How do you feel when your group falls apart?

I feel so bad. I've only been in Peer Trainer for abou 1 month. I feel horrible! 2 of the grouops I jioned just fell apart. I am writing this instead of having a piece of candy. I am really feeling bad. First I read a thread today that some one made it like they were just observing peer trainer threads and they were figuring out how the human mind operates. Then I get on
my group and some whispers to me we are the only ones left in the group. What can I do Please tell me I am not emailing myself to make myself feel better!

Thu. Sep 28, 7:29pm

Join other groups and for heavens sakes don't take it personally!! It's nothing personal when someone stops journalling and commenting or even leaves. There's LOTS and LOTS of other groups on here!!

Thursday, September 28, 2006, 7:31 PM

I agree

Definitely don't take it personally! Because it really isn't personal. People just get busy or lose focus or stop logging for a million other reasons. So move on. Join other groups - join lots of groups - start your own groups - keep it up unitl you find some people you click with. And join a team or two that has lots of members - then there's always something going on.
Also, I don't think that the person who posted the thread about studying people had any malicious intent. I think they were just finding us all interesting - - is that such a bad thing?

Thursday, September 28, 2006, 9:25 PM

Yes...find some different teams or groups to join! There are plenty of them to choose from!
I felt bad that there were so many people on my teams/groups that never even log anymore, or only once in a while so I joined a few new ones.
Checking the public logs gives you a real good idea about who logs everyday too so you get an idea if you'd like to join their team.

I also like to look at threads... and admit sometimes it is just out of curiosity not because I'm actually interested in the subject!

Thursday, September 28, 2006, 9:29 PM

I'm sorry but I just had to post. To the OP, I'm the one who started the thread you mentioned about observing & I'm sorry it made you feel sad. Let me clarify this. I do not stand on the sidelines & watch people for the hell of it. I am an active participant on this site & I enjoy the support I receive here. However, when controversies take place (debates on threads, where people get defensive, nasty, etc.) THAT'S when I observe & find it interesting. I do not participate in those debates because one post of mine isn't going to change someone's mind & will only fuel the fire.

If I would have known people would take offense & that there would be fallout from this, I never would have started the thread in the first place.

Friday, September 29, 2006, 11:15 AM

Find some new teams and groups. I've found that creating a new team and then making it private after a few days is the best way to go. Usually a "challnege" team. I have droped out of many groups and teams that werent' right for me. But now, I am finally part of a few very active teams and groups.

Friday, September 29, 2006, 11:17 AM

i have been on PT for over a year and can not count the number of groups i have been in that everyoner has left..i just find other groups..i dont get offended if people dont post ..im on here for me and any help is better than none but i cant control what others do and i just need to take care of me!! i try to stay in 4 groups at a time..ive tried the teams but dont really like them to much..good luck to you. im pretty sure im in one of your groups and have left one that fell apart...dont takr things personal and just keep doing the right thing for YOU!! your worth it!

Friday, September 29, 2006, 11:21 AM

to the op

if you go back and read the thread you referenced, you will find there are many explanations to your question of being observed. may i suggest you let that thought go and move on? this sight is incredible and can be an extremely valuable tool in your weight-loss journey, as well as a resource for topics not directly related to weight loss. you might start a thread detailing your goals and interests and try to form a group that suits you well. good luck, take it easy, and enjoy your journey!

Friday, September 29, 2006, 11:49 AM

11:17 poster here

Thank you, 11:49 poster!

Friday, September 29, 2006, 1:57 PM

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