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The Moment you KNEW You Had To Change!

I've been reflecting with my friends over our healthy changes in diet and activity level.
We all "knew" for a while that we had to change, but did nothing. Then there seemed to be that one moment where it actually clicked and we KNEW for REAL we had to make a change and make it stick.

For me, and this is so strange, that moment was putting on a favorite sweater and feeling in disbelief how tight the upper arms were. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. Ever since then I've been on the right path.

Anyone else here have a Moment of Truth?

Wed. Apr 16, 10:54am

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the day i stepped on the scale and it read 200 pounds. i'm now 45 pounds lighter and much happier!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 11:06 AM

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I've also known for a while that I am overweight and needed to change. But even after the doctor told me I needed to lose weight because I was borderline type 2 diabetic, I still did nothing. Why do we do that to ourselves? Then a couple of weeks ago, when I put on my jeans, which are a size 16, and the thighs were TIGHT, I decided that I'd had enough. I absolutely refuse to buy another size of clothes unless it's smaller! I'm tired of always wearing jeans and a t shirt because nothing that's in style, or cute looks good on me. I think in my case, I was just too lazy to change. Now that I am doing what's right for my health, I have more energy and I've lost some weight. Here's to never going back!!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 11:25 AM

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I went to the doctor for the first time in a few years. I'm 22 and she told me my BP was on the high end of average. I knew that any higher was a place I didn't want to go. I signed up for the local gym a few hours after my appointment.

So here I am — 7 months later, 84 lbs lighter. I had another check up last week and my blood pressure was right where it needed to be.. What an amazing feeling!

I am thankful for that "moment of truth" every day.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 11:32 AM

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When I hoped on a scale after Christmas and a three digit number starting with a 2 flashed back at me! I hadn't weighed myself in a while, and I found out I had gained 35 pounds in about 8 months. Scary reality check! I've lost about ten pounds so far, slowly but surely. PP, Dothezonk you are an inspiration!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 11:58 AM

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coming back to Europe...

an realizing that I used to be able to wear whatever I wanted to wear and could buy all the cute designer clothes. when I came back a few months ago I realized I no longer could shop at my favorite boutiques because they don't sell anything bigger than an here I am 6 weeks later, 9 lbs lighter and my size 10s are practically falling off me...time to go shopping soon!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 12:07 PM

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84 lbs in 7 mnths congrats to you. it took me several yrs to lose 80 lbs and keep it off until i got pregnant then i gained every lb back so now i am 3 lbs away from my prepregnancy weight and hope to be under 200 by 1/1/09

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:18 PM

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Getting ready to turn 40 and knowing that it really isn't going to get any easier when I cross the threshold.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:19 PM

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i dont know fro mee if i had an exact aha moment but i do remeber seeing a picture of me about 5 yrs ago and saying omg who is that. because it cant be me. then i weighed myself and i topped in at 315 my heaviest ever and from then on i vowed never to let my self see the 300s again

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:20 PM

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I think that is the cutoff for a lot of people. So, I went to the doctor and the scale read 200. Mind you I had all of my clothes on except my shoes. But anyway, 200 WAY too much, fully clothed or stark naked. Sine then I have lost 17 pounds and hope to loose another 13 before swimsuit season.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:30 PM

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My boyfriend comparing me to another girl as in "you know, she is a bigger girl, like you". He totally didn't mean it as an insult but that stuck with me. I weighed myself for the first time in years, calculated my BMI and saw I was "overweight". I started working out 5-6 days a week after that and started watching my diet 1 month after that. Now he has me show off my muscles to his friends.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:41 PM

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seeing a picture of myself and not recoginizing that the huge person there was me. i looked old, frumpy, with rolls of fat. i looked like an elephant!!!! that was the moment i realized that i needed to get control.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 1:44 PM

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Actually reading this thread

I have a lot of motivation for losing weight, and all the tools, but I lazily work at this whole weightloss shtick. While reading everyone else's motivations it hit me, I am right where everyone else says was their "final straw" (I have borderline high BP, I am in the 200's almost 300's, I hate the clothes I can fit in, I have seen past pictures and longed to be that skinny again, I have seen current pictures and hide them or throw them away in embarrassment etc.) why don't I care... the truth is I do, I just shove it under the mountain of food I eat to quiet those facts.

Thank you all for my moment of truth.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 3:54 PM

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My moment was different, because it wasn't a negative thing. At a time when I was down a wonderful person reminded me that we choose our lives anew every day. And I chose to be lighter and stronger.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 4:17 PM

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i knew I had to lose weight when I had to buy size 20 work clothes but I didn't actually do anything about it until this day.... we were at the pool and my husband has a big belly.. we compared waists with a tape measurer - me wanting to show him that my middle was thinner and the tape measure did not lie! we were the same and I was mortified. then I decided this cannot continue.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 4:43 PM

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I saw a vacation pic and my face looked fat - I have always been a jock so it freaked me out. I had stopped working out and started eating whatever I wanted. I was 220 and felt it. I knew I had to change. Now I am 175 exercise 10 x a week and eat healthy 95% of the time.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 5:40 PM

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3:54 so you have given up ? ?

You say you have motivation...You can change - start with just ONE small diet and exercise habit at a time and make it FOREVER - every day for the rest of your life...go for a walk oncee a day and eat one healthier meal - say breakfast of oatmeal and fruit and just stick with that one thing forever and build from there.

You can be healthy for life...!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 7:14 PM

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3:54 - YOU CAN AND WILL MEET YOUR GOALS! Remember, we're all here to help, support, and encourage you. I'm glad you found your moment of truth - keep it in your mind, and in your heart, and make your dreams come true!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 7:33 PM

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Yesterday was my moment of truth. I had been binge eating for days/weeks/months/years/decades and hadn't been able to stop it for any length of time these past 28 years.

I had such a bad binge hangover yesterday morning. I vowed to stick to healthy eating and get some exercise, "just for today". I did both but after the gym and a shower, I spent the rest of the day depressed and in my bathrobe. I normally "eat over" my bad feelings but I just let them out yesterday. Guess what? Those feelings didn't kill me! Why do I feel the need to eat over every little negative feeling?

My psychologist sister advised me last night to write a letter to my inner binge eater. I'm going to conquer this one day at a time before the obesity kills me. Stay tuned.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 8:18 PM

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3:54 here

no, I haven't given up... just opened my eyes that those things I can say "I may have/be..... but at least..." are things that are less trivial then I have been seeing them. I always enable myself with excuses... that is why I have been dieting for so long and really unable to lose weight, not bcause of all my excuses, but because I allow myself to have all those excuses.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 9:16 PM

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Saw a picture of myself at my high school reunion with 2 girls I was good friends with. Both had become marathon runners, and it showed, while I was the girl in the big red dress. Clearly there must have been a funhouse mirror in the store's dressing room because I have no idea why I thought that dress looked good on me. I keep that pic in my drawer at work and glance at it whenever I lose my motivation.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 10:20 PM

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I saw myself in a video and was totally shocked..

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 10:53 PM

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3:54 - so what is your new plan?


Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 10:54 PM

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I'm w/ you 3:54!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008, 11:04 PM

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I think I had a series of moments that all eventually added up to the "ah ha" moment. Seeing old pictures. Not washing my size 12's jeans so I could fit into them and finally having to switch to jogging pants because I refused to buy a size bigger than 12 (but I wanted to walk around in jogging pants?). Eating until it hurt every day. Comments from my family.

I found PT on accident (surfing Craigslist). I'm so happy I did. I went from 168 lbs./size 12-14 to 145 lbs. size 4-6....and still going.

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 9:54 AM

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PP, I'm glad for your sucess! I just don't ever understand clothing sizes. I'm 5'4" and 145 and still fit size 12, though maybe i could get away with size 10s, but never tried any on.

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 10:02 AM

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Binge Eating

Speaking of binge eating - that was me on Friday, Saturday and Sunday - I was so frustrated that I hadn't lost any weight - I gave in to the yuck! Today, I looked up fat smash diet on google and this web sit arose - sounds great looks great and Lord willing is just what I need!

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 10:22 AM

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I had a series of two moments both involving my stomach: first, I saw a picture of myself drinking and doing karaoke (two of the least attractive activities when combined together) and noticed that I had, somehow, grown a substantial beer gut (six months pregnant size). I had, even while I was heavy, always maintained a flat stomach, but somehow it had gotten out of control. I dismissed the picture, blaming my stomach on being "swollen" from drinking. And then one morning, before getting in the shower, I saw the worn out stretch marks from my adolescence creeping from my hips almost to my belly button. Suddenly bright red. I vowed that day to become a healthier person, and sixty pounds later, I most definitely am :)

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 10:28 AM

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3:54 again

My new plan is to actually TRY... I am hiring a personal trainer, within the next couple weeks, and am starting immediately by logging all my bites. It is hard to stay with it because I am so used to half-assing it (thus the need for professional help)... no more. I have a food journal I will keep with me and log BEFORE I mindlessly eat and try to actually break a sweat at the gym until I can afford the help.

Thank you for caring.

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 1:53 PM

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no sucess? try HABIT

3:54 - for what it is worth - my diet breakthrough came by picking one meal to eat the same thing - breakfast (just oatmeal and fruit) EVERY DAY no exceptions and then slowly added good habits from there - I lost 50 lbs over 1 1/2 years. now I eat very similar healthy things most meals except dinner and I am in the best shape of my life

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 5:23 PM

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3:54: Congrats on hiring the personal trainer! That's a huge step and a big financial investment. I love the accountability of a good trainer. Keep up the good work and keep us posted.

Thursday, April 17, 2008, 5:52 PM

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My aha!!!

Mine's kinda a twofer... The first part is that I've been trying to get on with the local law enforcement agencies. I gotta start out small (work release or jail) but that's because I don't have any family that used to be cops. Well, 4 different interviews, and still in step 1 of the process.. GRRRR.... I so want to be a cop, yet at 26 I'm getting closer and closer to aging out. Most of the local forces age out at 38 or younger..
The second moment was a girl I work with. She works at the local work release full time and works security with me part time. Well...the factory we work at started a Biggest Loser type competition that goes until October. She was telling me how she joined and how she was scared(she has a lot to lose too) Her and I are definately the "big girls" Well, the next day I joined in the competition too. Her motivation has helped me, and we try and keep each other accountable. We haven't gotten to work together in awhile, so I'm anxious to hear about her progress and to tell her mine.

For anyone struggling, a good inspiration person does wonders!!!! It's also great to have people that will hold you accountable for your actions. Thanks so much to this community of peertrainers. You all strengthen me and motivate me. Thanks so much. I hope to one day be able to give back to others the way you all have given to me.

Friday, April 18, 2008, 5:04 PM

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I, like previous posters, had several moments which should have motivated me to lose the weight. Looking at myself in photos and seeing a frumpy woman who turned out to be me ("That cannot possibly be my butt!"). Having to buy successively larger clothes, until I was a size 14. Becoming injured any time I began a workout program. Being diagnosed with high cholesterol, high blood pressure. Worrying about developing diabetes. Feeling embarrassed every time I have had to wear a bathing suit or evening wear for the last 10 years. yada yada yada. Two things finally motivated me to lose weight. 1) I always had a fabulous, fun sex life with my darling husband (who never made even a single critical comment about my weight), and we were losing it mostly because I lost my spontaneity (I mean who wants to be naked with the lights on when you are as over weight as I was?!?) and 2) I read in a diet book about how LDL and excess glucose damage your arteries, and it scared the heck out of me. Enough that I changed my lifestyle right then and there. Happily, and have not looked back.

Friday, April 18, 2008, 7:53 PM

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When I had my resting metabolic rate tested and it was 1400 cal.
waist to hip-89%

When people at the gym tell me 'Im built like you" and they are much heavier than I me

Thursday, June 05, 2008, 2:15 PM

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needing to buy size 20 work clothes

Thursday, June 05, 2008, 2:23 PM

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I think it may be right now after having eaten too many sweets. UGH! I feel soooooo gross!

Tonight I plan, tomorrow I implement.

Thursday, June 05, 2008, 4:34 PM

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Yes I have a moment of truth when I woke up one morning and looked at myself in the mirror and thought hell I am better than this as far as will power. I am tired as you said that my clothes are not comfortable. Having a whole closet full of beautiful clothes that I can't wear. My moment is that I am just sick and tired of my excuses. I know this time that I will succeed and be healthier

Thursday, June 05, 2008, 5:02 PM

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I've had no moment yet. I should have listened to the ones I've seen in the past, but I'm always been very relaxed about it. It frustrates me! I remember seeing myself in a mirror and honest-to-God not recognising myself. I hated feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. I lost a little weight after that "aha" moment, but then put a bunch back on. Had a mini-aha a few months ago, but that wore off after 3 weeks of half-hearted attempts and no results.

Now? I really want to lose the weight. I tell myself I am happy, but I know I'm not. I am fine with eating, and I exercise ok, but my problem is that I am a drinker. I seem to end up having a couple of social drinks most nights which always start as "one drink" and end up as a dozen. Even though I know it's useless liquid calories, I still have this mind set that because it isn't solid (like food) it is ok.

Coming in here does help though.

Friday, June 06, 2008, 1:33 AM

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I had my moment recently! Its so boring. I wass lying in bed, and for whatever reason, I just felt:

'THAT IS IT!! ENOUGH OF THIS! I am ready to be ME again."

Since then, I have been eating veggies, rice, beans, watching calories, getting lots of sleep, not drinking alcohal - just Taking Care Of Myself!

It feels good.

Friday, June 06, 2008, 9:46 AM

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I had a moment last year too. As a teacher, we are encouraged to encourage our stduents to get at least 30 mins of physical activity daily. However, how will any of my students take me seriously when i am not in any form to be telling them or advising them about physical activity? I am now in teachers college and decided to do this now, before i acutally start teaching. I worked...i lost 50 lbs.

But then...with the stress of school (and carlessness and mindless eating) i gained back 25 lbs. Not impressed.

My second moments was when my size 8 or 10 pants were now sung...really snug. Attempt #2 on ay now.

Friday, June 06, 2008, 10:13 AM

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wedding gown

I went wedding gown shopping. The lady suggested I to up to a size 6 times my regular pant size and a Wide size. I would have to pay a lot more money for the extra material.

I cried all the way home. My reward to myself when I loose 60 pounds is to go wedding gown shopping.

Friday, June 06, 2008, 2:17 PM

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Mine was a little different. I'd been trying to lose weight for a while. Kind of half-assedly. Then I got the flu. I was incredibly sick for about a week. When I was better, I weighed myself and found I had lost 6 pounds. At that moment I realized I could fall back into my old habits and gain it back within a couple of weeks... or I could actually use this as a kick-start and keep it off. I chose the second and kept on losing.

Friday, June 06, 2008, 5:26 PM

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Went to Hawii a size 16. What a drag! One year and a half before I had been a size 6 and could do a bunch of hula dances really well! It was crushing and unnecessarily humbling to have to be that size and skip the dancing...

Friday, June 06, 2008, 5:33 PM

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