getting a guy to lose weight

anyone here had success in being an effective "role model" for your guy? I feel like I am talking to a wall....

Sat. May 3, 12:42pm

Firstly a person has to want to lose weight to do it. Just because you want him to loe weight it dsnt mean that he should. He my be happy as he is.

On the other had my other half joined the gym and cut out a lot of rubbish in his diet due to watching me do it and feeling left out (i guess). He said he didnt want me looking hot and having people wonder what i was doing with him. This was kinda daft as neither of us are anywhere near fat but at least it got him exercising. As we all know you can be slim and unhealthy.

Saturday, May 3, 2008, 2:36 PM

I think the first step is to stop talking about it. Talking about it is seen as nagging, nagging builds resistance (and resentment.) Make it a non-issue in your relationship. And just take care of yourself and lead by example.

Monday, May 5, 2008, 9:39 AM

I think you should also ask yourself why you want him to lose weight. Is it a health issue, or a vanity issue?

Monday, May 5, 2008, 9:50 AM

my boyfriend and I are on a "health kick" together - for the last 4 months. We got a couples memebership at the local Y for christmas (the gift that keeps on giving he says). We go on bike rides, hikes, to the gym, together. He is more into weight lifting though - that seems like a more comfortable place for guys in the gym.
As far as diet - I dont think he will abandon his beefaroni, pizza and taco bell habits - but I do have him eating more fruit and some lean cuisines so it is something.
I should say he doesnt need to lose much weight (in fact i dont want him to get "skinny" i like guys a little bigger). He just needs to have more muscle and less fat.

Monday, May 5, 2008, 11:55 AM

I agree with previous posters in that he has to want to lose the weight for it to work. But when he does it's so great to have a partner in your journey!

In my experience it took my husband almost 2 years to join me in my new "healthy" lifestyle. But once he was committed it was wonderful. We hold each other accountable to go to the gym. We prepare meals together and he has really made an effort to cut out fatty foods. He was raised in a family that is big on eating so it was quite a change for him! He is happy and healthy with me but he had to be ready on his own!

I would just keep leading by example but be sure not to make him feel bad about his current weight or lack of exercise. I found that encouragement and especially telling him how hot he looks now was the best way!!

Monday, May 5, 2008, 12:09 PM

When I began losing weight I didn't expect my husband to lose weight as well, it was my issue, I needed to lose weight to look and feel better about myself. But once I lost several pounds myself he then began to feel he needed to. No he doesn't eat the 4 fruits and 4 vegetables a day I do, or work out the 30 min - 2 hours I do but he has taken steps on his own without me pushing him into it. Besides when I began eating healthier he didn't have much choice in the matter meaning I bought fat free cheddar cheese, ground turkey, things that he really didn't even notice. Now he stopped drinking soda on his own, drinks V8 fusion for 1 vege and 1 fruit, and eats salads for dinner every night, as long as I make it for him. change your lifestyle for yourself and he will eventually do so as well.

Monday, May 5, 2008, 9:56 PM

Ive been trying to get my bf to lose some weight not cause hes fat, I just want him to workout with me and quit bringing home chocolates and cookies. Damn him!

Friday, May 16, 2008, 12:01 PM

I agree, you can't force anyone to lose weight, they have to be motivated themselves.

That being said, a good way to get your hubby involved is to do things that require you to get out and get moving.... :-) I get him to go dancing with me, we hike, and I take him on long walks. The time together is precious and helps keep us happier... which also helps in losing the weight!

Eating better also helps. Cook / eat / buy better quality food, more fruits & veggies, etc. then slowly things will change--since you will both be eating better....

Friday, May 16, 2008, 10:27 PM

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