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Frustrated with the struggle

I'm beginning to wonder if I should seek counseling to deal with my struggle to drop the weight.

I can't seem to get focused enough to keep committed. I'll go for a couple of weeks, then quit. Then start up again, then blow it.

I'm 30 years old, male, 250 pounds. It wasn't always this way. A few years ago I was 240 and worked hard over nine months and got to 185 pounds. I was absolutely in the best shape of my life (with the exception of the smoking I hadn't gave up yet at that time).

I got married. We started eating out more and more. Less time in the gym. More commuting. Then, I quit smoking and things really haven't been any better since then.

I've been on PT since April, and switched my diet in December out of total frustration. I dropped 15 pounds since Jan. 1, but now, I'm back in my rut, my dip, and can't seem to get motivated.

What in the hell is wrong with me?

Thanks for (reading) listening.

Tue. May 15, 6:01pm

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Feel the same

Hi there -- I feel the same way where I am totally motivated and things are going well for the first week or so - and then I blow it by binging or doing soething else stupid like sitting on the couch instead of exercising - and then I just figure, well, I've blown it and can't get going again...

My new job created a lot of the problem - been here 6 mo - sit on my butt all day at a computer .. compared to resturant work before where i was constantly moving whie at work.. so i feel like --- did i have to sacrifice my weight in order to get a better job??

Tuesday, May 15, 2007, 6:32 PM

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Nothing is wrong with you! Losing weight is hard, and maintaining weight loss is hard, too!

Make sure the changes you make in your diet and exercise are maintainable. If you are hungry or working out too hard, your body will tell you to eat, and you can't control that.

Remind yourself what your motivation is every day, every hour, ever meal. Maybe your motivation changes on a regular basis, Heck, maybe your goal weight isn't even your motivation. Maybe you have some kind of reward in mind, like a weekend getaway, that will be your treat for losing weight.

Recruit your spouse or a friend to walk with you or help keep you on track with your eating. I personally find that once I say to my boyfriend "Don't let me eat another bite of that" he doesn't actually have to stop me, but just having said it out loud makes me recognize my behavior.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007, 7:04 PM

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Something that helped me a great deal was the book "Eat To Live", and it helped to explain why the foods I ate effected me. I have not adopted the diet totally, it is pretty hard to. But it did give me a whole other context about how to think about food. There are a bunch of other books like this out there as well.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007, 10:27 PM

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How did you get from the 240 to 185 the first time? Did something happen to make you lose the weight? Being married is a huge adjustment. Almost everyone I know gains weight the first year.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007, 10:31 PM

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