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anyone have any real luck on meeting people on craigslist?

Tue. Feb 20, 3:39pm

Yup, met my husband on craigslist. It was a first for both of us (meeting someone online, that is).

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 3:42 PM

Yes - I met 70% of my gal pals on Craig's List. We ostensibly were looking for a book club, but got along so well that we are now a great group of friends. I have not met a signifigant other (was married before I ever knew about CL), but would certainly consider it. Just read ads carefully, don't give out too much info until you've met, meet in a well-populated public spot, let people know where you're going and who you're going to meet and what time you'll be back (maybe arrange for a friend to call you as an 'out') and just be careful, but also don't let fear of the unknown hold you back. You can meet creeps in the bar just as readily as you can online.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 4:13 PM

Oh, that's the WORST place for finding someone for a real date! Well, in NYC, which is arguably a tough place to date to begin with. No matter what you say in your ad, no matter what they say in theirs -- they will eventually expect to hook up. Like you owe them an orgasm just for taking the time to meet you. Oh, and the really yucky part is that a lot of them are just interested in getting some fetish indulged (managed to screen out most of those - they're particularly bad about hiding their true intentions).

I'd guess that paid dating sites are better than this since a lot of men just post on a whim to see if they can get some online. But I got burned out after meeting a few dozen guys off craigslist and have nothing but crazy stories to show for it, so no online personal crap for me anymore.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 6:08 PM

Have not had good luck with dating craigslisters. For one, most of the ads from the men are pretty pathetic, creepy, or obnoxious. You really have to sift through them. I guess it depends on what you're looking for too.
Then again, I've met equally as many jerks in person as well.
Be really careful. There's a lot of whack-jobs out there. And the majority of feedback is that CL breeds them. Especially if you're in a large city. You're better off joining activity groups with people of common interests and getting to know someone gradually. There's no way to get to truly know someone through email.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 6:24 PM

Met my one girl fling on craigslist, w4w not casual encounters, and she's an awesome person i'm still close friends with. When i post on craigslist i get 20 or so responses, but can always tell immediately who's worth my time, and usually respond to 1 or 2 if that, meet up with 1 or 0 of those. Of my dates off CL all of them were normal non-freak people, no total weirdos, but maybe i'm just better at screening. I don't go on dates with them immediately... at least a few emails, and some significant amount of IMing will let me know their sense of humor/personality. Friends with one of em now, and dated another briefly before it turned out he was a dick, but not a weirdo.
This is the kind of post people usually don't sign, but i loooove craigslist, and i clearly have no shame!
Virago24 aka Sluttony

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 7:52 PM

I have tried looking for something on craigslist. I found a bunch of strange guys and a few sane ones. Few. Probably of the 35 that posted back to my ad, 5 were worth emailing back (based on picture and what they wanted in a woman). I met one. He talked about only himself the whole time. Never asked a question about me. I am thinking about meeting one other one. We will see. I think its a good way to weed through men when you don't want to or don't have the time to be in a bar.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 9:46 PM

Ladies, there are other ways to meet guys besides the bars and online.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007, 11:53 PM

We know that. However, this is a discussion about one particular method and not a more general "how to find a man" thread.

Wednesday, February 21, 2007, 12:06 AM

I'm the first poster (not OP). I wanted to add: Of course you need to be careful, but that goes for meeting guys in general. My husband invited me to our local pub the day we met on CL... it was the birthday of a friend of his, and he said "At worst, you'll meet a nice group of people." When I arrived, many of his girlfriends came up to me and declared him one of the nicest people they know. That's why I felt comfortable going back to his place that evening (the pub was too noisy to hear one another). I'm extremely security-conscious, and would never have done that with someone who in any way could be threatening.

My opinion? It's hit or miss. I know a few people who have met their partners online. There are also countless people who have bad experiences. My advice to anyone "out there looking" is to use CL plus other avenues.

Wednesday, February 21, 2007, 9:03 AM

I avertised for a tenent on Craigs list and got a great one!

Saturday, March 03, 2007, 8:30 AM

i have had luck on there with dates but nothing serious...but then again ive been on-line dating for almost 4 years LOL...guess im just too picky

Saturday, March 03, 2007, 8:39 AM

I met two friends from craigslist shortly after moving to a new city. A year later, they are both still two of my closest friends. So it is possible to meet nice, normal people on there.

One of my friends and I have a joke that I'm her "65-yr old man w/a gun" friend because when she told her husband she was meeting someone from craigslist he told her it would probably turn out to be some creepy 65 yro w/a gun. I'm 25, and female, so not quite. :)

Saturday, March 03, 2007, 4:41 PM

Excellent Craigslist advice

I have met several great people through Craigslist, one I dated for quite a while and a couple I have stayed friends with. I figured out a great way for meeting good people. First of all, YOU post the ad. Don't answer ads. That way you get to sift through all the responses and be the one who makes the choice on who to email back. Make sure you use a different email address, get a free one like Hotmail, and don't put your full name in the profile, at least not your last name.

When you post, make it really casual. Low-pressure. Just something like, "Anyone want to go out for dinner and a movie?" No talk of relationships, no talk of sex, not even a "let's see where it goes from there." You just want to meet someone cool to hang out with. More people will answer that way, not just the desperate ones who will respond to anyone.

Finally, meet in a public place and do NOT give out your phone number or anything else until after you've gotten to know them a little and feel comfortable.

This stuff might seem so obvious, but like I said, I have done a lot of Craigslist dating and I have found success this way!

Monday, March 05, 2007, 1:33 AM

As an addendum to 1:33's excellent advice:
To weed out the desperate craigslist addicts who reply to everyone, consider posting two different ads from two different email accounts and check out the overlap in replies - if it's a cut and paste job, delete.

Monday, March 05, 2007, 4:56 PM

love true love

Well ok I found my boyfriend and future husband craigslist.... we been dating for going 5 months....he met my parents and alll... iam about too meet his parents..

Friday, March 12, 2010, 1:32 PM

I've bought a bunch of things off craigs list but haven't ever met anyone. oh and i've rented apartments off craigs list.

Saturday, March 13, 2010, 9:41 AM

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