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What Is One Thing That You Know Now....

that you wished you knew when you first started pt?

thank you very much,

-PT

Wed. Apr 9, 1:23pm

that i can't track my water intake like i can with other websites.

and there's no place to put in weight and see weight loss charts.

i like that with other sites.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 1:24 PM

To join many groups to start with and then narrow down to the ones you really click with.

While it doesnt really really relate to the OP/PT's question I do agree that having a weight tracker aside from how everyone does it on their own in their "goals" section would be helpful.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 1:29 PM

That so many people out there are grossly misinformed about losing weight, healthy diets, exercise programs, weight lifting, metabolism.

That no one would use the SEARCH function on the community board before posting another question revealing how grossly misinformed they are about weight loss.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 1:55 PM

That this is for life. When I first came here I thought, "Okay, I'm going to plow through these lbs. and then I'll be done." Slow and steady does win the race. I have lost 22 lbs. and still losing (at a snails pace, but still...). It's not about lbs., it's about health and once that "clicks" the weight will come off naturally.

I would have never lost this weight without PT. Thank you so much!

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 3:26 PM

Careful with that "join many groups" advice...90% of them are one-day wonders that just annoy the hell out of everyone else, making us itch for a "vote off" feature.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 4:13 PM

that is true - i joined about 6 groups so far and found that i was the most active poster in several of them so after a few weeks I just decided to cut down to the 3 i felt i was getting the most of out - and even now one of them i have been considering leaving because it is pretty slow/inactive.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 4:31 PM

amen 4:13! I've been on PT for about a year now and I bet that I've been in 6 groups trying to find those that actually want to help me and actually want me to help them get through these rough spots, not just a bunch of people looking for justification to their cheating and overeating.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008, 4:33 PM

I am in a group now that has 2 awesome, motivating, successful weight-losers and one newbie who rarely posts and doesnt seem to be making any changes to her lifestyle, just excuses. For weeks we have been supportive but still no changes. At first it was exciting seeing someone so excited and new to it all, but now It is getting frustrating for me and I wish our 4th was someone more in tune w/ how we operate.
How do I motivate her as I don't want to just say what I am thinking: "If you really want to lose weight get off your ass every once and a while and stop eating so much".

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 10:58 AM

support

Before I started PT I underestimated the power of support and surrounding myself around people (even if only on the web) with the same health goals. Now I realize it was my missing link. I've lost all the weight again (70 lbs) and am finally able to maintain.... I even made it through my hardest obstacles. Thanks PT!

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 11:08 AM

Here's what I learned!

Some of the people here have the best of intentions. But I have also found that the insecurities and emotional distress in their lives has permeated everything they think about others so they don't need to look inward at themselves. I have also found that in every thread there is at least one firestarter who will actually say things like "get off your ass every once and a while and stop eating so much". (I know you didn't mean it like that PP.) Name calling and ridicule. These are the major parts of a peertrainer thread. I read threads but as of late rarely post or add any comments.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 11:12 AM

Not everyone in your group will bond with you. There are some people who do deceive. Forgiveness goes a long way, you forgiving and they forgiving you. Find groups that you can be comfortable with. Lastly, not judging other people until you walk in their shoes.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 11:36 AM

10:58 here

I do reamin supportive in my group - I am really proud of her for just realizing that she needs to make a change.
The issue is my personality - I am a "cut the shit and do it" kind of person. When I quit smoking I just quit one day - from a pack and a half to nothing overnight - and I know it isnt that easy for everyone (I certainly have other habits I havent been able to "just give up") - it is just a matter of readiness. But that is just the way my mind works. When I am doing poorly w/ my weight loss I know it is because I am not sucking it up and doing everything I need to do.
I guess everyone else in my groups seems to have a more firm grasp on how weight loss works so this has never been an issue for me as a supporter.
My question is do I just keep on being smiley and supportive (you will get there, just keep trying, start each day new) or do I give more direct advice (start saying no to fast food, soda, cheesy and creamy food,etc. and stop making excuses for not doing your cardio 4x/week).

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 11:52 AM

The world would be a boring place if we were all the same.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 11:57 AM

10:58--I would LOVE to be in your group. Any chance you have an opening? I am in two groups, love them dearly, but no one talks or helps out or gives ideas.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 1:47 PM

I have learned quite a few things.
There are people out there that don't even know me that will support me in my battle. That amazes me.

Though I knew this before I started I am finding it being reinforced as I go along, That I am not defined by my weight. I am not what I weigh that is just how I look. Some people will be able to look past my weight and see me and want to get to know me and others won't/can't. That is not up to me to change them.

And unfortunately this one was a hard one for me. I don't have a lot of outside contact with people, So coming to this site and finding people who are just plain mean was a huge surprise to me. I thought the obvious goal of this site was support. And if a person wasn't going to be supportive why would they want to be here. But it seems that there are many intollerances in the world today and even on a weightloss sight you will find people who hate or are intollerant of people who are overweight.

And lastly I think I would say that I didn't realize how many people don't understand or have compassion for a person who eats emotionally.
The goal is to get that under control but it is a process and not an overnight fix. And the more a person is belittled for the way they eat the worse they are going to eat. It only makes sense.
Otherwise you wouldn't have a problem with eating to cover your emotions.

I don't know, I am thankful for this site, it has lead me to some wonderful people and at the same time it really hurts me to see how many people out there want to hurt others. And why? Because they are fat? It just doesn't make sense.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 10:49 PM

I didn't understand the mechanics of the site. For instance, I didn't fill in my log until I got the "you haven't filled in your log" message, I didn't know anything about message boards, I didn't know there were groups to join... totally clueless, I know, but I'm not of the internet-generation so it was a new skill I had to learn.

P.S. I joined before there was links like "how to use this site" and I had a real world friend who also joined and talked me through the technology.

Friday, April 11, 2008, 8:08 AM

1:47 - no openings in my groups but I will start a new one -
Not sure if this is how you link the group I hope it works - if not search
"Log and motivate" that is what I named it.

Link

Friday, April 11, 2008, 12:18 PM

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