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losing weight makes people around you mad?

my brother made about 5 snide comments about how I would not eat this and that on vacation. He is such a jerk and has no idea what I have been going through and how it is important that he not bring 3 large pizzas that will NOT get eaten that night.

Thu. Aug 30, 12:34pm

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Is he overweight?

Thursday, August 30, 2007, 12:40 PM

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a little but not really. The point is that he does not have a problem, I do.

Thursday, August 30, 2007, 12:47 PM

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When I went on vacation to visit my family, they all gave me crap about how I lost weight. Then when I tried to eat healthily they were like "Oh, you're skinny you can eat it." But really, I want to lose about 20 more lbs. They said a lot of spiteful things, but I think they were only half-joking. Maybe your brother feels like you are leaving him behind (did you used to pig out together?) or maybe he feels jealous.

Either way, keep doing what you do!

Thursday, August 30, 2007, 3:05 PM

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Bettering yourself often brings out the worst in people - whether it's b/c it brings out their own insecurities or b/c you're disrupting the status quo and they're not sure what it all means. And, who knows, maybe he does have issues with food that you don't know about. Overweight guys have just as many insecurities about their physique as females - they just don't talk about it asm uch! If that's the case with people, then you have become a reminder of their own personal failures in the weight loss arena.

Congrats on your weight loss - you deserve credit - don't let snide comments or pressures to eat derail you!!

Thursday, August 30, 2007, 3:39 PM

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I've never experienced this! Maybe because I live in L.A. and there are lots of skinny people here.

Friday, August 31, 2007, 8:21 AM

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absolutely this has happened to me! it happens every single day from the same person. i just ignore it and use her negative comments as motivation to keep going just to prove her wrong that large amounts of weight can be lost and kept off. she's not overweight, but is always chasing after that "last 10". in the time i've lost 40 she's lost 10 and gained 5 back. and she's pissed about it! she sees what i eat, she knows how hard i workout but refuses to commit to changing her lifestyle. so she can stew in her negativity while i go run 10 miles!

Friday, August 31, 2007, 11:00 AM

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y'know I used to get a reaction a lot like that when I would go to parties and not drink. People would think I was looking down on them or judging them somehow when I didn't care to indulge in the same behavior they were. And honestly - I could care less if others drank themselves into oblivion or not. I was at the party to hang out with my friends, meet people and have a good time.

Humor helped immensely as did the fact that I cheerfully drove home many drunk folks. I would calm down folks that were pissy that I wasn't drinking with the assurance that I was cuter/funnier/wittier/etc when *they* were drunk ;-) I would join in the drinking games and would ask for a 'designated drinker' (whom I would drive home) and in general I am pretty outgoing and laid back so most folks got over it and after awhile I knew enough people at parties that if someone made an issue out of it - I had people ready to jump to my defense with assurances that 'she's kewl man - she don't need to drink to party!'

I haven't had anyone make an issue out of my eating habits, but if they did I'd probably do my best to handle it in the same way. Humor really is the social grease that allows you and the other party to come out of a situation where one of you looks ungracious with egos and principles unbruised.

Friday, August 31, 2007, 2:34 PM

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I know how you feel I was the "thin" one as a teen and my sister was not. Then she became the thin one now, and I am the heavy one...I am working at getting mine off and being healthy! She can't be happy for me...but yet as she was getting to her goal weight she was wanting me to notice and say how nice she looks and so on...she would say things about heavy people and still does..I ask her all the time don't you remember what it feels like? I hate people who were heavy and now are thin and they can't remember how it feels for people to be mean! I swear right here...When I get to my goal weight/thin I will never look down on someone who is heavy! Keep working and be happy for you...don't let others get you down. I tell myself this a 100 times a day!

Friday, August 31, 2007, 2:41 PM

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