Desperately Seeking Skinny!!!

Hello all! I call myself Desperately Seeking Skinny! I was once that girl...I'd like to be that girl again. I have yo-yo'd my entire life....but my string broke and I'm stuck in the "up" position, and at the highest I've ever been. I really have a hard time w/ staying on track. It seems like my will power has been attacked by kryptonite. I'm hoping to meet people that have felt my pain and know the daily struggle of mom, full time job, possibly getting divorced and love food....it just doesn't love me back!
I haven't always been twice the woman I once was! In my prime, I was 110lbs with a ton of energy. Ah, then life set in...I'm(30, 4'11", 155lbs)a first time mommy of an 11 month old girl. I do have a husband, but it looks like we're facing divorce. So not only am I needing to lose 40+lbs...I need emotional support also!!!!! I work full time and take care of my child at night and weekends, so finding time to do things right is challenging in itself. It doesn't help that I LOVE food. All kinds and everything. It's just hard to control. Is there anyone out there that can help???????I could use a friend.

Wed. Jan 21, 5:16pm

Girl, we're here for you. :]

Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 6:52 PM

You've got a lot going on! You can and will get where you want to go with very deliberate choices to get you there.

First consider the possibility that your love of food isn't your primary issue. Lots of people love food, but don't have a weight problem...I assume you loved food at 110 pounds, as well? Are you using food to cope with your life stressors? Even if your love of food were the problem...if it's a problem, it's a problem. You still have to decide - do I want to eat? Or do I want to lose weight? Which is more important to me?

No matter what is going on in your life - you can always make time for what is important. Everyone is busy these days. The question is - are you willing to make the time? Is it important enough to you to make the time to exercise, prepare healthful meals, find a way to relieve stress that doesn't involve food, etc? And, all of those things will ultimately help you better deal with whatever life brings you.

Hope you find what you're looking for here on PT! You do have A LOT going on, OP. But you have it in you to make changes and get back the body and life you want! We all do. Now go do it, already!

Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 7:40 PM

enjoy the baby!! that's most important. good luck healing your bod and relationship.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 10:53 PM

response

keep your chin up! with everything going on in your life, it seems so easy to put yourself last in line of taking care of yourself (such a woman thing to do). but find the time to do something a couple times a week. this sounds virtually imposible, i'm sure, but it can be done. even if it's 1/2 hour a day on the weekends of doing lunges/ab work with your baby. make a game of it somehow. or do stretching with her around. my nephew is a bit older, but loves to think he's pushing me down when in reality he's helping me do a center stretch :) or make time at work to even go for a walk around the block or walk some stairs for a bit.

i know this sounds (insert right word here)...but i sometimes make use of my time in the shower if i feel that i didn't do enough in a workout one day...i'll do squats or stretches...heck, i can't work up a sweat :) soapy squats.

i think we are all with you when you say you love food. you've heard it all before i'm sure, but next time you're on a roll with a binge, try and stop for a few minutes...time it if you have to...to think about what you're doing/eating and why you're doing/eating it.

we're here for you! if you need any other advice/support/shoulder to lean on, let me know.

you can do what you set your mind to.

Thursday, January 22, 2009, 11:29 AM

Why are you so sure you are getting a divorce? Sometimes it really is worth it to try to repair your relationship. Do you still love him? It is no fun being a single mom and having your child have to shuttle between households and dealing with husband's new wife someday. Try to calm down and get your priorities in order. You can get to the life you want step by step.

Thursday, January 22, 2009, 11:19 PM

Me Too!

The first several lines of your comment sounded like my life story. My string has broken as well and I am at my heaviest (even heavier than when I was 9 months pregnant). Although I have a supportive husband, I still struggle. We have two busy teenagers, work full time, feel as though I stay in the road, and have very little time to/for myself. I live in a small town and there are no weight loss programs or gyms in town. I live out in the country so there is nobody to walk with and It is so much easier to flop on the couch than get up and exercise.

Friday, January 23, 2009, 8:40 AM

Let's face it - it's EASY being overweight and sedentary. It's easy to gain weight and stay fat. Our culture makes it easy, our lifestyles make it easy, our mindset makes it easy, our quest for an easy solution makes it easy. If we're waiting for weight loss to become as easy as weight gain...forget it! It will never happen! Actually, it can happen, but it's not until we fight through the discomfort brought about by change, cravings, and exertion and adopt a new mindset about the importance of taking care of ourselves that losing weight becomes 'easy.'

Friday, January 23, 2009, 9:21 AM

To the poster who lives in the small town with two teenagers and no one to work out with - have you tried asking your teenagers to work out or walk with you? Whenever my mom asks me to walk with her, I jump at it, as I want her to take better care of herself than she does. Right now we live in different cities, so it really only happens when we visit each other, but even when I was a teenager and didn't want to spend much time with my parents, if my mom asked me to exercise with her in order to help her, I would jump at the chance!

However, be sure that if/when you ask, you are asking them to do a favor and help you. My mom once made the mistake of saying "you should join me because you could use the exercise too." Suddenly, I was totally uninterested in exercising with her! It's just the mentality of teenagers - they don't like to be criticized! My mom still can't get my little sister to exercise with her, but of course, my mom's always criticizing the way my sister looks!

In the end, if you get your teens to exercise with you, the end result is that you both get exercise, and you get quality time with them! Just don't phrase it that way, and you'll be more likely to actually get to do it!

Friday, January 23, 2009, 4:16 PM

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