What irritate's you about your group??

Ok I know they suggest you join more than one group but both of mine suck!!!
One hardly ever post or give any support or diet tips and we recently had a 18 yr old cheerleader join who is so devistated cause of the 10lbs she gained oh the agony....this is very frustrating since the rest of us in the group have over 50lbs to lose. My other group is so diet driven I can't eat like them. Breakfast to them is an apricot, or juice even when I do eat a good breakfast like peanut butter toast or Kashi cereal I feel like a heffer since I eat a whole breakfast. One piece of fruit is not a meal....aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!! So irritating.

What are you guys frustrated with about your past or current groups? How did you deal and what changes did you make???

Please let me know. I really want to lose weight but I am begining to think PT is just not for me...

Thu. Jul 12, 3:57pm

Maybe it is you

I have been in 3 groups on PT and as long as the group is reasonably active I get to like the members.
Maybe it is you with a problem, not your group.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:02 PM

i think you need to try out a few more groups, at least, before throwing in the towel. 2 groups are not enough to base your decision to give up here!! please reconsider. like with any other peer driven support group, you need to identify and join your peers. obviously you have not yet found them here, but trust me, they're here!!

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:03 PM

who said you have to eat just like the rest of your group? You don't. And if a cheerleader says she needs to lose 10 pounds she gained, then you know what, maybe she really does.

Be yourself and don't let others influence the way you think so much.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:06 PM

i have my own group of (1), me. i log and track my eating habits, etc. so i can learn and improve. you do not have to belong to a group to succeed, but for some the group feedback is vital. it's so worth it to try out as many ways as you can to make the site beneficial for your self! good luck!

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:12 PM

I've been here for many months and I can tell you that 2 groups is NOT enough to base your decision.

Keep joining new groups and or teams until you find some that are a better fit for you, and never feel bad about leaving ones that don't work for you.

I've even joined groups just to look over their comments section and look at the logs of the members to see if they are active and seem like a match for me. If it looks like they're not what I was looking for I leave the group (probably before they even know I joined).
And sometimes it looks like a good group so I stay, but then the group may fizzle after a few weeks or months. No big deal, I find another one to take it's place.

Just keep looking and you'll find better ones out there.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:13 PM

I bounce around from group to group until I find the group/groups that mesh with me. There's no rule that you have to stay with a group for any certain amount of time. I can tell within 2 days if a group will work for me. I need to know that my group members are logging/posting at least every other day.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:18 PM

Maybe look more towards teams...

To be honest, my group is alright, but nothing spectacular. Not very active with commenting or logging and I don't feel that they're as driven as I am. That being said, I have found a couple of teams to join, and I LOVE them.

I think teams are great because there are more people to interact with. In a group of 4 if two people don't comment or log that makes a much bigger difference than when 20 people on a team of 200 don't log or comment.

Mainly though, like a previous poster mentioned, I am a group of one.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:23 PM

I hate when people post only one meal a day. It's like, are you actually eating one meal a day, or are you just not writing it down? What's the point?

Oh, and I also don't like when people disregard good advice. "Thanks, but I like my way better". Yea, that's why you still can't lose more than .5 pounds.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 4:41 PM

I'm down to 3 groups and 1 team, and am tempted to drop the 3 groups all for the same reason - no one is losing weight! They all diet for a few days, lose a couple of pounds, then go off the rails for a day or a week and play with those same couple of pounds. Some of them have been living this pattern for over a year. I understand this with the two who are only 10-15 lbs overweight because those pounds are the difference between looking good and looking great, but the ones who have 50-80 lbs to lose and very clearly have obesity-related health problems?? I'm supportive, I point out their specific patterns and try to get them thinking, I suggest strategies for change - I guess they're not ready to lose the weight? But still, they are on this site.

I know I should leave the groups, but I like the active participation even if I find their habits de-motivating.

Okay, rant over.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 8:04 PM

It irritates me when people but an apostrophe in irritates.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 8:39 PM

I've been a member of various groups. Some worked for me, some didn't. I'm currently with a group that has had several complete turnovers since I joined, with me being the only exception, and there've been weeks on end when the three core members were joined by one newbie after another who didn't log enough to stay in. But now we have a fourth who is doing well and is a good fit.

I'm with others who have posted that it's okay to check out a group and leave quickly if it doesn't suit you, and that not all groups are going to be equally appealing to every person.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 9:52 PM

ha! :)

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 9:53 PM

I was in a group where the other 3 members agreed that exercise made them eat more so they did not exercise. I brought up the health benefits and no one responded. I left.

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 10:32 PM

It irritates me when you are on a big team but no one comments. Even when you do. Why?

Thursday, July 12, 2007, 11:32 PM

11:32- exactly...

Why? Why won't people write a comment, especially when you are on a team. I have had a hard time finding a group where everyone is active and it can be frusterating. If you are in a group where everyone is active, I say consider yourself lucky. I'm glad I've had better luck with teams. OP be patient and good luck.

Friday, July 13, 2007, 1:07 AM

I prefer teams to groups. My team of BGB girls are fabulous and they never irritate me!! BGB represent!

Friday, July 13, 2007, 1:11 AM

I happen to love my group. All the women in my group are very helpful and supportive. We're all in the same boat (post-pregnancy) and have similar goals. We're friends that not only give advice about health but things moms and wives go through. I say keep looking and maybe you'll find a group as great as mine. And if you don't, start your own with spacific goals you want the members to have. Good luck!

Friday, July 13, 2007, 1:41 AM

I agree w/ most of the above comments.

Join a group, skim the comments, and leave immediately if you don't like it.

Try joining 3, 4, 5 groups at a time...more than one doesn't have to be just 2...it can be as many as you want.

It takes a while...but it's worth it when you find a good group. Just be patient...and if nothing comes up, then start your own group, but be aware people seem to just join groups for the heck of it even if they have nothing in common with what you posted. Good luck!

Friday, July 13, 2007, 8:27 AM

i think many have a real intention of "doing it this time!", so when they join a group, they join one that asks others to post daily and such, in the hopes of doing so. but then they start logging their food, logging their exercise, feeling better or not and logging about that. they are rooted on, told "good for you!", "it's about time you did something just for you!". and they begin to, some for the first time, really focus on themselves. i think that may be why some come into a group designated for daily posters but then fall short of that goal. so, it's a mixed bag...it's great that they are paying attention to things finally, but it's a drag for others who are already adjusted to taking care of themselves while reaching out to thers at the same time.

Friday, July 13, 2007, 8:45 AM

They don't post.

Friday, July 13, 2007, 1:43 PM

10:32 -
so funny

Friday, July 13, 2007, 1:49 PM

haha this is funny. i've been on PT for more than a year now and i like this site, but have had many problems. for one thing, it bugs me when ppl hardly eat anything...like what the OP said, eating a piece of fruit for breakfast! or when no one comments. im not say im perfect and have been successful at losing weight, but i eat, log in regularly, and comment often.

Saturday, July 14, 2007, 3:06 AM

don't give up

I belong to three groups and have seen a few folks come and go. It's vital to have interaction between the small family of four. Find or start one with a clever name that closely fits your way of thinking. I started one called FOODIES and it filled up quickly. There are ones out there describing age, amount of weight needed to lose, some focusing on exercise goals alone.

If you have patience, you'll find somewhere to be. In the meantime, you're welcome to join fabulous forties, fussy eaters, foodies, or hulashack whenever there's room.

Sunday, July 22, 2007, 8:00 PM

to 7:53

you said for people to mind their own business.

can i say hypocrite?

Monday, July 23, 2007, 1:47 PM

They just seem to dissappear. I wonder if it is something I did wromng

Monday, July 23, 2007, 2:42 PM

My team even seems to have disappeared

Monday, July 23, 2007, 2:44 PM

What is wrong with eating a piece of fruit for breakfast? Many days I will have only a banana or an apple for breakfast.

If you're following the intuitive eating plan then you're supposed to eat just enough so that you're comfortable - not full, not hungry.

Monday, July 23, 2007, 4:42 PM

try more groups and teams

Try more groups and teams until you get a fit- Don't give up on your lifestyle change. Only the true posters will stick around- so just keep looking or start your own group or team- it's easy to do.

Monday, July 23, 2007, 9:19 PM

Wow, lots of unhappy people...

I have not been on the PT site that long, but i suggest you try out a bunch of groups and teams looking for one that matches you. There are plenty of people out here, it is just a matter of finding people with like needs and desires. Maybe try starting your own group.

When hunting for a groupdecide:
how active of a group you want
how much weight you want to lose
what kind of diet & exercise practices are important to you
how much support and/or pushing you want/need.

Theren is a good match for you out there somewhere.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007, 1:34 AM

I joined a team a few weeks back with several members, introduced myself said hello made other posts and not one person even said hello, there are 4 people activly chating around me with each other and after a few weeks of taking to myself I decided it was time to leave, It was a real disapointment, oh well, I guess I'll search out other teams that arent so rude. Was wondering why they don't start a group?

Monday, July 30, 2007, 6:43 PM

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