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what is my fat trying to tell me?

does anyone ever ask themselves what the extra pounds are insulating them from? if so, what sort of answers did you come up with?
how did you begin to answer the question?
Thanks for sharing!

Tue. Mar 14, 9:39pm

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All through school I was the perfect weight with the perfect body. Then I had three kids and "Wham" I was no longer that perfect little body. I think that by keeping the fat I was insulating myself from acknoledging that I was no longer petite. Once I finally let myself admit that I needed to lose weight I could not stand behind the baby fat anymore.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 9:17 AM

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My fat is trying to tell me....

Don't ever let me sneak up on you like this again!! Weigh everyday and keep it in check so we don't have to do this long journey again and you can live happy and healthy for the rest of your life!!!

Blozzom :-)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 9:44 AM

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My fat says to me:

"You are insulated from starvation. But don't forget that I'm here because throughout most of human history starvation has been a fact of life. And it is still a problem throughout the world, so remember to do something for the less fortunate whenever you can."

Being fat = being rich and fortunate, in many respects.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 10:08 AM

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my fat is insulating the pretty girl inside who had confidence and got alot of attention from men, everytime i start to look good and start getting attention again i feel guilt (for my husband?) then i sabotage myself, it's silly I know .

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 10:15 AM

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Thanks all for sharing!
Note to the person who thinks she is silly for her behavior-no way you are silly because you are absolutely not alone in these types of thoughts.
When I find myself losing a couple of pounds and feeling sexy and more attractive, I sabotage myself as well. I think it's a fear of some sort. Intimacy perhaps?
That "pretty little girl" struck a chord w/me as well. I need to think some more about that senario. glo39 :-)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 10:33 AM

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the attention thing...

i was always average.. then lost a lot of weight and got very small for my size. i got so much attention from men, i was astounded. men would just come up and talk to me everywhere - even places like the gas station or coffee shop. i could not handle that attention - i was afraid of being taken advantage of. i quickly put the weight back on & noticed how guys no longer approached me and the fact that they approached the skinny girls i knew became so obvious! i got angry! why not get to know my personality? so i think my fat is a defense against men wanting "one thing". i'm a lot older now so maybe i'm ready for this attention... i hope.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 10:38 AM

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He must be really interested in me / really love me.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 11:14 AM

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that curvy is sexy.

But I'm telling my fat that as soon as I get to a B cup, it's time to put a little wieght back on. C is as small as I want to go.

And yup, it's hard when you lose weight to deal with the guys who show no interest in getting to know you- only interest in getting in bed with you. That is my biggest pet peave right now... so I'm going to lose more wieght just to be an evil tease... (i'm vindictive ;))

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 12:29 PM

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My fat tells me that I've lived too long being complacent. Throughout my college studies, I found my women's studies teachers telling me not to buy into the male propoganda (ie. fashion mags, TV, Movies) that women have to look like sticks to be beautiful, that we should love ourselves the way we are. So I loved myself so much that I became obese and unhappy. I went too far in the other direction. Now I know I must live healthfully as the best way to honor and love myself and my body, not just accept my fat. Now I tell my fat, "I'm losing you because you are unhealthy and I don't want to live with you anymore..." How many men should I have said that too?

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 1:02 PM

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to the last poster


Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 4:55 PM

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Because of how hard I feel that I have honestly worked, I would have to say that it has to be because of the attention that I get and some sort of false humility or what I may percieve of women that seem to have their bodies in order.

Glad you bought this up, becasue this may have been useful for some type of protection in the past but I believe even at my current size that I am fabulous! Why should I hide what I have been blessed with for ANYBODY!

Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 5:02 PM

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It is trying to tell me that I have been putting my needs last. If I had been putting myself first, then I wouldn't need to wonder what my fat is trying to tell me. Well fat, I'M LISTENING! Me first. Like my husband said, you can't take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself first. I know first hand that you CAN, but you lose yourself. And your body. Well, now I'm taking back control. This is my body, my life, health. Goodbye fat.


Wednesday, March 15, 2006, 5:24 PM

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my fat is telling me:

that for a long time i obviously was feeling sad, or lonely, or unloved, or hurt, or grief, or angry and frustrated, tired or bored, or i haven't valued myself enough. (not saying i have had a horrible life, just that i am realizing that i reach for food w/ every little problem or feeling)

it's recently told me "enough is enough girl, stop hiding behind me" by having all of my jeans and cute t-shirts be just tight enough that i feel uncomfortable in them. So i'm trying to listen, trying to be patient, gentle but firm. It took a long time to forge this "relationship" and it's going to take a while to let it go.

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 12:36 AM

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my fat is telling me... I dont take enough pride in my body. A body should be your temple.. the fat is telling me I am unhealthy and I may be losing years of my life... my fat is telling me it doesnt want to be there but I keep it there by making unhealthy choices. my fat is telling me it is sick and tired of making my body sick and tired...... and I'm telling my fat it is time to go.

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 10:44 AM

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my fat is telling me that my boyfriend loves me more than i love myself. it also tells me that i look gross in clothing and am forced to dress like a 40 year old because designer clothes don't fit my 23 year old body :(

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 12:43 PM

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Double awesome

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 1:41 PM

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My fat is telling me that my life is secure and happy now. It no longer needs to protect me from looking good in order to fend off violators. I have healed physically, psycologically and emotionally, and I have a loving husband and kids that remind me everyday that I am loveable and safe. It tells me that now that my mind and soul are healthy, my body needs to be too...and that that's why it gets in the way so much when I try to exercise...because it needs to go!

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 1:46 PM

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All of you have blessed me by sharing your comments and blessed yourself by taking the time to glance inside youselves and think about this.
We are so not alone!
I see myself in every one of you. I swear I do.

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 1:47 PM

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I just wanted to let everyone know that my fat is telling me GOODBYE as I feel the burn burn burn and work it off:o)

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 3:25 PM

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to above

you go!

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 5:49 PM

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My fat is keeping me from being kidnapped. Everyone knows that fat people are harder to kidnap! :)

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 7:16 PM

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its SOOOO true..

I was attacked when I was 13.. and I became so big and strong and really built myself and with food as well so that it would never happen again.... but now I know that I am safe.. and I need to do this for me... I am safe.. and I will be happy.

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 7:24 PM

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my fat is telling me to eat less and exercise more

Thursday, March 16, 2006, 10:16 PM

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I really had a feeling that a lot of us are hiding behind our fat out of fear and as a coping mechanism because of some sort of abuse we suffered in the past. It's time for us to deal w/that and know we are safe and face our fears.
I believe that to be true.
There are some beautiful strong women underneath that cover up. We s/n/b afraid to reveal that especially to ourselves.

Friday, March 17, 2006, 9:30 AM

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My fat used to tell me that my mother had some big-time parenting issues revolving around food. When she died, when I was a child, and I was "free", I freed myself to shovel in anything that didn't move to fill a psychological hole
she and I dug out together.

It took me fifty years for the light bulb to flick on, and forgive my mother.

The hole disappeared then, and so did my food shovel.

Friday, March 17, 2006, 10:35 AM

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My fat is telling me to quit making excuses.

It's telling me not to let it hide.

It's daring me to hunt it down and kill it.

My fat is telling me that if it stays, it'll try to kill me.

My fat whines about how hard it is to excercise.

My fat whispers to me to remember every time I ate half a pizza by myself.

My fat goads me, mocks me when I want to quit.

My fat talks to me like the DI from Full Metal Jacket.

I will be happy to see it go.

Friday, March 17, 2006, 3:58 PM

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what my fat is telling me

my fat is telling me that I didn't value my relationship enough to honor it by treating myself with respect and honoring my body.

Monday, July 09, 2007, 9:45 AM

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my fat is laughing at me right now. It got what it wanted - me to look and feel miserable.

Monday, July 09, 2007, 1:08 PM

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I totally agree with the "insulation against men" thing- that's how I've been. I was raped after high school by someone I really trusted and I know that one of the reasons I have kept weight on is because of that. It's a protection- if I get rejected by a guy, I can feel like it's because of my weight, so it doesn't make me feel like there's somethning wrong with ME. The problem is that it always backfires on me because I beat myself for being fat and think well, there has to be something wrong with you since if he really liked YOU he would stay with you even though you've gained weight. It's a viscious cycle.

I've really been working on it over the last few years to try to get "ready" to be at a healthy weight and be able to handle the attention. I think once I do get to my goal weight I will probably go to therapy to deal with it as well- I think I need the therapy then much more than now! lol

Monday, July 09, 2007, 1:23 PM

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This is what my fat says:

"I'm here because you don't have motivation. I'm here because you can't get off the couch. I'm here weighing you down, because I have power over you, and I can get you to give in to chocolate and donuts in order to support me! I need the support, the feed, that you give me. I don't care that the muscles under me struggle to lift me. I don't like them because they use the food that should be mine. FEED ME!"

Monday, July 09, 2007, 4:05 PM

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my fat is telling me, feed me Feed Me, FEED ME! I am always hungry. Sigh...

Monday, July 09, 2007, 10:01 PM

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I equate my rape at 16 to looking good, and I've been afraid to look good ever since. Now my deteriorating health scares me more than my past.

Monday, July 09, 2007, 11:54 PM

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my fat is telling me

Your ugly

no one deserves a fat ass like you
what does your boyfriend see in you? how can he love such an ugly body
this is why your insecure about your relationship
this is why your always depressed...
this is why you will never think your pretty enough....
if you dont want to feel the way you do the lose me..

Tuesday, July 10, 2007, 4:08 AM

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