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gastric bypass jerks

I realize they are not all like this, but has anyone ever had an issue with someone who has had gastric bypass, lost all their weight and is now judgemental about overweight people?

I've met a couple of them, but one in particular really sticks out in my mind. He is all of the time talking about people who are overweight, and making fun of fat people riding bikes, walking down the street, etc.

I want to tell him at least they didn't have to get their stomach stapled to lose weight...jerk.

Anyone else experience this?

Wed. Jun 27, 1:02pm

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yup, there is a lady at work like that... she was very overweight and had gastric bypass surgery, she had some complications and got very ill. all her friends who were also overweight took care of her and got her through it all. then she dumped her friends that took care of her as soon as the weight melted off and turned into a slut.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 2:28 PM

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I haven't experienced this...I don't know anyone who has had a gastric bypass, however it does make me think of former smokers who suddenly become very anti-smoking once they quit. To the point of being really rude to people who smoke. I think it's an example of people who don't work through their issues as to why they overate/smoked in the first place and now just attack the thing they hate about themselves in other people. Sad :( I really think everyone would benefit from spending some time in therapy and figuring out stuff about themselves. The world would be a much happier place :)

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 2:32 PM

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that's sad! i'll bet the people who lash out at others must be very unhappy with themselves and probably carry a lot of shame from being so heavy. i wonder if they prescribe follow-up mental therapy in addition to the follow-up physical therapy?

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 2:41 PM

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Whenever someone makes fun of someone else, or shoots them down it is because they feel so bad about themselves. Don't worry everything I have heard is their problems will come back because they have not dealt with the real problems. Stay strong, focus on you, and ignore their harshness, they are unhappy people.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 3:25 PM

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I have had a gastric bypass.....but here is what puzzles me.....prior to surgery weren't they walking in the other persons shoes...? Heck, I am FAT now.....I was HUGE before (I have lost 190 pounds since surgery), but as anyone who knows me would tell you....I still struggle with food issues...the surgery was on my tummy not my head....and I would never ever make fun of someone where I was or still am.....

I hate to hear of such unhappy people, becuase they give the rest of us a bad name....

Choosing surgery, which was life saving in my case, was a personal decision, and while I do share with people that I had the surgery, it is a highly personal decision and not one to take lightley. We should all have some compassion for our fellow man.....losing weight, and keeping it off takes hard hard work, not people making fun, or teasing, or ridiculing you...

Sorry, I guess this got me really fired up.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 1:35 AM

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a girl at work got that surgery and she is such a pig she lost a bunch of weight but eats take out liek 3 times whiel at work im only there 6 hours and she is always eating maybe im a little jealous haha. medicaid paid for he rsurgery what a waste.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 11:51 AM

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11:51 No worries, if she is really eating like you said she will gain her weight back. I think some people who have GB done also should have counseling.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 12:03 PM

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well they probably are just relishing the fact they finally get to be "on the other side" so they want to make themselves feel better about their pasts by ridiculing those who are still on the fatter side. My aunt had gastric bypass surgery but completely ruined it by not following the doctors orders (eating small meals only) so now she is worse than before and a giant whale. I work with her and she sits at her desk and munches all day on chocolates and chips.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 12:33 PM

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bypass fears

I recently made the difficult decision NOT to undergo beriatric surgery. I could stand to lose more than170 lbs. (hey, I used to say 200+!). I was referred to a surgeon and went through the whole consultation, etc. I was given referrals to a hospital support group, and made an appointment to see a counselor for a long afternoon of questions. I canceled that appointment because I did my homework from the literature they gave me and thought about the discussions I had with the doctor's office, friends, and family. I further had the added pressure to complete this step before then end of the summer, as my husband is looking for another job (health insurance a big issue). I still decided against due to the following analogy: I am not a puppy who pooped in the wrong place and deserves a whack on the nose with a newspaper! To me, vomiting, "dumping" which caused a hyoglycemic reaction, being told to take at least 20 minutes do eat a fistful of food without water during was not only inconceivable, but not practical. I've been a grazer and fill easily if I'm eating well. It was very scary to be told it could be a matter of life or death, but am happy to do this naturally. You know why? PEER TRAINER support! I have been blessed by the sound bite on Good Morning America I heard in May and joined.

Come on, having heard a friend of a friend DIED in the hospital before being released because they didn't sew her up properly made me think I don't want to give any kind of accident a chance.

I still look horrible, but losing these first 40 lbs. has slowed my asthma a bit, and I can touch my toes and actually wear a bra!

People should be humble and remember where they came from. If they are so immature to judge people for something they are in pain about, they don't deserve any sort of attention.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 3:47 PM

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To the 3:47 PM poster: What you draw out is exactly what I was referring to in my post (1:35 AM, June 28).

Surgery is a personal decision, and is not one to be taken lightly. It is for sure not for everyone, and there are alot of issues that go along with it. I am very blessed, becuase I have had no side effects from my surgery. But I am still learning what, how, and why I am eating.

Good for you on the 40 pound weight loss!!!

Friday, June 29, 2007, 9:46 AM

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I think a big problem with the surgery is that it doesn't teach you how to live and how to break your bad eating habits. You also don't deal with any hurt feelings from being obese.
It's great to save someone's life, that's what it was intended for. It should not be used as a way out, and it seems some people are doing such. People who have the surgery often replace their food addiction with something else, like gambling. I think therapy should be mandatory.

Saturday, June 30, 2007, 9:18 AM

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