Shaving...slightly embarrased question.

Shaving 'down there' for girls. How much and what's the taboo for it? I'm 17 and "keep things neat"..especially since I'm on a swim team...but was wondering will guys think it's weird if it's not completely gone?

Yeah I asked my mom and she flipped out on me.

How much is too much...enough..it it REALLY just a person preference?

Sun. Oct 7, 1:57pm

Keeping it neat is all a woman should do. Removing it completely makes you look like a pre-pubescent child. men who like that look creep me out because I'm thinking they must be perverts who go for children but are restraining their urges by being with women who are bald "down there."

Okay, so that would be a lot better for all the children, for a man to role play (even in his head so you don't know about it), but it still creeps me out. I'd want to be with a man who loves me as a fully developed woman, not shaved and looking like a little girl...

You are young enough to be impressionable. Don't let the guys impress on you to do what they like or want unless you also like or want it and would do it anyway, regardless of their input. Those who accept it are the guys you should be dating. Those who don't accept it can move along and make room for the guys who do. This applies to everything in your life. Be yourself, and be a strong, independent woman. There will come a time for interdependence, when you'll want to make compromises for the good of the relationship -- but he should also be making equal compromises.

Sunday, October 07, 2007, 2:33 PM

Totally your personal preference. Do what makes you comfortable! But, no, not all men who prefer shaved are nursing pedophilic tendancies. It's a bit of a myth. It's kind of just trendy now to have less hair. Among my girlfriends we pretty much each have totally different tastes (some au natural, some with "landing strips", some bald, others neat and tidy). Just relax and if your curious, just experiment with what feels best. It'll grow back!

Sunday, October 07, 2007, 2:59 PM

ummmm 2:33

what?????
men who like shaved women are just using them as an alternative to what they really want, which is little girls??? Are you kidding me? that's the most rediculous thing I ever heard.

How about the whole concept of being clean and neat? I, for instance, am a woman and like my boyfriend to be completely shaved, not because I like little boys (!!!!!) but because it's sleeker, more aesthetically pleasing, and overall neater and cleaner, not to mention better for intimate acts. Myself, I wear delicate underwear, such as silk and satin, and if I were to not shave, the stubble would rip them and put little holes in them. I also feel a lot cleaner when I shave, and it adds much more sensation to intimate acts. (sorry if tmi).

So please don't speculate that men who like things clean are creeps. That makes you look like a creep, that you would think weird thought about something simple.

Sunday, October 07, 2007, 5:00 PM

Hi, I've done both and various stages in between - in terms of experimenting, whatever...
ditto personal preference...I liked the feel of clean and neat, but the grow-out stages are irritating at best, painful at worst
I won't speculate on what guys think, except to say, it, too, totally varies with the guy. Not to be totally graphic, I just think that guys who are more into oral activities prefer less hair. Some guys aren't all that into that, and hair isn't a big deal.
Also, consider using VEET or waxing rather than shaving if you go for something less than full.

Sunday, October 07, 2007, 8:16 PM

OP back

Thanks guys, you've really helped.

I've tried a few "styles", and in all honesty, anything more than keeping everything clean and "smaller" on the sides left me moderately to severely irritated and unhappy. And I kind of agree...completely bald made me feel like it looked..unnatural? I don't know :\

I just wanted to make sure it wasn't one of those things that 'everyone actually did' and those who didn't were kind of being dirty.

Thanks!

Sunday, October 07, 2007, 8:54 PM

A man's input

As a guy, I think I should weigh in on a couple of things said here:

1. Not all guys who like it bald down there have pedophile fantasies. Some of us (including me) like the smooth feel of it (especially during oral). We also enjoy seeing more of what we like, instead of having it covered by hair. It's an aesthetic thing, not a fantasy thing.

2. That said, bald is just one good style. A "landing strip" or even just "keeping it neat" all work well too. I think having too much hair (ie "au natural") can be a turn-off for some guys, but not all. Everyone has different preferences.

3. As long as it's not super overgrown, a guy generally won't care that much. There are other things about the woman that are more important -- physical, intellectual, social, emotional etc etc. If you're just looking at physical characteristics, the way you shave would probably be way down the list for most guys. And physical characteristics aren't always the most important things for many guys (myself included).

If you're in a committed relationship with a mature guy, first of all, he won't kick you out of bed because of your shaving habits. And second, he'll probably communicate his preferences to you, which you can comply with if you want ... just as you can ask him to comply with things that you prefer.

I agree with the 2:33pm poster's last paragraph (even if I don't agree with the first two). Do what makes you comfortable ... and don't worry so much about the guy right now.

Monday, October 08, 2007, 12:48 AM

Really nice to get a guy's perspective, especially when it's well put. Thanks!

Monday, October 08, 2007, 5:53 AM

It's totally a personal preference. Guys will never think it's weird, they're psyched to see it at all!

Monday, October 08, 2007, 11:55 AM

why are there so many silly topics like this on Pt when we should be talking about ways to eat healthy and trim fat?

Monday, October 08, 2007, 1:38 PM

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