try VENTING not EATING

well as my log says Im getting divrced, but today is my four year anniverary.. I did some emotional eatinglast night thats so unlike me yesterday.. pizza, pepsi, chips, that type of food is so unlike my normal things I eat..

well today I decided I will NOT let him ruin my life.. that relationship is done and dusted.. this journey is for me and I WILL not emotional eat to comfort myself..

food like a drug when used the wrong way is only a temporrary fix.. when you stop eating. the problems are still there.. so just like a person that needs a fix. its only a temporrary high. so today I will decide to get my fix from healthy choices and making a better life for me..

I will get sexy as hell than go to him with divorce papers in hand and let him eat his heart out what he walked away from..

yea I know that may sound a bit chilidish to think revenge is sweet, but its better to have that kind of sweet that doesnt go to my hips... besides he is the one that decided it was over.. so I have decided my emotional eating about him is over. hes not worth it.. I am worth this time to take care of me..

anyone else need to vent.. Im here to listen

* lynneta*

Sun. Oct 5, 11:59am

AMEN GIRL!

~Jaclyn~

Sunday, October 5, 2008, 1:16 PM

I am in a simillar situation. I had to make the decision months back that I was WORTH something. My ex was emotionally and physically abusive. I spent months being told I was not attractive, I was gross, I was a bad person, that no one would ever love me and that him hitting me was the nicest touch I would ever feel as no one would ever want to touch smeone like me. I spent months eating away the pain of those words. Then one day I woke up. I was going to him feel like an idiot. I can lose weight, I can cut my hair, get better clothes, and even if I didn't I would end up with someone better then he could ever be, a happy me.

I am learning to like myself now, and although I think it will be a LONG time until I can date again, when I do, I know I will demand and get better.

Sunday, October 5, 2008, 6:10 PM

Its all about believing in yourself and it helps to have others in your life giving you positive support. My first husband used to put down my body also and that was when I was only 110 lbs! He said my chest was too small (so why did he marry me then?) so here I am years later at 145 lbs and married to someone who says I am beautiful no matter if I am small or big. In a way it makes it hard to diet because he doesn't care. So when I lose weight now its for me not anyone else.

Sunday, October 5, 2008, 7:22 PM

Ladies you are sooo very very right!! We are worth it!!! Keep up the positive attitudes!!!! I have had my share of bad relationships but nothing like what is being described here. I am sorry that you all have gone through this. I met the most wonderful man I could even have in my life just about 5 years ago. We met when I was 300 pounds and still together to this day. Things are only getting better! I do hope all of you find the happiness I have with my boyfriend.

Rena

Sunday, October 5, 2008, 7:57 PM

Stay Strong Ladies, you (we all are) worth it and so much more. There are so many great guys in the world. Love yourselves up to a really high vibration and you'll attract a pure Love.

God Bless You!! and Thanks Be to God for your new and prosperous Love lives.

Sunday, October 5, 2008, 10:51 PM

lynneta - we love you and wish you all the best. you are worth more than your binges. you are an inspiration to a lot of us. Please take care of yourself!

Monday, October 6, 2008, 4:54 PM

well guys It got bitter today between me and my soon to be x. he finally emailed ma back and we shared a couple of heated emails.. than I decided Im better than this.. I emailed him wishing him luck and continued happiness in his new relationship.. the best thing I can do is concentrate on me.. I probably had a few foods I shouldn't have had, but they were in moderation and they were not emotionally eating.. it was not being prepared when I was out and my head was starting to pound.. so I grabbed a few things, but over all it was a good day..

my marriage is over. whats done is done. its time to take care of me.. thanks guys for all the support.. I am taking it one step at a time .. one choice at a time.

*lynneta*

I am worth this

Monday, October 6, 2008, 11:17 PM

Good attitude! Keep it up. The pain probably wont go away for a while, but as long as you know who's in control of you, you're going to keep up the awesome progress you have already made! Look forward to hearing how you are doing tomorrow.

Monday, October 6, 2008, 11:58 PM

hey 11:58 thanks for your words. yesterday was a ok day.. today will even be beter full of healthy choices and exercising.. yes the pain will go away, but I wont let it consume me.. I love my kids, but I love me enough to do what I need to do to take care of me.

so onwards and upwards.. or is that downwards lol. the BL is on tonight.. I get so inspired watching them.. it takes me back to how I was when I started this journey.I an ompletely relate to how heavy they are. hmm this is becoming like a bog about me.. I made this thread so everyone could vent.. jump in and share. scream, yell whatever you need to do BUT eat..

lets mke this day a wonderful day full of healthy choices

*lynneta*

Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 4:08 AM

No revenge is sweeter than looking ridiculously hot!!! My boyfriend, or perhaps ex-boyfriend, left for 8 months to another country. I have spent the entire time eating my emotions over that. He is my first love, and I'm only young and didn't know how to cope. As a result of the eating, I am now unhappy with myself and how I look, and he is coming back in a month! The only thing left to do... eat healthy, exercise, and ooze confidence.

Sunday, November 1, 2009, 4:53 AM

By the way, good on you for deciding to change your habits!!! Good luck!

Sunday, November 1, 2009, 4:54 AM

I'm going through a painful divorce too. I've reached my goal weight, but the emotional eating is still such a struggle. Reading everyone's positive thoughts has helped me this morning. Thank you.

Sunday, November 1, 2009, 9:39 AM

I am so proud of you for being aware of your emotional eating and what triggers it. That is a hard step. I believe that your self-worth does not come from our relationships. This is HARD concept to get and I still struggle with this.

How we are treated by others, the words they say, the emails they send, they are not what defines us. What makes us beautiful is the very fact that WE are beautiful. Our children with thank us for exhibiting beauty with the world seems like it is burning down around us.

I have been there and in many ways I am still there. But the power to heal is within grasp and I believe that you will continue to thrive.

Sunday, November 1, 2009, 10:17 AM

Well done, OP!!! you have inspired me.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009, 10:27 AM

great thread!

Wednesday, December 2, 2009, 2:12 PM

aww,,i wish u best of luck!!!

Friday, April 23, 2010, 8:57 PM

Wow.i too am in a similar situation, i binge eat at every little fight i have with my boyfriend. Just two days ago, we were in a pretty heated argument. I've been doing this for about 9years now. I keep saying ok one more time and i'm done with this relationship.. its unhealthy and i'm just plain unhappy. Of course its awesome when its good but when its bad its terrible. Physical and emotional abuse is what it ends with every time we argue. Its always me and something i've done. Always my attitude. I've tried to be positive and have a better attitude. I use the gym in the mornings before work to vent and work off the stress. I have two beautiful children. Its especially hard when i have no support to do things for me. If i was to say that or did do something for me.. i'm selfish and only thinking of myself. I just hope i can do this and get thru it.

Friday, April 29, 2011, 9:53 AM

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