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official update, is sex import---in a relation----!!

Well everyone............I broke up with him, he turned out to be a little immature for me.

The last few weeks we have been talking and it got worse and the child in him came out, he cried everytime I tried to have a serious conversation with him and then I felt worse (like maybe this might no work out). I realized that he still has growing to do.

I feel good about this and I know that this is what is best, I am super independent and his mom still makes him lunch! No wonder he doesn't know much about sex when I was his first relationship! Maybe down the road things will work out but right now it's not, I mean we are only seven monthes in and I am feeling this way, we should still be in the honey moon phase ya know!

Well thanks for the comments, I hope my decision doesn't discourage others!

Sun. Mar 26, 1:19am

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op here,

forgot to mention that today I am 25 years old.

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 1:21 AM

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Happy Birthday sweetheart!

GO YOU for making such a wonderful decision! 25 yrs. old with a boyfriend who can't listen to and have a mature conversation without breaking into a million little pieces is not worth your time, effort, and TALENT! :)
There are a lot of men out there, young and older, who are mature enough not only to talk about the hard stuff but actively work with you to make sure you're both happy. If you're the only one working at it..well, you did it!
Happy Happy B-day, darling, I'm so happy for you!

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 1:27 AM

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Good for you and Happy Birthday! A man who cries sometimes can be OK, I wish my husband would cry on my should once in awhile, but sounds like that's just one of your issues. There's still plenty of time to meet the right guy, and you deserve someone who makes you feel great! Best wishes!

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 7:11 AM

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THANK HEAVENS!!!! Woohoo! I followed this from its orginal posting and that goodness. I think the lady who has the "sexless" marriage could learn a lot from you, make sure you stop by her thread! Happy Birthday and WAY TO GO!

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 11:42 AM

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I am confused, I thought you were married to him and had 2 kids? Or are you a different person?

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 11:47 AM

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Different person -

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 1:15 PM

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I went through the same thing when I was your age... I'm 10 years your senior. What you discovered wasn't really just a sex issue, but a communication issue (about a difficult topic).

I broke up with a man years ago because I wasn't happy with our sex life and after trying to gently discuss it, buying gentle non-graphic how-to books to share, etc. he finally just REFUSED to address the topic. Not being able to compromise or communicate is even worse than needing to work on your sex life.

You made the right decision and I hope you are proud of yourself. Every person deserves to be satisfied in a relationship.


Sunday, March 26, 2006, 2:53 PM

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To the OP....

That goes back to my post on your original thread that it seems that the most important part of a sexual relationship is the mental part... i.e. lots of times it's more about what's going on in the brain, vs. in the sex organs...

Good for you for recognizing that he may not be mature enough for you at this time. You are young and still have many years ahead of you....Just having a "bedtime buddy" (putting it politely) isn't good... you need to know that you are meshing both in and outside of the bedroom!

One thing you might consider, is to find out what makes your next guy tick before getting into the physical / sexual part of the relationship.... that may help things when you finally get intimate... :-)

Sunday, March 26, 2006, 9:27 PM

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