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ladies- whats 1 thing that catches ur attn?

catches your attn when u see a man (physicallY)

Tue. Aug 22, 12:35am

his face!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 1:26 AM

His eyes and his smile... I think you can tell a lot by a guy's eyes.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 7:53 AM

Eyes, exactly. I was just thinking how to say the same thing when the 7:53 am poster said it so well.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 7:56 AM

Funny, the thing that I notice about a guy's face is his jawline... But body-wise I would say that I go for really androgenous guys without bulky muscle, but with a coordinated way of moving. Often I won't even notice a guy I've seen a hundred times until I see him dancing.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 8:44 AM

looks don't mean much as a first impression for me, except that cleanliness is important. i focus on someone's style and how they carry themself, and how they communicate w/ others before i start to really "look at" a guy. a sense of humor always makes me attracted to a guy, no matter what he may look like.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:10 AM

How they carry themselves and their smile... not that they need perfect teeth or great lips or anything... just whether or not their smile is real and happy and just full of life... I love a good smile!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:30 AM

How they smell!! If I walk past a guy and he's wearing a really yummy scent, I absolutely have to turn around and check him out!! Then, if he has nice eyes too, I'm hooked. If he has that glazed-over, "I'm trying to score" look, then I'm gone.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:27 AM

to the op...

are you a man ?

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:44 AM

yes i am a man, one of the few men here on PT.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:54 AM

to the op...

have you gotten any tips from this thread?

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:08 AM

I like guys who don't use phrases like ur. Use of "ur" means that you are either 16 or a someone who spends too much time in place where people use words like ur. Like myspace. I recommend proper words, shaving, being polite, confidence, compassion-- and a nice italian shirt that you wear well can never hurt.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:16 AM

personality is number one, no doubt! my friend and i were reminiscing last night about people we knew in college-guys became the topic and we started talking about who we thought was "hot", and when we thought that. turns out that both of us found the same guys "hot", but only after knowing them for a while. the same was true for guys who were just jerks or rude or egocentric-their looks didn't even matter after knowing them because their personalities were "ugly". frankly, i hope to find a guy who thinks that way, too!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:27 AM

The very first thing I notice is a nice, open, warm smile. After that, it's all about personality - a guy needs to be confident and comfortable with himself without being cocky or standoffish.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:35 AM

I love hairy, muscular legs and a great butt. Hey, someone had to say something other than his face! lol

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 12:19 PM

I agree with the person that stated "his smell". I'm married, but a nice smelling guy will always turn my head -- just to look, of course! I love the smell of Aspen. I buy it for my husband, but he never uses it. Sometimes I just open the bottle and sniff.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 12:22 PM

yes this thread is helpful, it is always good to get a woman's point of view....

OP

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 12:23 PM

I love a great smile and nice teeth. I also like bigger guys, not necessarily even muscular I just don't like really skinny guys...

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 3:31 PM

I notice lips on a man.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 4:25 PM

i always have had a thing for super scrawny guys. skin and bones...protuding hip bones. to each her own.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 5:05 PM

to the 5:05 poster...me too! i also like guys now that are bit more solid but not bulky. since i'm getting stronger, i need someone who can at least match me.

but mainly i notice how they carry themselves, an air of confidence. that's what will make me look up and around and smile. it's just something that i can notice out of the corner of my eye. and a nice clean smell...i don't go for cologne, but rather soap. i don't know what it is about the smell of soap and fresh clothes. i'm nutty i suppose.

i like someone i can spar with verbally. someone who is taking on the his world, whatever that may look like. :)

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 5:55 PM

height.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 6:22 PM

Hugging prowess. If you can hug well, you're halfway home! ;)

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:01 PM

I met a guy last year - I walked in o the room and he turned, and looked at me, then smiled the most incredible smile as he took my hand ... it was his great smile as a reaction to me .. made me feel like fabulous!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:49 PM

confidence, sincerity, sense of humor....

Physically, I really don't know. I've never been drawn to someone because of something physical. I don't think women are as visual as men, so it is different. I guess I prefer tall men with broad shoulders......but not a requirement.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:47 PM

the way he presents him self, and his confidence. He need to be confident lol it's hottt

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 12:41 AM

i agree with confidence--and not the cocky, boisterous, arrogant confidence. the quiet, kind kind of confidence. There is a very big difference and it's very obvious when a guy is trying to project confidence by being cocky and arrogant and that is a HUGE turnoff.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 8:18 AM

shoes. you can tell a lot about a man by his shoes.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 9:41 AM

The twinkle in his eyes!

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 9:48 AM

laugh
eyes
broad shoulders
strong-looking arms
trim waist

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 12:56 PM

manners!! all round politeness. especially if he waits for a second for the person behind him and holds the door open. just witnessing that kind of courtesy is hot!

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 1:49 PM

nice guys finish first in my book. if you have to be a jerk to get a woman's attention, there's something wrong with her anyway.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 2:04 PM

A guy's voice... if a guy has a sexy voice I'll turn to see who's talking.. and different voices appeal to different women!

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 3:20 PM

wow, thanks for all the responses ladies!!!!!!

very interesting to say the least!

op

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 5:57 PM

To the OP

do you meet all of the above requirements? Not a lot to live up to huh? : )

I posted earlier, but I have to add CHIVALRY -- I am an anti-feminist. I still think I a man should be a man and a woman should be a woman.

Opening doors, pulling chairs, being respectful....

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 10:20 PM

hi there

I dont know if i meet even half of them, like i said its always to get a womans pointof view

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 11:42 PM

I second the chivalry! Open doors (even the car door!), pull out chairs, all that stuff. But also, be generally polite. Call when you say that you're going to (i.e. if you say you're going to call tomorrow, actually do it!), be on time and neatly dressed, don't cancel at the last minute, etc. Pay for dinner for the first few dates (you can start splitting, or going back and forth on who pays after a bit). I'd way rather a guy treat me to McDonald's or pizza than take me somewhere a bit nicer and want to split the bill!

In general, treat a girl like you'd want a guy to treat your little sister. Odds are, she's someone's sister!

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 11:19 AM

I personally like a guy who puts some thought in their email/internet correspondence, writes out words instead of using the letter 'u' for the word "you". Nothing more sexy than wit and a savvy writing style.

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 11:23 AM

hahaha... it's good to hear other people nixing the internet lingo. It's always been a pet peeve of mine. Honestly! how hard is it to type a three letter word. U R Hawt duhhhh.. just looks so lazy and juvenile :(

For me?
physically - I think the eyes are what catches my attention first. And the eye contact that comes along with confidence. I've always gone for the skinny type too.. :) not skin and bones, but not Ah-nold either. Bulk's never really impressed me.

Personality wise... I like a guy to be honest, and to take an interest in me too. Nothing's more of a turn off than having someone's eyes glaze over as soon as they stop talking about themselves. :(

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 12:58 PM

Teeth.

Shoulders.

Voice.

and don't shift your weight when you stand. Nothing turns me off more then a man who stands like a woman. lol

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 1:06 PM

eyes and chest

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 3:39 PM

abs abs abs!

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 3:45 PM

What I get from reading this is that, physical attributes aside, it pays for a guy to know something about his date. Heavy cologne and shoving me out of the way to open the door first are deal-breakers as far as I'm concerned.

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 6:23 PM

I'm going to have to agree with the use proper language, and call when you say you will.

My biggest pet peave in the whole world is the misuse of the English language. Now, being from Canada, I consider "y'all" an abomination (no offence to the Southerners here)- and ignorant is not synonomous with rude; entirely different meanings.

Second pet peave is someone who says they will call and then do not. To me, it is tatamount to standing one up. If you say you are going to call, I will make efforts to be available when you call- otherwise, I feel as if I'm being rude. Therefore when you don't call, I get irrate.

Physical- I'm a sucker for a pair of defined shoulders. Not necessarily bulky, just some definition. You can have a gut and I won't care AT ALL, if you have some nice shoulders.

Thursday, August 24, 2006, 7:54 PM

To keep it all to the theme, I have absolutley no idea what I find attracitve. Past history demonstrates no pattern whatsoever, so it must be subconscious, biological even (pheromones, mzating signals, etc.)

Secondly, I feel compelled to speak up in defense of "y'all." This is, it is true, not standard English. It does, however, fill a need not addressed by English; the plural second person. This is found in most languages the world over, for example "Vous" in French, "Ihr" in German. It is often needed for clarity's sake, and "y'all" serves quite well. It is no different in purpose or intent than the copious sprinkling of sentences with "you guys" favoured by those north of the Mason-Dixson. Your point is well taken, as I abhor lazy English myself. I, however, find "y'all" a valid expression.

Friday, August 25, 2006, 4:34 AM

4:34 poster, how do you feel about "all y'all" as a plural and "y'all" as a singular? (North Carolina usage)
LOL

I'm so interested in people's local dialects that a guy who talks "funny" or "wrong" will have my immediate attention. It might not be what someone wants to be noticed for, but it guarantees that I'll be paying strict attention to what they're saying!

Friday, August 25, 2006, 7:37 AM

(I am the 4:43 Poster) Okay, y'all as a singular would annoy me, as it just confuses the issue. I take it you mean a "Y'all is..." type of scenario.

Trying desperately to keep it all relevent, talent is attractive. Whether it be sports, computer programming, underwater basket-weaving, whatever, if a guy is one of the best in his field, that is deifinitly sexy

Friday, August 25, 2006, 8:03 AM

"You" is singluar and plural

Regarding the form "you-all" -- in standard English, the same word is used for both the singular you and the plural you. That is, each of the following is correct:

Ma'am, you have a tail light out.
Kids, you have soccer practice at four.

In the first sentence, "you" refers to the singular "ma’am." In the second sentence, "you" refers to the plural "kids."

This doesn't mean I don't enjoy the Driveshaft song "You All Everybody" from the TV show "Lost."

Friday, August 25, 2006, 8:51 AM

a note on the "chivalry" thing -- I think there is a big difference between being POLITE to everybody (men too! non-target women too!) and being like "Oh wow, a cute chick! Now I will be a Man by stopping and opening the door for her, because I am a Man and she is a Woman." Nothing makes me crazier at school or at work than guys making a production out of holding the door open, or making a fuss about me going first. In the workplace context, it can be a little insulting (what? I'm too weak to open the door? Do I have a sign on my chest that says "Girl"? Well, I guess I do kindof, heehee....)

BTW -- if we keep telling the guys how un-superficial we are about what they look like, the few guys on peertrainer will quit and go to confidence-trainer.com or something... :)

Friday, August 25, 2006, 11:06 AM

"You" is plural, funnily enough

It's absolutely true that in modern English we use "you" as both the singular and the plural second-person. But, to be REALLY geeky, (or maybe to impart an interesting bit of trivia?) the proper second-person singular is "thou." We don't use it anymore, for some strange reason. Still, for the person above who was making comparisons to other languages,
tu = thou
vous = you
you can see that English is not that far from French in this case.

Okay, silly trivia for the day, all done with!

Oh, and guys? A French accent is always sexy. If you're French, anyway. :-)

Friday, August 25, 2006, 11:12 AM

Nearly ANY accent is sexy! A southern drawl on a guy with a warm voice... mmm.... very hot!

Friday, August 25, 2006, 11:37 AM

8:03 poster, I'm from texas and use "all y'all" and "y'all" way to often. One thing I dont like is when people spell y'all incorectlly! the ' goes between the y and a not the a and l

anyways I'm physically atracted to nice legs

Friday, August 25, 2006, 11:42 AM

High on my list, though not a physical trait, is good grammar, spelling, and vocabulary. It drives me up a wall to get text messages with abbreviations "u r cute". It really takes so much extra time out of your life to write out the full words???

Friday, August 25, 2006, 11:25 PM

# 1: He's GOT to be clean. I don't care if Brad Pitt does it, dirty hair, wrinkled clothes, and 3 days of stubble are NASTY. You don't have to go metrosexual, but just basic hygiene is important. And if you must do the stubble thing, at least make it neat. Looking like you can't take care of yourself is a big turn-off.

2. He's got to be sincere. It's pretty easy to tell when a guy is feeding you a line and when he's being honest. And lying is just as bad.

3. Sense of humor... not fart jokes, but the addictive kind of personality that just makes you happy and you can't tell why.

4. Beer guts gross me out (see # 1). It's ok to be a bit chubby but it is not ok to look like John Belushi in Animal House.

5. A guy who is truly passionate about something is HOT. It shows he has depth and his own interests. Doesn't matter if it's a sport he plays or comic books.

6. Finally, unless the lady is a complete witch, she'll find an interest in her appealing. Yes it sounds shallow, but it's true. Whenever any of my female friends or I discover a guy might be interested in us, it usually gives us a more faborable opinion of him. It won't completely sell us, but it does help. **Please note that this is "interest." Under no circumstance is stalking, harrassing, or invading personal space acceptable!**

Saturday, August 26, 2006, 8:38 PM

8:38 here

sorry, I know this is supposed to be all about physical traits, but the other stuff does show up through a guys body language.

Saturday, August 26, 2006, 8:40 PM

original y'all hater here. Under NO circumstances whatsoever do I find "y'all" an appropriate "word". It is still slang, and the worst slang word in my mind. All of you is an appropriate term to use. Moreover, if one is speaking to a group, there are a wide variety of phrases (everyone present, those of you here, etc) that can be used. Y'all is in my own little world, the BIGGEST abomination in the English language. The worst offending phrase with it camre from a pastor from Indiana I knew who would say "Y'all wanna come with?" I would outwardly cringe everytime I heard him say that...

Sunday, August 27, 2006, 12:32 AM

Ya'll - 12:32am poster

I'm a Texas. Sorry for the slang, but it comes so natural. I don't really see it as bad grammer. More of a comfortable way to speak with those that I am familiar with. So which state do you hale from?

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 4:14 PM

Ok...so you said physically right?

Here are the top 3:

1. Height. I am 5'11. He's gotta be taller. Over 6'. Am i asking too much?
2. Big. Get your minds out of the gutter. I mean like broad shoulders, strong i guess. If he can man handle me then he's good to go. Hahahaha
3. HIs smile. It makes my heart melt.

And that's all physically i guess...everything else is bonus.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 4:36 PM

I have a slightly different list...so I thought I'd share. (although even among my friends it's fairly different)

1. shoulders (mentioned earlier as the "strong" kind of guy): doesn't have to be football build, but I want a guy who has broader shoulders than I do.
2. eyes: They don't have to be blue or interesting. Just clear and interested in meeting mine. I want someone who wants to look at me.
3. hands: This one's weird. I understand. I like hands with some strength. Scars are cool, they don't have to be "pretty" (I'm not really a manicure kind of girl most of the time). It's a strange thing to describe.
4. accents: I'm a sucker for a Southern drawl. Although anything sound of northern-Lousiana gives me problems. (Once dated a guy who spoke in a Cajun dialect, I couldn't follow conversations. lol) I love a good use of a drawl though. I'm also completely pathetic over a British accent.

Just my preferences! (Not that I've ever used it like a checklist before. It was fun to try to think about what the guys I've found attractive had in common).
:)

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 5:41 PM

Um, I'd have to say face first of all and then body. One specific thing I like is if a guy has a strong, toned back. If his personality is awful, then I won't care anymore about him even if he does have good looks. Also, having morals and intelligence is good too.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 6:34 PM

penis. definitely penis.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 6:53 PM

Broad, strong shoulders, strong forearms and tight fitting t-shirts around the bicep area are killer for me. I also love very tone legs and a thick head of hair-sorry, I just do!

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 10:37 PM

Oh Yea and def a larg dink helps too

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 10:38 PM

So, I'm not from the south, I've never said "Y'all" and think it's ridiculous. I immediately think of Britney Spears or that fat-blonde haired Chef-lady on the Food Network and it creeps me out. It is a form of slang and I just always affiliate it with a lack of education--sorry but it's true.

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 10:41 PM

In this order...

Sense of humor (Well-timed, not goofy)
Chivalry and general thoughtfulness
Tall
Good teeth
Physically fit
Broad shoulders
Successful

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 10:57 PM

i loves me some broad shoulders
dimples are wonderful
men who are not completely into themselves and their own looks (can't STAND fit guys who are constantly touching their own pecs and arms. ugh.)
genuine kindness to children
intelligent eyes

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 11:40 PM

OT

i'm not in the south, and i still think y'all fills a gap in certain circumstances. i'd much rather have a waiter refer to the group at my table as "y'all" than "you guys" which happens nearly every time i go out. i'm not a guy, and i don't want to be called a guy.
most linguists, educators, etc. recognize the difference between more casual, conversational english (this includes internet conversations) and more formal, academic english. i won't even go into the prejudice against african-american vernacular (except to say that).

Thursday, June 28, 2007, 11:48 PM

penis. definitely penis.
Thursday, June 28, 2007, 6:53 PM

Is the size important? *blush*

Monday, August 13, 2007, 3:22 PM

physical: his eyes
his smile
an accent
his bum
muscular, but not bulging..

characteristic sense of humor
sweet
kind
confident, but not arrogant
good with kids ( melts me everytime watching my husband with a little girl we baby sit)
propper manners
knows how to treat a lady
honest

Monday, August 13, 2007, 3:37 PM

Height- How tall he is

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 12:36 AM

hair, and then face. then what he's wearing. i'm not really attracted to guys who are too buff. it's a little scary.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 1:24 AM

I dont thinkk size counts. first hubby was hung but had no idea how to use it... current hubby is not hung but is so much more sensual and can work it better.. so much more of a turn on.
also....
i love strong forearms. and height is also important to me. I'm tall and want a man who's taller. Its not that I think shorter men are less attractive but its how I feel when I'm with them.. I feel like amazon woman and I don't like that feeling.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 9:12 AM

oh.. and I love stubble and bit rugged looking like Sawyer from Lost - yum.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 9:13 AM

usually, it's the guy who wants no attention that makes me do double takes and gets me trying to catch glimpses of him secretly. the "i'm-not-here-to-meet-someone" attitude draws me in.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 9:31 AM

9:12

Interesting... I hear that all the time (hung vs. not hung)

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 11:05 AM

9:12

For "physical attraction" hung would win out every time!!!!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 11:06 AM

i disagree. hung or not hung does not improve the physical appeal of the male sex organ. it's not ever the most attractive part of a man's physique in my opinion. but, a nice nulge in some boxer-briefs is nice to look at.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 11:14 AM

er, that should be "buldge".

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 11:14 AM

yes, knew what you meant. Indeed some bulge more than others!! Guess eye candy - a nice bulge is what I meant by "physical attraction".

Not necessarily the size of the tool itself.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 11:48 AM

Pet Peeve

So you say you are from Canada. Eh?

Monday, October 15, 2007, 11:33 PM

Physically I will have to go with eyes as well. That is what first attracted me to my husband,I also like broad shoulders but not bulky muscles,a little is ok but not crazy buff if you know what I mean.

Personality wise if you are laid back,intelligent and can make me laugh you have won my heart and physical appearance no longer matters.

Tuesday, October 16, 2007, 1:30 AM

I love men with facial hair. Such a turn on. Because I've been with my husband for 7 years, and he almost always has a beard, I think men with no facial hair look as if something is missing. I love tall, thin men with quirky style. I like the strong, silent type.

Tuesday, October 16, 2007, 10:48 AM

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