Question for women who have had babies

I just had a baby 4 months ago, and I'm having a few issues with intimacy and intercourse. I'm just curious how common these issues are or were for other women.... Lack of desire to have sex, dryness, and pain (kind of like a burning feeling) during intercourse. How long is this going to last???

Thu. May 29, 7:43pm

I remember those days. Four months out I was too tired to even think about having sex - never mind the physical issues you describe! For me lack of desire had everything to do with the physical demands of caring for a new baby and not getting enough sleep. The dryness and pain go hand in hand and that can be helped with some lube. So even though I was tired and not always in the mood using some lube at least made it enjoyable!

Congrats on the new baby! Be sure to remember to take care of yourself - you'll be a better mom, friend, and spouse (and you'll feel better!)

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 8:00 PM

Maybe I am alone in this, but my baby is 18 months old and I have only felt good during sex in the last couple of months. Sad, isn't it? Keep up the lubricant, make sure you have lots of foreplay and have your hubby take it slow. Good luck and I hope you recover faster than I did!

Thursday, May 29, 2008, 9:31 PM

I remember those days too. Are you breastfeeding?

Friday, May 30, 2008, 11:42 AM

I have had 3 children, and my sex drive was strong right away after all three births. Just like every thing else everyone varies, but if it becomes a concern talk to you doctor, don't let it distroy your marriage.

Friday, May 30, 2008, 11:57 AM

Yes I remember thinking I would be fine if I never had sex again. I don't think my husband would have liked that so much. It does get better though.

Friday, May 30, 2008, 4:08 PM

I was told ...

that it takes 2 full years for your body to recover from child-birth but if you are experiencing issues that are causing you concern 4 months after, I would talk to your Dr. about it! Your body may be going through all those hormonal changes but your partner's isn't and 4 months is a long time without physical intimacy in a marriage. I would at least want him to know that I was looking into it and not willing to settle...

Friday, May 30, 2008, 4:14 PM

4:14
I agree with you, HORMONES!!!

Plus you are probably exhausted 99% of the time. That takes all the purr out of any kitten. Give it time.

Once the baby starts sleeping better, eating real food, and you get used to the routine, it will ease up and you will feel better all around.

Saturday, May 31, 2008, 6:58 PM

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