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Ashamed of weightloss?

This may not make sense to everyone, but I'm sure there are some people out there who feel my pain. I've been working REALLY hard at losing weight. I have lost 50 pounds in five months. It's so flattering when people tell me how nice I look, or even notice that I've "lost a little weight."

The thing that bothers me is when people ask how much I have lost. I know that they don't mean any harm by it, but it's sort of embarrassing to admit that I was 50 pounds heavier than I am right now (I'm still about 30 pounds from goal weight).

Has anyone else ever been embarrassed to share the number of pounds they have lost?

Tue. Mar 14, 4:48pm

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You don't have to be ashamed of your weight loss, you should be very very proud of yourself! However, if you are uncomfortable telling them the number, then don't. When they ask, say "enough to feel great!.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006, 4:52 PM

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I am going through the same thing . I have lost 42 pounds and have about 40 more to go. I have been honest , but some people have made comments that aren't meant to be hurtful but have been . I get embarrassed because of my weight but I just try and remember that I am working on it everyday . We need to feel proud of our accomplishments and proud of ourselves . I agree with the last comment . We don't need to share the amount of pounds we have lost . Just let them know how good we feel !!

Tuesday, March 14, 2006, 5:11 PM

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That's a hard question to answer... When someone who isn't related to me asks how much weight I've lost, I usually tell them "not quite enough".

"more than half of what I want to lose" might work...

"none of your @#$% business" isn't bad either... There's polite ways to say it...

Friday, March 17, 2006, 4:06 PM

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I enjoy saying how much I lost... But weight has never meant anything to me. So I've lost 40lbs ish. That means nothing. I've gone from squeezing into a 16, to 12 fitting perfectly. That's all that matters to me. No one can see the numbers on the scale- but everyone sees my sleek curves

I refuse to feel shame associated with my weightloss, or even my previous weight. I'm cute at 177, I was cute at 215. I will be cute at 160. I say be proud of the numbers, and enjoy the chance to brag.

Friday, March 17, 2006, 4:19 PM

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Sort of a related topic/question: I lost 20 lbs about a year ago due to illness and stress. I’m 5’4”, and now weigh 95 lbs (and have been at this weight for a year). I know I’m too thin, and I know I look unhealthy. However, I just can’t seem to put the weight back on. When people who knew me see me again for the first time, they look shocked and ask, “Wow, what happened? How much weight have you lost?” I don’t want to get into the personal side of my illness and stress, but also get frustrated when people assume anorexia is at the cause of the weight loss… any suggestions on how to answer these questions? Thanks.


Saturday, March 18, 2006, 9:18 AM

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For those embarrassed by numbers (whether they're too high, too low, or a lot of pounds lost) why not just say "I don't weigh myself" if you don't want to talk about numbers. It seems to me that's the easiest thing to do.

Saturday, March 18, 2006, 11:23 AM

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I lost 80 pounds (about 30 more to go) and people are so freaking nosy. Especially people who NEVER gave you a compliment before. They tell you you look so much better, and then ask how much.

I tell them that information is personal and if they would like any weight loss tips, I'm happy to share. But that's the end of it.

Sunday, March 19, 2006, 10:52 AM

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i own a hair saol and am asked everyday...I LOVE IT!! i feel sooooo good that i hvae lost 55 lbs and am not ashamed one bit to let anyone who asks (and evend some who dont) know about it!! its a huge acomplishment and i think anyone who loses alot not matter how much more you have to go needs to be praised for it!! its more of how you feel about yourself...and i feel GREAT!! oh and i still have at least 40 more to go to be at a " healthy" weight

Sunday, March 19, 2006, 1:44 PM

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