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Thanks but no thanks

I have lost 27lbs so far in my goal of 40. I keep hearing all the time how good I look and questions about how much weight I've lost which I gladly answer. But I normally say I've lost 25lbs my goal is to lose another 15... of which everyone says no no no you don't need to lose another lb you look great. Now thank you for the compliment but why do people feel the need to say that. I'm a size 10 now I'm not a waive I will not look sick or disgusting sans another 15 lbs so why can't people just say good luck or well your doing great instead of trying to talk me out of my current diet? These last 15lbs are hard I need more motivation not people telling me to quit...

Sorry this is more of a vent then asking for a suggestion I guess.

Thu. Sep 14, 1:21pm

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Are they a little overweight themselves? Maybe they are saying you shouldn't lose anymore because they already feel bad enough about themselves and don't want to feel even worse!
Or maybe it's just their way of giving you what they think is a compliment.
I have had people tell me "but you're so skinny". I usually end up thinking to myself "compared to you maybe".
I HATE when they say that because I want my weight to be what I AM most comfortable with --- not what might be acceptable for them.

Thursday, September 14, 2006, 1:34 PM

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stay strong-and try not to read into their comments! most people do mean well i believe-and they probably think you look great! your personal goals are more important than how others view your weight loss! from now on when someone asks about it, maybe let them know how much you've lost but keep mum about the weight you are looking to lose? that way they can't advise you on it!

Thursday, September 14, 2006, 1:39 PM

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you could also just tell them how much you have lost and leave it at that. Why give them more info than they need?

I usually just say "thanks, I've been working on it!" When people comment on my weight loss. If they ask for a number, I'll give it to them. But my goal is pretty personal (though it is posted on my PT profile) and I don't need to give everyone that sort of detail.

Thursday, September 14, 2006, 1:58 PM

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Yep - I used to get that all the time too and now I give a response more like 1:58 poster does. I do think most folks mean it as a compliment, but quite frankly they are not going to dissuade me from my goal, so I don't give them the opening. If for some reason it comes up I point out that I will still be 15 pounds heavier than I used to weigh throughout my teens and 20's. That usually really gets them protesting and then 10 pounds doesn't seem like so much.

Thursday, September 14, 2006, 2:35 PM

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just say thanks. if someone probes you for more info, let them know that it is something of a personal journey for you, but you appreciate their nterest. if they ask more questions, direct them to this website.

Thursday, September 14, 2006, 3:09 PM

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I think...

that people say that to be polite....they may not mean it, but they feel they need to say it....That's what I think when people say it. I just say thanks!

Saturday, September 16, 2006, 2:27 AM

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What does your doctor say?

Sunday, September 17, 2006, 10:34 AM

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I used to hear this all of the time too. I agree that people are trying to be polite but it used to really annoy me too and I never knew how to respond. It really bothers me when people say this sort of thing--why not just say you look great and leave it at that?!

Sunday, September 17, 2006, 4:17 PM

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What do doctors know! Go with what your body says. If you want to lose more weight go for it. Great job!

Monday, September 18, 2006, 11:29 AM

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I say get to where you will be the happiest. In high school I was a little heavy.(145 lbs, 5'2) I got teased by pretty much everyone in my family, including my parents. (they thought it was all in good fun) When I started my Junior year I started losing weight. A total of 30 lbs over 9 or so months. Not in any unhealthy way. Just normal teenage, on the run all the time. I had a job, a boyfriend, friends....etct..... One night at dinner I excused myself from the table and my father said, "are you going to go throw up now?" He accused me of having an eating disorder. I was so pissed. I basically ranted for 30 minutes about how I was never good enough, too fat too skinny. To this day, whether I'm overweight or losing weight, no one in my family comments in anyway except to be supportive and tell me I'm doing a good job.

Monday, September 18, 2006, 11:44 AM

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I'm the OP to 10:34 and 11:29 I have not talked to my Dr about my weight loss but I know he wouldn't have an issue. My goal of 140 will take my BMI to the midpoint of the 'normal' range. I used to be in the overweight range. I'm not someone who is absurdedly thin here I'm currently a size 10, when I lose the last 15lbs I'll probably be a size 8, possibly I'll be able to fit into some size 6 clothes. And the way I've been losing weight is through both diet and excercise and by diet I mean limiting sugar and junk eating more good things. I'm trying to keep my calories per day in the 1200-1400 range but I'm usually closer to the 1400 than the 1200.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006, 8:11 AM

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