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Have you noticed that when you are honest or genuinely concerned or just have an opinion that you voice to other group member/members that some people take it totally out of context? That they get angry and defensive and then try to change things they say? How do you deal with that? How do you try to show concern without sounding to harsh or mean?

Sat. Apr 7, 2:56pm

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i think some people just dont want advice..they dont want to change so its best to just leave them be..what ever they are doing wrong will catch up sooner or later

Saturday, April 07, 2007, 2:58 PM

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just give them reminders . like asking how are you doing with your water. if they take offense to that kind of concern than PT is not the place for them. PT is about accountability and support. I for one appreciate if someone cracks the whip if I am slacking but they may be just Me. I dont know..

good luck. just be as supportive and let them do what they want. you tried

Saturday, April 07, 2007, 3:02 PM

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I am 100% with the 3:02 poster. Crack the whip on me I don't need to be babied, thats not how I am gonna lose this weight and get to my goal. I have to suck it up and do whats right. I don't care I would be kindly harsh and tell them what is needed to reach their goals.

Sunday, April 08, 2007, 12:34 PM

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Noticed? I left a group because i made some unimportant comment. The person responded in anger. I was out of there I got enough tough people in my life to deal with!

Sunday, April 08, 2007, 2:25 PM

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Maybe the person responded out of concern and you were just in denial or something and interpreted it as anger? Most people see only how they can see and it is hard for them to see things how anyone else sees something. It is a very rare person who can listen to someone elses opinion or advice or feedback and take it in stride and really contemplate and see things how others might see them. That is why the site is so helpful to people, it is easier to hear feedback, advice, opinions from people who are anonymous rather then friends or loved ones. Because strangers are objective, lets face it if your husband or boyfriend said you should go for a walk, get some exercise, more then likely most people would get angry and get defensive but coming from someone who can relate and you don't know its easier to accept.

Sunday, April 08, 2007, 5:55 PM

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