they said what???!! part deux

well, since the other thread with the same topic has been infiltrated by someone who just wants to complain about the subject, i thought i'd start a new thread. the purpose is the same as group therapy, in that we can all gain from sharing our individual experiences! i'd like to include as part of the discussion the following question: have any of you ever made a rude comment or remarked in an insulting way about someone else's weight? i know that in the past, when i was fit (before the meds! ugh!), i certainly held stereotypical beliefs about fat people. little did i know that one day i'd be one!! i don't think we need to share what exactly we said to others, but just to acknowledge it is good. thanks in advance for participating in the discussion and staying on topic!

Tue. Jun 26, 10:32am

In my first year of highschool a girl was really annoying me, and I told her to go call Jenny Craig. She kinda shut up after that, but to this day (10 or so years later) I still feel pretty bad about it. We've talked and gotten along since then, but I still can't help but have some regrets for lashing out like that.

Maybe Karma came around and bit me in the behind. I ended up gaining a lot of weight after high school (no more sports teams). Still trying to lose the last 20 or so pounds.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 10:39 AM

Once someone told me that I look like a taxi, because I was wearing a yellow shirt. Then, someone screamed out that I was too big for a taxi, I was a school bus! It was the most aweful experience of my life. I remember going home that day and telling my husband about it.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 11:14 AM

I actually thought this one was kinda funny. I was at Canada's Wonderland at the Weight Guessing booth. The guy was off by so much that he got me to empty my pockets and take off my jacket, because he just didn't believe the scale. ( I carry my weight very well, as I have a large muscle mass. This happened before I was overweight.)

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 11:22 AM

When my daughter was 8 months old, we moved from the city to the suburbs. On moving day, we dropped her off at my inlaws so we could deal with the movers and getting things settled at the new house.

As the guys were breaking down the crib, one of them said "when is the baby due?" :/

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 11:24 AM

Oh, please, I have the worst one. I used to have this swimsuit suit that was a bit tight for me, and it was white. I was walking down the beach when a wave caught me offguard and made me fall. I was so big back then that I could not get up very quickly. Some teenage boys came after a while and instead of helping me, started screaming that I was a beached whale. They kept at it for a while, and all I could do was lay there and float back and forth with the wave and look up in distress. Then they decided that in order to "help" me, they should push me back in the water. So they started kicking and pushing me back, and finally they got a rope and pulled me in the water with it.
Luckily, some people in a boat saw me floating in the ocean and helped me back to shore.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 12:32 PM

12:32 - That is AWFUL. What mean boys. I think teenagers are the worst when it comes to this stuff.

Hopefully karma will bite them in the ass...big time!

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 12:41 PM

great minds think alike

i just commented about this very thing (my stereotypes) on the other thread. boy, i said some stupid things and THOUGHT stupider things. not just about fat people, either... i can't believe what i used to say about gay people. ugh. the big one i still carry around with me is "trailer park trash". someday i'll get over that one -- i'm working on it.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007, 1:04 PM

the other thread got jumped.

i once went to pick up lunch for our office. the guys had ordered 30 wings and a huge container of macaroni & cheese. huge! as i was paying, the dude whop packed up the food asked me if i needed a fork and napkin. A fork.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 9:40 AM

I had always been thin, at 5'8 and 110 pounds. After having my first child, I gained 20 pounds. My husband told me that the only way he would ever sleep with me was if I gave him a million dollars and a gallon of vodka. Even then, he said, he would have to put a pillow case over my fat head and it would have to be in the dark, and I couldn't touch him. He told me that he was afraid our child would become fat because I was so fat.
It has been three years since then, and I have lost 28 pounds. I still feel that I have more to go, but now I feel better about myself. And I was divorced two and a half years ago.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:09 PM

Woo hoo 12:09!!!!!!! I was relieved to see that you are divorced...your x sounds like a real mess!

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:23 PM

Why don't you just get over yourselves. Infiltrated ? Didn't realize that open topic threads on COMMUNITY were on lock down.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:36 PM

oh good, more pointless arguing!

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:39 PM

** please don't feed the closed minds!! **

i was shopping at macy's and a saleswoman came over to direct to the maternity department!! i just lost 10 pounds!! it's sometimes really hard not to lose the strength to move on!!

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:41 PM

12:09pm - if you are 5'8" and were 110 lbs, then gained 20, then lost 28, so now you're 102 lbs - please don't lose any more weight! You are incredibly under-weight! Your BMI is 15.5! Normal is 18.5-24.9. To get up to 18.5 BMI, and not be underweight, you'd have to get up to 122 lbs - almost as much as you were at the end of the pregnancy, and more than you started out as!

I'm sorry your ex was an @$$, but please be sure to take care of yourself!!!!

Or, maybe (hopefully) some of those numbers were typos...

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 12:52 PM

:)

Oh no the thread is tainted - whatever shall we do?
How will we uphold justice, and non persecuting ideas, and at the same time undermine the freedom of speech and independent thought.

Quick to the rantmobile ......................

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 6:11 PM

I was in high school, about 135 lbs and 5'5". I was standing in a line-up to get into a concert. I overheard someone asking where his friend was. The reply came from another guy, "beside that fat chick", pointing in my direction. The way he called me a "fat chick" in such a causual, immediate way was a shock to me. I didn't realize that's how total strangers perceived me. I'm back to 135 lbs now and I still feel like a "fat chick"...

Wednesday, June 27, 2007, 9:19 PM

i was picking up coffe and breakfast for the office and one dude wanted donuts, so i ordered 3 cream donuts for him. the guy behind me goes, "really? is that necessary? did you know they have fat-free muffins?" total jerk.

Monday, July 2, 2007, 9:25 AM

There are some good ones on here! We sure have met a lot of classy people!

My cousin was eating once and my uncle told her to stop eating or else she would look like me! And she stopped eating! And yes, he said in front of about 10 family members and my bf at the time, and no one said anything. I wasn't even that big, chubby probably, but he thought I was a cow.

I have said something mean to my husband about weight but I regret it very much, it was out of anger. He's the last person I want to hurt, but I did :(

Monday, July 2, 2007, 10:33 AM

I first have to say that this thread is hilarious. I'm so glad I can laugh at myself and have others have gone through the same thing.

Now I can't say for sure that this comment was directed at me because my back was against the people and I NEVER looked back but I was close enough to hear the comment and feel like it was directed at me.

I was once at a walk up ATM machine, already feeling down and depressed about myself. These younger teens in a car parked in the car in the parking stalls, which was behind me (as I stood in front of the walk up ATM machines) yelled out "30 days, 30 pounds, $30 dollar" (like the old Jenny Craig ads, or whatever weight loss ad that was).

I literally wanted to die right then and there. I was SO humiliated. I try to keep telling myself that MAYBE they weren't talking to me. Yeah right! :-D Would you die or what?

Monday, July 2, 2007, 6:00 PM

When I started college I was 5'4" 110 lbs. Then due to some personal issues I took 6 months off of school and was put on meds. When I returned to college I weighed 180. Our sorority's spring ball came up, girls had to ask guys. One of my friends, before my absense, said her boyfriend's friend wanted to come to the ball. I was friends with him in high school, so I told her I would ask him as a friend. She turned to me and said "I don't think your good material, in fact your nobody's material. I think you shouldn't even ask anyone!" I couldn't say anything, I was in shock. I ended up asking a cute guy. A girl even tried to steal him away from me at the ball! He stuck by me, and we're married, have a daughter and so in love.

Plus I lost my pregnancy weight and then some. I now weigh 150 and am working at losing the last 20 lbs.

Monday, July 2, 2007, 7:04 PM

it sounds like your husband has something that a lot of people lack these days...character. lovely end to your story, thanks for sharing!

Tuesday, July 3, 2007, 9:07 AM

raining on my parade

I feel that when I tell those family/friends of mine who are skinnier than me about my accomplishments thus far... it's like they want to rain on my parade. When I told one of my friends that I got a size 8 dress, at a certain store... she said well... not to make you feel bad, but their sizes run big. My sister also said, when I told her how much weight I only had 13 pounds to go... "you know, the last 10 are the hardest... and I wanted to say, well the past 53 haven't been easy either! :-P

Tuesday, July 3, 2007, 9:48 AM

raining on my parade II

I didn't complete my thoughts... It's almost like they don't want me to "join" their skinny club, it's so crazy! They can't prevent me from losing weight or feeling great about myself because of their own insecurities. :-P Nah Nah!

Tuesday, July 3, 2007, 9:58 AM

Just found this thread and wanted to share my experience...

I was a chubby child so I was ALWAYS insecure about myself.

At a Jr. High camp we had different activities and contests. One day it was a course in the water. I was chosen to sit on a raft and be pushed around. WELL I sat on this cheap raft (which was not even aired up all the way) and it went under the water some. And I heard a boy say "we need a lighter girl!" Hurt so bad. I just got up and left and went back to the cabin.

More recently I did my student teaching and I had a student ask me if I was going to have a baby. I said "No", and she said "well it looks like you are" Little punk. She was only in the first grade so I didn't worry too much. My friend that is like a size 0 was asked the same question. I did have several students tell me how pretty I was so that made the semester much more enjoyable :)

Friday, July 20, 2007, 11:52 AM

Nearly 20 years ago, I was supposed to meet my husband at a little diner for lunch. He was running late, so I got a table and ordered something to drink. I've been a diet soda drinker for about 30 years, but every few years I'll drink one or two regular sodas "for old time's sake."

I decided to have a regular that day and when the waitress came to take my drink order, I asked for a Coke. As she wrote, she repeated back, "Diet Coke." I politely corrected her and said, "no...regular Coke."

She said, "We have Diet -- wouldn't you prefer that?"

I said, "No - I ordered a regular Coke and that's what I want."

She sighed and sadly shook her head as she walked away.

Friday, July 20, 2007, 1:06 PM

1:06, don't cha love it when people try to "help". i have very narrow feet, even if i gain weight they stay the same. can't tell you how many times shoe store clerks tell me "oh, and that comes in wide, too" and i say "great but does it come in narrow?"

Friday, July 20, 2007, 1:25 PM

My God
Won't this thread die?

Friday, July 20, 2007, 2:15 PM

Not if you post to keep bringing it to the top.

Friday, July 20, 2007, 2:42 PM

one time, when logging on and reading through the forum section of an online weight-loss support group site, i came across a comment on a thread dedicated to sharing hurtful things people had said to us. one poster responded with,"my god. won't this thread die?" i really get a lot out of reading others' experiences and feel a genuine sense of community by recognizing that others have had similar experiences as i have had. if someone is sick of seeing a particular thread, oh well. the fact that others continue to comment on the thread is proof that others are still interested in the topic. don't open it. treat it like junk mail. you may see it every day, but it doesn't mean you need to read it and get angry.

Friday, July 20, 2007, 2:43 PM

mine was from a DOCTOR

I've struggled with my weight all my life. In my 20s, I successfully lost it all on Weight Watchers and kept it off for a while. Over the next 20 years, it crept up and up and up, and even when I'd follow Weight Watchers religiously and exercise regularly, it wouldn't budge.

I went to a new doctor recommended by a friend who is a nurse and married to a doctor. I told him my history, outlined my weight loss efforts on Weight Watchers and then Atkins, provided him with a log I'd kept as I tracked my morning temperature and demonstrated that I had a low body temperature, and documented that I get several hours of intense exercise each week through hard physical work. I told him I was ready to admit that I couldn't conquer this by myself and that I needed help, and asked him to test my thyroid function and determine whether that might be a part of the problem.

He didn't even try to hide his disgust. He told me he was tired of middle-aged women coming to his office demanding weight-loss pills because they were too lazy to get up and get some exercise.

I was shocked by his response and pointed out that I had not asked for any form of medication - I'd asked for a complete workup that included a test of my thyroid function.

He said, "Your mother was fat, your father was fat, everyone in your family is fat, and you're surprised that you turned out just like them. If you didn't live on potato chips and french fries and spend your life in front of the TV, you wouldn't have this problem."

For the record - neither of my parents was fat. That was the first mention of my family in our conversation. Nor had their been any mention of potato chips and french fries. I don't like either of them.

I burst into tears and left his office. I called a friend, sobbing, and begged him to meet me for dinner. I'm ashamed now, but I ordered a large order of fries at dinner. And had coconut pie for dessert. Shame on me.

Friday, July 20, 2007, 11:04 PM

The nice guys

On the other thread, several women wrote about men who didn't treat them badly because of their weight.

I am one of the women who married thin and gained weight, then endured the pain of rejection by my spouse because of my weight.

It took years, but I moved on, and as I was doing so, I made an important decision. I decided that I'd still work to lose the weight, but that I wouldn't wait until I was thin to be beautiful. I was well into my 40s at that time, and I ran across Delta Burke's autobiography, Delta Style. In her book, Delta talked about the same pain and frustration that many women on this site have described.

It made a huge impression on me that she was married to Gerald McRaney, a very attractive man who didn't dump her when she gained weight (as my own husband promised me all men would do).

Reading Delta's book taught me that I could develop a sense of style that was appropriate for my own body type, and regain my identity as a sensual and desirable woman.

It worked.

Not overnight, but I gradually began to build a wardrobe of clothes that were stylish and flattering (no muu muus!), a new hairstyle that really worked for me, and so forth.

At the ripe old age of 47, guys started hitting on me again!. Nice, attractive, professional middle-aged gentlemen found me attractive!!!!!!

I'm still working to lose weight, but I'm happier and more confident than I have been in 25 years. I am physically active, which gives me a lot more confidence about my body. I can't afford to spend a fortune on clothes, but I have built a wardrobe of pieces that are good quality, classic styles, and make me look and feel good. I move and act like a strong, confident, sassy, happy, SEXY gal.

I met a really great guy. Very attractive, very educated, very successful -- not some loser that I have to "settle" for because of my weight. The first time we were intimate, he said something that will stay with me forever. He told me he'd never met a woman who wasn't self-conscious about her body when she was undressed in front of a man. He then asked me to please never ever feel that way when I'm with him, because he finds me sexy and attractive just as I am. He said that my attitude and confidence make me very sexy to him, and he enjoys the whole package.

It took several years of mental housecleaning to overcome the decades of defining myself solely in terms of my weight. But I did it, and it's worth all the hard work.

I'm still determined to defeat the weight problem, and I look forward to finding a thinner me inside, but I'm not missing out on a happy and sexy life in the meantime.

God bless all the good men - and there are good men out there.

And God bless Delta Burke.

Friday, July 20, 2007, 11:37 PM

you ordered fries? didn't you just say you don't like fries?

Monday, July 23, 2007, 8:57 AM

No never! Not even when I was thin. We all have our short comings. I always knew that

Monday, July 23, 2007, 2:36 PM

Once I cut off a truck driver because he diberately kept blocking my way. He cursed me out and told me I was fat! I said at least I am not bald! I could tell i hit hi achiilles heel. I know that wasn't nice But God forgive I felt good !

Monday, July 23, 2007, 2:40 PM

The link below is another place to share your stories, if you feel so inclined (it's not spam - it's a magazine request for stories posted on craigslist).

Link

Monday, July 23, 2007, 4:37 PM

These stories are amazing. The beached whale thing is actually actionable tort assault/battery and intentional infliction of emotional distress.

The doctor with his rude 'middle aged' crap... wow. So many rude jerks in this world I'm sorry for you all.

I had issues related to skin color growing up (not white in a very white area) -

It's unbeliveable how rude people can be.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007, 2:17 PM

The worst

I don't remember saying anything bad to anyones face cause I was always kind of thick. But my son is almost a year old and at least once a month someone asks how far along I am. Now if that isn't a blow to my self esteem I don't know what is.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007, 3:15 PM

This thread is great. A lot of the pain i went through has been voiced. And i've found a way to chuckle at myself and at the people who choose to make them feel better by saying and doing these horrable things.
As I was reading it....a lot of what we value ourselves on being a Woman (or Womyn) has to do whether men will feel attracted to us. Weight being a huge portion of it. A real man will know that a WOMYN is not defined by what she looks like, what she weighs or how she is supposed to be by society's standards. A Womyn is not defined. She is her own personal one of a kind beauty. I'm extremely blessed that I have a man in my life who values me for me. If I gained 200 pounds he would not leave me. He would wonder why i was hurting myself by doing this. Us Womyn need to love ourselves, accept ourselves and not need a knowing that were okay beacause were socially acceptable.

Wednesday, July 25, 2007, 2:02 AM

I'll ask you for a date when you lose weight.

Sunday, September 9, 2007, 8:55 PM

My dad used to call me "his fat little girl". I am still working on that....I am 5'7" and 141 lbs. I was probably a little chubby growing up, but still.

Monday, September 10, 2007, 11:49 AM

This is a great thread! Before I owned a car and was financially strained I had to take a bus to meet up with my boyfriend. I almost missed it and was running to catch it. When I got on the bus the bus driver said "man, for a big girl you sure can run!" What do you say to that?

Now a days it's funny because I'm not that overweight and I can hide my weight well so I do look pretty hot (actually a lot of people tell me that) well my husbands friends ask him, "HOW did you get HER?" I tell them, I was over 200 pounds when he met me and it didn't matter to him, of course they don't believe it until I show them pictures that almost look nothing like me. He was nice to the fat chick, now look at us! So there!!

Friday, November 30, 2007, 10:06 PM

This post is about nothing that happened to me personally, but it is one of the reasons why I love and admire my little sister so very much!

About three years go (she was 19 then), my sister was sitting at BK's with some friends. At another table, there was a rather large girl who ate by herself. Then a group of young men entered, ordered their food, sat down at the table next to the girl and started harassing her about her weight and the fact that she was still eating burgers and fries. So my wonderful, courages sister got up, told the guys to either go get a brain or shut up, and then she asked the girl to join her and her friends at their table.

I really think that all the stupid comments stupid people make wouldn't hurt even half as bad if we could just rely on the fact that a courageous stranger would stand up for us and back us up! Let's pledge to always do that when we see the need! :)

Friday, November 30, 2007, 11:44 PM

I have a lot of pain in my life due to my weight. I remember when I was youger (10 or 11) I was saying something about my weight being okay at the time because I was supposed to grow to be as tall as 6'2'' (predicted by the drs when i was an infant) and my brother butted in with "Yeah 6'2" around" It still hurts eventhough my brother and I are close now.

Another time actually period was Jr. High School. Mind you this was before Columbine, so bullying was seen and not stopped. I was tortured daily in 2 of my classes IN FRONT OF THE TEACHERS WHO LAUGHED WITH THE STUDENTS. I am still bitter and angry that they never helped... no one did.

Saturday, December 1, 2007, 2:04 AM

2.04, I can't stand teachers like that. Especially since, one of the kids that causes mayhem in my class is the kind of student that is pure chaos and still has 100s on every test.

So the teacher lets him slide on EVERYTHING.

I understand being lenient with doing work if someone is doing that well...but shouldn't him interuppting and teasing the rest of us during class be stopped?

Stupid teacher.

Saturday, December 1, 2007, 11:22 AM

This doesn't have to do with weight but mean teachers.

My high school chemistry teacher ran with the cross country team a lot. My sister (one year younger than me and not a runner) joined the team at the urging of some of her friends. Her goal was always just not to finish a race last. She usually got second to last. I was proud of her for doing something she enjoyed and sticking with it even though she was not particularly good at it.

Well in Chemestry one day I was working with a few friends on a worksheet and I admit that we were working slowly. The teacher came by to see how far along we had gotten and when he saw we were still only on the second question he said, "what are you doing, working at (insert my sister's first and last name) running speed?" And laughed. My friends laughed politely since I think they had no idea what he was talking about. The class was pretty quiet so everyone heard the comment. What a jerk.

Saturday, December 1, 2007, 9:22 PM

11:44-
I love that story about your sister. I could see my little sister doing the same thing.

Sunday, December 2, 2007, 8:51 AM

Bubble Butt

When I was in fifth grade a boy in my class always called me bubble butt. I still think about his comments. What a jerk. I saw him at my College graduation. Weird huh?

In forth grade a boy in my class had the same last name as me. Of course we got made fun of for that. I remember one comment in particular. This kid said "yeah you and so and so seem related...he's even fat like you." I was not fat at all. I was just beginning the wonderful adventure we call puberty.

My mother even made fat remarks to me when I was 9 or 10. Since she and my father were divorced and I lived with each of them part time, my mom wrote my dad a nasty letter about how I was getting fat and that my dad must have been over feeding me. Then she got remarried. While she was on her honeymoon, I was so depressed I could not eat. Then I was really skinny. Imagine a 10 year old loosing 30 pounds!?

One time my mother's father touched my stomach and said "you're getting round like me". Again I was 9 or 10. Geez!!!!! I guess a girl is not alowed to go through puberty with an ackward stage.

Obviously these comments stuck with me. Here I am 33 years old, 5'4, 138lbs and thinking I'm fat. I'm aiming to lose 15 pounds. I'll still have a healthy BMI. I just want to get ready for 40...

Thanks for reading this. Even if no one does read this it felt good to get it out there.

Thursday, December 13, 2007, 8:45 PM

the guys at work talk about my big butt all the time and the worse bit is they're being complimentary :-(

Thursday, December 13, 2007, 9:15 PM

A different take

I was riding a bus near two major universities, surrounded by beautiful and fit young people. The two young women behind me were loudly going on and on about their horrible obeses bodies. I had to sneak a peek. They were both lovely. Easily both a single-digit in size. I couldn't stand it. I finally joined in and told them I felt like a part of the conversation since they were talking so loud but really I only wanted to make one point and it was this: The day will come when you will weep in memory of this body you so despise.

Friday, December 14, 2007, 3:35 AM

A coworker cornered my friend/coworker (who's a size 2, mind you!) and said, "wow, you sure are gaining weight. hope you didn't laugh at marla (me) when she got fat." i like to think my friend was too dazed by the insult to realize i didn't need to hear what mean coworker said. still, i guess i can choose to make this a benefit in my life. sigh.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 12:09 PM

When I was in highschool in grade 12 (last grade), there was a teacher in charge of making a yearly video with clips from different school activities...I was on the student council that year...so they did a little bit with video clips of the student council members. That year, we had a Winterlude week, and I happened to be eating marshmellows. He used that 3 second clip of me eating marshmellows....and all around me (at the school assembly) the entire gym of kids started laughing. I looked back at him, he looked at me, and he had a look on his face of "oh my god, what did I do?"....it was mortifying. I was overweight though....at 5'8'' and 250 lbs.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 2:02 PM

mandajo

This is for "a different take" I so understand that situation, but I was the average girl now gone into severe obesity.
In high school I longed to be on the dance team, because I love to dance. I tried out for my freshman year but didn't make it, so I vowed I would try again for the next year. Low and behold I made the team that year!!! I was extatic! However, once word got around school I started recieving nasty letters in my locker about how I was a fat cow and that I would bring the team down. Some of the other girls even joined in on putting me down. I was 5'4 and around 160lbs. I was overweight, but not obese!! So, the instructor had to hold a special meeting because of all the b.s. She told all the girls that if she heard any of them comment about my weight they would be kicked off the team. Well we had summer camp and most of the girls opinions of me changed once they saw that I could dance. Some of them even stood up for me. I remember my first pep rally and how all the students were waiting to see my "fat ass" dance. It's funny because once they saw me dance, some of them changed their opinion of me. And by the next year, my team was 2nd in the STATE. Pretty good dancing I think....
Well, the sad part is that back then I thought I was HUGE!! The problem is now I really am huge. I'm 5'5 and I weigh 285lbs. College and marriage has made me comfy, and the lack of a team environment with a support network has led me to being morbidly obese. I'm getting started though. I have a support network at work, and now I hopefully will here too.

Sunday, January 13, 2008, 11:18 AM

Oh so many stories, so little space to write them...

One experience that stands out in my mind that makes me laugh hysterically now is this:

once when I was sitting waiting for my doctor in an examination room the door of the room opposite of mine swung open and a little boy came out. He was just a tiny little thing, probably about 5 years old. The doctor had just examined him and he was leaving when he looked across into the room I was waiting in and saw me.

All of a sudden, as he was walking out with his mom trailing behind him, he yells "MOMMMMM, THERE'S A FAAAAAAT LADY IN THAT ROOM!!".

I seriously couldn't decide if I wanted to laugh hysterically or die a tragic death. I decided to laugh on the outside and die on the inside. The boy's mother and my doctor, however, looked like the both wanted to die on the outside. Who knows if they were laughing on the inside.

That so sucked because my doctor back then was in his 30's, damn hot and I had such a crush on him. He was really cool too. He walked into the room and with the most awkward look I've ever seen on a human face he said "Man, I'm so sorry!"

Oh dear. Awkward.

I'm laughing now but it wasn't so funny then. :P

Sunday, January 13, 2008, 8:12 PM

I've pretty much tried to wipe out most of these memories..lol.

Once I was at a youth overnighter and we were playing a game where people had to be dragged down a hallway. At the time, I was about 180 lbs, and none of the boys (big strapping guys) would drag me, so I had to army crawl down this whole hallway with everyone watching.

And afterwards, my friend, who is a about 120 lbs, was talking about how heavy she was, and how hard it must have been to drag her. Another girl piped up-"Well, at least you're not as heavy as (my name)!"

Right in front of me.

I don't really get those comments anymore, but there's a girl at my church who gets ruthlessly mocked behind her back by a guy she really likes. Her whole family is pretty big, but no one deserves to be treated like they're worthless just because of weight. Which, in the high school world, is pretty normal.

Thursday, March 27, 2008, 11:40 AM

family, UGH

My father used to say, I like my women chunky... or he would call us Chunky Chicks while we were in our teenage years.

more recent: I had lost some weight this past year (about 15 pounds which made me about 10 pounds closer to her then weight) and my sister who is now gaining (due to her knee injury and her forced sendentary situation) asked me as I was leaving her house (the only and last day I spent with her during my chrismas break by the way) "Did you gain any weight during this visit?" (WTF!??!)
- I should have said, not as much as you, but then again I was so in shock that her self esteem was that LOW that she had to try to make my weight loss a competition or to see me "fail". The nerve!

This is the same sister that used to make fun of me, laughed at my vacation pictures (when i was heavier) I showed my parents and would tell me that I had big, flat, ass!" Granted, I did... but it's none of their business!

Karma is a bitch!!! (her weight gains, serves her right, in a way) and I have since cut the ties (limiting my interaction) with that sister.

Thursday, March 27, 2008, 12:19 PM

After working my butt of to lose 20 lbs on a 5'2 frame-
"So, have you ever thought about when you're going to start losing weight?"

Noo, of course I havent! :\

Friday, March 28, 2008, 8:46 AM

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