everything healthy from now on. Over time, you will start living a healthy lifestyle, but most important, don't beat yourself up if you go off the wagon. I can remember when I used to eat a whole bag of cookies, now I can't even imagine eating a few. Trust us, you will change but it is gradual thing. Just don't give up, you can do it.

Sunday, December 16, 2007, 6:29 AM

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OP your thread is right where I am at. I am trying to get back in the swing of thigns but it's like "Oh my God, how did I get this fat? Is this really me?" I completely understand you. I have no suggestions at this point since you and I are in the same boat, but I thank you for your thread and the responses people have given.

Sunday, December 16, 2007, 11:13 AM

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Do one thing at a time. What do you think you need first? From what I can tell it sounds like you might need some support and motivation so I would suggest the first thing you do is join something like WW or another place that offers that support. Then you just take it one day at a time and slowly start incorporating things you can change. Maybe you walk to the library after work every day, make something so it will become a habit. All it takes is the want, and it sounds like you are ready to change things. And remember, you know exactly how you became the fat person you are today and you know what you need to do to change that but it is going to take small steps and the want.

Sunday, December 16, 2007, 11:22 AM

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Maybe you should get off your fat ass and start doing something about it if your so unhappy. For starters stop stuffing your face and get your fat body in motion. Its in your power and control to change the way you feel and look so don't wait until you've eaten your way to that 400 pound woman. Imagine how crappy you'd feel then, you should take lots of pictures of yourself naked so it is a reminder of what you don't want to look like.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 2:29 AM

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2:29, Thanks so much for giving such a wonderful example of the kind of unsupportive comment I'm sure the OP was afraid of. We really appreciate your help. Have a nice day!

Monday, December 17, 2007, 5:45 AM

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I bet 2:29 is also battling her own issues. Only someone bitter and nasty would make a comment like that.

OP just ignore her and others like her. You concentrate on you and you will find the strength that you need to start your journey. Just remember it will be a long road filled with pot holes but also successes. Start small and just keep going from there.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 2:09 PM

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All the positive feedback your getting is good stuff. You have already taken the first big step and that is facing what you now know. So next you just need to start changing some things. Don't get all gon ho but choose to make smaller changes. Like make yourself go for a walk after work or in the morning, choose lean meat over fatty, junky stuff. Stop eating fast food and start cooking for yourself more if that is an issue. If you drink soda of any kind stop and start replacing it with water. You can do this, it sounds like you want it enough. And I agree that you should join something where you can get the support you need.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 7:09 PM

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The pathetic poster earlier is obviously very disturbed. Seek help.

OP, you are in the right place. Take the support and leave the baggage some posters feel the need to deposit here. That's a whole different type of issue that they need to seek professional help for or they will be that miserable forever.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 9:20 PM

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How to Loose Weight

Read the articles on this site, most notably How to Loose weight.

They're a big help.

Monday, December 17, 2007, 9:46 PM

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I am in the same boat with you!!!

I just turned 25 last summer and I am 5'2 and to me I am in the haviest stage in my life. I weigh 157... I really know what you mean by" I dont know how I got this big." Recognizing the you have gained weight is a really big step to start losing weight. It took me awhile to relize it. How I relized that I was gaining weight was trying to fit in to these jeans that I had when I was around 135 and I had to lay on my bed and try to shove myself into them and still couldn't get into them. That was depressing.

What I have started to do is write down what I have ate (journal). Another thing is.. I would give up on something.. for example.. I wanted to give up on pop.. because pop is really bad for you and once you tell yourself that you have given up on pop find another thing that you want to give up on.. maybe sweet stuff..... That helps you lose weight and gain some self control. Another thing is that join a gym.. it helps if you have a partner to join with you. It makes it a lot easier.... and it's fun! That's what I am doing and really it works for me and like I said it give you self control. Hope this helps you out!!!

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 10:50 AM

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OP here, after a few days of feeling my self pity and stuffing my face and reading all these comments I am feeling a bit better. Yes, I am fat but it could also be worse, I could be that 400 pound woman. So yesterday Looked in a phone book and found a WW about 5 blocks from my house, so i am going tonight to see how it is. I will fill you all in later.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 11:33 AM

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congratulations on a first step! Any first step is great! If you can begin logging in your food into Peertrainer - that would be a great next step. Good luck!

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 12:13 PM

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God I remember that feeling all to well. It was like overnight I woke up and realized how fat I had gotten. 4 years ago I was 278 pounds, on a 5'3 body that is huge. I remember just waking up one morning and realizing that as I got out of bed my belly was laying on my thighs, which forced me to look in the mirror and it was like seeing myself for the first time. Who the hell was this obese woman looking back at me, how did I allow myself to become so fat? I didn't even recognize myself. Of course after wallowing and almost reaching the 300 pound mark I finally stopped feeling sorry for myself and started changing some things. First thing I did was join WW, after a few month I had lost 26 pounds and started feeling like I was going to be able to do this. Now 4 years later I am 142 pounds, I lost 156 pounds in the last 4 years. It was hard work and a few times I gave up, but I stuck to it and I finally look like the person I felt I was all the pounds ago. I still have 6 more to go but I will get there. So my advice to you is the same as everyone else. Get some support so you don't feel like your alone, WW is a good start. Then take it one day at a time and know there are going to be ups and downs along the way. Don't get discouraged and keep on plodding along. And remember slow and steady wins the race! Good luck girl, you can do this.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007, 7:29 PM

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You will do it!

Hi OP! Let me start by saying that I completely believe you can and will lose weight if you decide to. Okay? Okay.

I had the same exact feeling of unhappiness and helplessness when I started. But you just have to take it one day at a time. Read a lot of articles about weight loss... on here, or through Googling and Wiki-ing and magazines like Shape. Just educate yourself. Begin to think of your body as what it is - a machine that is getting bogged down by all that fat. Its not a reflection on you as a person, its not about appearance... in the end, you simply need to free your body of the fat and return to the healthy state it should be in. So begin to learn how to healthily do that. And start LOGGING. Its so critical! Log everything you eat and all your exercise. Even if you can't exercise much, a walk around your block is a great first step. And join a lot of groups and teams and become active. Not every one will be active but if you try a lot a few will stick and that is all you need to keep you motivated! The accountability that comes with groups is really important, so don't think you can do it all alone.

Good luck girl. Can't wait to see you on the other side of this!


Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 2:04 AM

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Yup I know the feeling. It wasn't so long ago that I also went through something similar. At 5'4 and 210 pounds I couldn't believe how fat I had become and it was like I never even saw the gain. I started on my journey about 5 months ago after my wake up call and so far have lost 26 pounds, its not much but I definitely can see a difference and I am down almost 2 sizes so I am happier. My goal is another 45 -50 pounds. But I have learned I can't look at the big picture, for me I need to take small steps, so I set my goal at 5 pounds and once I'm there I do another 5 pounds. It makes it seem more attainable and I know I can lose 5 pounds without a ton of work. I have been counting cals and fat and walking mainly. I have cut out soda and juices and eat way more fruit then I used to. You can do this, it seems like you have already started. Just pick realistic goals and take small steps and you'll get there.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 10:53 AM

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You can do it! Set one small goal per week, and build on it from there. The most important thing I could tell you is: No matter how many times you fall, keep getting up. There are going to be ups and there are going to be downs...just keep going!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 11:20 AM

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OP here, so I took the plunge and joined WW last night. I was comforted to know that I wasn't the biggest in the room and everyone was friendly. There were only about 12 people in the meeting and only about 2 of them were my age. But it felt good to see that I am not alone. The point system seems easy enough and I don't even have to give up everything I enjoy so that to me is a plus. I started it last night and feel pretty upbeat about it. The best thing is, is that the meetings are only 7 blocks from my home so I can walk there and back and that will get my walk in for that day anyway. I understand that you can go to as many meeting in the week as you want, so I might even go a few nights a week.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 12:06 PM

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Way to go, OP!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 2:16 PM

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Good for you OP! Now you are very well on your way to becoming the person you want to be. The control is up to you. Lets us know how things are going.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007, 8:40 PM

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Way to go, OP!

Way to go, OP!

Thursday, December 20, 2007, 4:45 AM

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Yay for everyone taking action to becoming healthier!

Friday, December 21, 2007, 12:16 PM

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Well exactly how do you think you got so fat? You think the fat fairy came around and bam you woke up one morning 100 pounds heavier? 100 pounds doesn't just sneak up on you, you know when you getting bigger and bigger. I can understand putting on 10 pounds and not really realizing but 100? Come on and all you women saying the same thing, how did this happen? Well it happened because you sat on your fat asses and stuffed your big fat bellies and faces and did nothing but sit around and get obese. Its good you had whatever wake up call you did, I can't imagine someone eating themselves into a 400 pound body that can't be comfortable for anyone. I hope you succeed and don't ever go back to that big fatty in denial!

Sunday, December 23, 2007, 2:06 PM

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12:26 here

I don't think those comments are necessary.

Sunday, December 23, 2007, 2:38 PM

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When someone offers their judgement, it reflects their own ideas and has little to do with who or what they are judging. Can you imagine what it is to live in this persons skin for a day!

Sunday, December 23, 2007, 3:15 PM

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Sometimes I wish PT would put the person's name in here as is done in our groups. The anonimity allows some folks cruel side a venue. I can only suppose these cruel people are unhappy in their lives and they suscribe to 'misery loves company'.

Sunday, December 23, 2007, 4:07 PM

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2:06 is an ass clearly. I also think its a man. I totally understand how you can just one day realize you've gotten really fat. At some point you stop caring about clothes so you start buying the horrible stretchy ones that just allow you to grow into them. Thats what happened to me. I just kept getting bigger stretchy clothes, at first I would convince myself that they shrunk, right after 3 dozen washes, hows that. Finally one day I had to buy a dress for a wedding and realized that I couldn't fit into anything off the rack in the misses dept. So I slinked into womens and found that I couldn't even fit into a 22, it was when I squeezed myself into a 24 that I sat there and cried. Crazy I know but that was my wake up call. I knew I had gained weight but I had no clue how much, all I knew was the last time I actually bought a decent pair of pants I was a size 14 and that had been 2 years before this point. I went up 5 sizes for me that was like 75-85 pounds> I was so big I couldn't believe it and then you have to face the scale, weighing in at 257 pounds was like a nightmare. I didn't feel that fat but I was. I have managed to lose 75 pounds so far and still have another 40 to go but I will get there. What helped me was to take very candid photos of myself and it kept me motivated. I so don't want to be that fat girl. So you can do this. A lot of us here have done it or are still doing it. FInd what works for you and go with it.

Monday, December 24, 2007, 2:10 AM

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I appreciate your post 2:06. I saw myself. It really is like someone or something "wakes us up." We really are in some kind of unconscious waking-sleep. Thank you so much for starting this thread OP it is very heart felt and revealing.

Monday, December 24, 2007, 9:04 AM

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It is hard to believe that anyone can gain a lot of weight and not see it happening. I used to think it was impossible myself, until I realized that I am one of those people. About 8 months ago I got out of the shower and realized how completely foreign my body looked to me. It was puffy and loose, doughy almost and rolls where there used to be none. I stepped on a scale later that day and realized I had gained a good 50 pounds over the course of about a year and a half. Thats a lot of weight. I had been slightly chubby before but now I was just fat. As I was getting dressed I also realized most of my clothes were dark and sort of frumpy and all the pants had elastic on the bands. I did make the decision to start a diet and not look like that anymore. I am down almost 4 pounds and still want to lose another 30. But I think its important for people who don't have a big weight problem to understand that most of the time that is how it happens. You get a glimpse of yourself some where, a mirror, a photo, where ever and you suddenly realize just how fat you look. Lots of people live in denial about all kinds of things so why should weight be any different. When I finally realized that I was fat I remember thinking that I just don't feel like I look like that. So OP I hope you are excited and successful about your journey. I think joining WW was a great idea. I wish you lots of luck. And to the 2:06 poster I am sure that you have flaws to, we all do but it is apparent your biggest flaw is lack of respect and compassion for other peoples feelings. I bet you don't have many friends.

Monday, December 24, 2007, 10:51 AM

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9:04 here. I meant thanks to 2:10.

Monday, December 24, 2007, 11:17 AM

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I think I know who 10:51 is and I think she meant she is down 40 pounds not 4.

Monday, December 24, 2007, 4:10 PM

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Op I was wondering with the holidays now behind us how it is going for you and the WW? I think thats a huge undertaking, joining WW before the holidays. I think most people would have said they would join after the new year. So tell us how it is going and how you feel?

Thursday, December 27, 2007, 10:41 AM

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OP here, thanks for asking 10:41. My first week is over and I am feeling good. I feel excited and like I can do this. I weighed in on Wed and was totally thrilled to see I lost 4.6 pounds. That seems huge to me for one week. I have been walking every day and this diet is not hard at all. I am excited to see how I will be doing come a few months from now.

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 1:46 AM

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12:26 here
Wow congrats! That's so awesome!

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 2:07 AM

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darling, I could have written your post! I am also 26, 5'2, and have gone from a size 22 (high weight of 234) to a size 16 (current weight 202). II always felt like I had reverse - anorexia - I'd look in the mirror and still saw a normal weight body. But I wasn't, and am still not (YET!) swear to you, it can be done and you can do it. Personally, I read Eat to Live and Skinny Bitch and it's working for me, though it's not everyone's style. Find what works for you. Judith Beck has an AMAZING book "how to think like a thin person" that truly works miracles. Good luck, keep up 'posted' (LOL), and you'll get there!!!

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 2:19 AM

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i feel exactly how you do... I weighed myself and saw myself at 200lbs at 5'2"...
it was a really shocking how I let myself go to this point.. every month I try to get myself in place to go for it... its really hard when your used to old habits...

I am also greatful everyone's comments its very motivating. Thank you..

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 6:14 AM

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I agree this is probably one of the most nasty free comments on the board, except for a few bad apples. COngrats! 4.6 pounds is an awesome first week. I think at first, maybe for the next month you will see a pretty decent loss every week, but it will slow down and when it does don't get discouraged. Even if you lose 1 pound a week that is an achievement. And don't forget WW motto, Slow and steady wins the race.

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 11:20 AM

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OP - keep up the good work - we're behind you all the way. Keep posting your progress - it will motivate us all!

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 4:14 PM

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i know exactly how you all feel. For a while, i just ate and ate and didn't really think i was going to gain so much weight, but then after looking at myself in pictures, and realizeing my clothes were getting to small for me, i finnaly came to conclusion that i was fat.

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 1:09 AM

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Its like all our stories are the same story. Its nice to see I'm not alone out here. I am 29, 5'4 and have always been chunky but after high school steadily gained 10 pounds every year. Finally I had to stop lying to myself and admit I was really obese not just fat. I weighed 286 pounds before I admitted this. I had a breakdown of sorts when I finally did and gained another 10 pounds before I stopped feeling sorry for myself. Now a year after starting my journey I am down 55 pounds but still have a long way to go, about another 100 pounds. I don't look at the big picture, I set my goals at realistic sights and aim for 5-10 pound increments, that way they are attainable. I just recently started working out which was hard to do before losing the 55 pounds. I figure if I just keep at it it will take me another 2 years and that is fine with me.

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 10:57 AM

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I think my pivotal moment came when my ex squeezed the large roll of fat hanging off my belly and the side of my boob and declared he liked the way it felt but didn't care for how it looked. It made me realize that when i sat my belly sat on more then half my lap, when I stood it definitely had a big hang to it that almost covered my pubic area. Gross I know. How do we not realize we are getting so fat? I don't know, whether it be denial, or just not caring I don't know how I got to where I was. I had gained a lot of weight really fast. About 80 pounds in 9 or 10 months, I think that is why my belly hung the way it did, it wasn't a slow gradual gain. I also believe my boyfriend at the time was the cause. He loved taking me out and would always encourage me to eat, even when I was full. I remember him always bringing me sweets and decadent things and feeding me, I think he was slightly sick in that way. After his comment I dumped him and started my diet or changed my habits. I managed to lose about 65 pounds and am still working on the last 20 but I still have some extra skin that drapes at the bottom of my belly, anyone know how to get rid of that besides cutting it off?

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 11:40 AM

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I wished I had learned what I know now when I was younger. I never really got to enjoy a beautiful body, and I had one for short periods of time, but simply did not know how to enjoy my many life issues that I could not figure out. Now I feel young inwardly and I am at a normal weight but there are some things that can't we fixed with losing weight. Ah well, enjoy today.

For the first time in my life I have found some real joy in just "moving". I use to sit on the couch and wonder why I felt so tired. Now, I know! It's from sitting around so much. Duh! LOL

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 11:49 AM

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LOL, 11:40. I am with you right there. I want to just cut that flabby hang there off too! :)

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 9:40 PM

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I'm right there with you honey. I got on the scale for the first time in over 2 years a few months ago and saw that I weighed 270 pounds. I am 5'1 and had been living in some major denial for years. I knew I had gotten pretty heavy but I had no idea how fat. I realized that I was almost as big around as I am tall. Everything hurt, my joints, back, ankles, the list goes on and on. I couldn't even walk for 15 min without being out of breath. I started WW also and in the last 2 months have lost 18 pounds. I am pretty excited about it as well. My plan for this year is to get under 200, at least another 53 pounds, I think thats pretty realistic. I wish you lots of luck and keep us posted.

Wednesday, January 02, 2008, 3:08 AM

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Omg i think i say this to myself everyday

Everyday I look at myself in the mirror and I can't believe how much weight I've gained over the past year. I'm 19 almost 20, 5'6" and 200lbs. Most of my friends are losing weight, but not in a way that I can do. (They're in dorms and they dont have money to buy food so they make food lasts for more than one or even two meals, I live at home and food is always available and its not exactly the best food to eat). This new year comes with a new motivation and determination. it might sound corny but i am more determined than ever to lose weight. i want to be able to go into a store and easily find a size in jeans or a dress that i like.

Wednesday, January 02, 2008, 9:17 AM

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Kind of OT

But re: "i want to be able to go into a store and easily find a size in jeans or a dress that i like. "

I've gone from a 16/18 to a 10/12 and now that I'm average my size is almost never in stock. I know, I know, not exactly a bad problem to have, but it was so much easier to just grab the last hanger on the rack (where the 16/18s are). Now I have to fish in the middle and it goes 6, 8, seems like the average sizes are never there!

Wednesday, January 02, 2008, 10:38 AM

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Op it has been almost 2 weeks how are you doing? I started WW Dec. 1st and have already lost 10 pounds!! This is the best diet yet. Its easy and you don't ever have to feel like you can't have something. I have 35 more pounds to go and I am hoping by summer I will be there.

Thursday, January 03, 2008, 12:52 PM

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Op here, thanks for asking 12:52. I weighed in this week and was down another 2.4 pounds. So 7 pounds in 2 weeks is great I think. I can't wait until my next weigh in.I know I can do this for a long time. It seems easy and I haven't once felt hungry.

Thursday, January 03, 2008, 10:12 PM

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Congrats OP - that's a fantastic start! J

Thursday, January 03, 2008, 10:42 PM

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Thats awesome OP! Keep up the good work, I bet in a few months you'll have dropped your 10% or at least get pretty close.

Friday, January 04, 2008, 5:06 PM

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4 months ago i was do some late night shopping and I was at the counter paying for my stuff when I looked out the window and caught a reflection of myself. I remember being a bit stunned, I looked like a fat, frumpy, unhappy woman. I went home and looked at myself in the mirror, I didn't like what I saw at all. I remember thinking how did I get this big, when did this happen, I hardly recognized myself. The next day I went out and bought a scale, something I never owned and hadn't gotten on in over 6 years. I weighed 258 pounds, I am 5' and 29 years old, of course single. Right then and there I vowed that I was not going to go on looking like that. I felt so incredibly fat and old. Needless to say that feeling stayed with me and I did do something about it. Now I am down 32 pounds and still have a long way to go but I will get there. If I can do it anyone can. I started with just small things and worked my way up. Even though I've only lost 32 pounds I feel better about myself on a daily basis, and that makes all the difference in the world.

Saturday, January 05, 2008, 2:37 AM

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What a great thread

I can relate as well. I totally agree about the stretchy clothes. I didn't even know what size I was before I started PT. And I think the sizes today are running bigger than they did 5 years ago. Ever sinced fashioned intro-ed the double 00, the other sizes to have gotten bigger.

Once I get to my goal weight, I'm going to have to monitor it weekly. I don't ever want to gain more than 5-7 lbs beyond my goal again. Anyways thanks for the motivation.

Keep up the good work everyone!

Saturday, January 05, 2008, 2:59 AM

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2:37 "Even though I've only lost 32 pounds"?? Girl are u crazy??!!That is a huge accomplishment!!! Congrats on losing that much!!! That is 32 pounds you will never have to deal with again. Never say "only"!! Even one pound is an accomplishment!!! Keep up the good work!!!

Saturday, January 05, 2008, 10:01 AM

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I have to agree with almost everyone here (I don't agree, with the few bad apples) that I had no idea I had gotten as fat as I had.

I was a size 1 when I was in college, and then my father (I was an only child, and my mom died when I was 14) died when I was 18 years old. I started eating because food was the only thing that would not leave me.

I too would look in a mirror, and see that same small girl staring back at I progressed through size after size until I ended up at 406 pounds. I could not move, I was depressed, and I quit taking care of myself. I opted for gastric bypass surgery (and no, I am not saying everyone should go that route, that is what I had to do to save my life) and have lost 190 pounds.

However, I still have weight to lose, and I still struggle with it daily. OP, I am so glad that weight watchers is working for you! Keep up the good work. And to everyone else, I know that we can do this..we are all here together for each other!

Saturday, January 05, 2008, 10:22 AM

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OP Remember to tell yourself - when you look in the mirror and don't feel comfortable with what you see - that you are working on weight loss now and pat yourself on the back for getting started and progressing. We have so many things that factor in to weight gain as women hormones, child-bearing, metabolism to name a few. Couple that with the day to day stresses of life and it can happen so easily to gain weight and not realize it. I think we get to that point sometimes because we are busy in our lives and living day to day knowing we are gaining some and because we have not put ourselves first and decided to take on the weight issue yet it does creep up. Keep up the good work OP and everyone- Here's to a healthier 08 for us all!

Saturday, January 05, 2008, 10:51 AM

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Quick update, it has been 3 weeks and I have lost 9.8 pounds! I can't believe it almost 10 pounds in under a month. I know that the loss will slow down a bit but I feel good about everything right now. This is the best thing I could have done for myself. I even made a new friend from WW and we get together 2x a week and walk for an hour. Amazing at how much quicker the time goes by when you have a partner to workout with. Thank you all for your stories and being so supportive.

Thursday, January 10, 2008, 1:05 AM

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Congratulations OP!!!! I'm so glad to hear you're doing well. Keep it up!

Thursday, January 10, 2008, 7:32 AM

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My advice to you would be find the nearest Weigh Watchers meetings and go. While Peertrainer is great and will help you so much, face to face meetings are so much more. Weight watchers has changed my life and it will yours too. Good luck and try out the meetings.

Thursday, January 10, 2008, 10:31 AM

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Oh, I just read where you are going to WW meetings Best Choice that you could make.....Good Luck... You will Love yourself for that choice!!!

Thursday, January 10, 2008, 10:34 AM

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Update I went to my meeting early this week and have lost 12.2 pounds total. I feel great. Its only been a month and I assume my loss will slow down a bit from here. Thank you everyone for your stories and support.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 3:14 PM

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Wow! That is awesome!! Keep up the good work!
How do you feel? More energy etc. ?

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 3:21 PM

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Wow! That is awesome!! Keep up the good work!
How do you feel? More energy etc. ?

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 3:21 PM

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That's fantastic! I'm so proud of you! Keep it up!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 4:12 PM

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Just wanted to point out - 12.2 lbs is more than 5% of your total body weight! You've already lost 1/20 of yourself!

So awesome!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 4:51 PM

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I am a fan of the tapes by Richard Simmons. My favorites are the Toning Downtown and Toning Uptown.

A good place to start is to get moving.

ANY routine exercise...a little walk around the block...will start adding up.

Just find some easy/moderate activity and STICK TO IT!

The results will come...probably the first thing will be that you'll start to FEEL a little better.

Please keep us posted.

Tammy Lou

Friday, February 01, 2008, 1:42 PM

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Thanks Tammy, I am happy with how things are going so far. It will be easy for me to keep this up and change my life around. So far I have lost 16.6 pounds and I am starting to feel good again. I still have a long way to go but I know with time I will get there. The loss has slowed down a bit but thats ok, I can feel my clothes getting baggy which is nice considering they were tight. I just wish I had done WW and started this journey long before now but I guess you just have to get to a certain point before you realize how you've been living in denial.

Saturday, February 02, 2008, 11:53 AM

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Wow! What a great thread! OP You have done fantastic! Keep working at it and you will realize your dreams. Another great book that's a cheap/quick read is The Fat Smash diet by Dr. Ian Smith. I've added a link so you can read a little about it here on Peertrainer. It helped me loose 35 lbs in about 5 months. I never feel hungry or deprived. Definitely keep going to WW though. I'm glad you found a friend IRL to help you through but you'll always have PT to get support from as well. Fantastic - so proud of you!

PS: There's a special place in hell for the nasties that posted earlier. >: {


Saturday, February 02, 2008, 1:02 PM

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Update, It has now been a little over 2 months and I am doing great. I have lost 19.5 pounds. I recently incorporated some of the fat smash diet into my WW and it seems to have kicked up my loss. I am 5 pounds away from my 10%

Friday, February 15, 2008, 2:03 PM

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Wow - are for real?

That is absolutly incredible, good for you !!!

Friday, February 15, 2008, 2:53 PM

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Congratulations!!!!! Keep it up!

Friday, February 15, 2008, 4:05 PM

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Its been 3 months now and I am down 26 pounds. I have upped my exercise and sort of incorporated more core foods into my program which I have found to be easier, now I just count the non core foods. I have already went down 2 sizes which I am thrilled about but am still not happy with how big I am. I am looking forward to getting under 200 pounds and the rest of my journey towards my 130 - 140 pound goal.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008, 9:25 AM

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12month update OP?

Hi! This has been a great thread to read even a year after (except for the 3 nasties!) - I would love to get an update from OP - how are you doing a year on?

This has been very motivating for me - i have about 40lbs to lose.

Thanks for sharing!

Thursday, March 12, 2009, 1:58 AM

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I'm so Fat

Having been in that painful place once upon a time, I can tell you for me the best way to come out of it was to start with short obtainable goals. Example: I was not exercising at all, had been in bed depressed for a month when I hit right where you are and I decided to get out of that bed or one day I wouldn't ever get out of that bed. I got out of the bed, out of the house, down the stairs, and across the street and came home huffing and puffing. The next day I did the same thing except when on up the first hill and back home. The third day the same except further and believe it or not at the end of a week was doing 2 miles up hills. It helped me get started eating better because I did not want to waste my exercise effort by eating junk. I made up my mind to be my best friend and decided what I wanted for a best friend which was someone who exercised, ate healthy, and was concerned with my physical health. One goal at a time, one day at a time but LOVE YOURSELF.

Thursday, March 12, 2009, 7:39 AM

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I'm so Fat

I so agree with this. To jump start me, I gave a friend I trusted $100 to let me call her anytime I wanted to eat out of emotion and we would talk it through and it got me back on track and helped me to discern when I was eating out of emotional need to "stuff my feelings" rather than nutritionally feeding my body out of hunger (analogy: I wanted food to become to my body what gas is to a car) and quit being a foodaholic. I am on track and loving the adventure.

Thursday, March 12, 2009, 7:45 AM

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I wonder how the OP is doing? She's so inspirational to recognize when she was suffering and to be able to pull herself up! I'd like to know how she's doing! OP - if you're out there! PLEASE LET UPDATE US!!!

Thursday, March 12, 2009, 11:40 AM

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