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Work or Live w Someone critical of your health choices?

Ahh critics, their motivations I shall never understand.

I work with a woman who is constantly critisizing my health choices. One day I'll bring carrots and she'll say "You can't eat those carrots on a diet, they have carbs!!!!! You are going to get fat!"
The next day I'll bring a bag of grapes and hear "What are you doing! You can't eat fruit on a diet! It has sugar!"
My piece of whole grain toast? Well I've been informed I can't eat bread on a diet either.

Don't you just love the people who are "just keeping an eye out for your health?"
Like my mom, who put a case of SlimFast in the back of my car for reasons I still can't understand.

How rude!

Tue. Apr 8, 3:31pm

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The Food Police

I call those people The Food Police. They can be annoying, hurtful, and a variety of other bad adjectives. Most of the people I know who did it were actually trying to sabotage me because they wanted me to stay fat (then they could continue to feel superior). Some are just misinformed. Rise above, and ignore The Food Police, and know that you are taking care of yourself. Sounds to me like you are making fine choices on your own.

Tuesday, April 08, 2008, 3:45 PM

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Hey, I'm a vegetarian. Seems like EVERYONE is a critic. If it's not, "You're stupid not to eat delicious meat," or, "How come you have a leather sofa?" it's "Welllllll, you're not a vegan so you're not _realllllly_ a vegetarian."

It really would be better if people kept their opinions to themselves, I agree.

Tuesday, April 08, 2008, 4:04 PM

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I think all of your food choices posted are EXCELLENT choices. I would never cut out carbs or bread completely -- you do need some! However, I try not to eat any white breads at all -- ALWAYS opting for the whole wheat/whole grain variety and it seems to be working for me. Eating your fruit and veggies is very important.

What does she expect you to eat?????

What kinds of food(s) does this co-worker eat? I think she just sounds JEALOUS.

As for your mom...that's a different story, moms can be old school and she probably just thinks she is helping!

Tuesday, April 08, 2008, 4:43 PM

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Sounds like she was doing Atkins or South Beach......and guess what? She'll drop a bunch of weight, then gain it all back while you'll be thin forever!

Tuesday, April 08, 2008, 9:08 PM

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OP Here

You guys are all great, true and funny people!
You are right my mom probably is trying to help. I had a horrid back injury and a combo of being off my feet and feeling sorry for myself lead to a again of about 25-30 pounds, well I'm finally getting rid of that, and she's right there with the Slim Fast to support me, lol.

As for that co worker, she eats chocolate truffles all the do da day and always brings in lemon cakes and soda breads for everyone.

Thank god for yoplait non fat yogurt, tastes like candy.

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 8:13 AM

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Tell her as soon as she starts supplying your food and meals, you'll eat what you'd like.

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 9:05 AM

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I think in general when you start to lose a LOT of weight people begin to respect it and then don't question it... I have some pretty friggin' weird food choices but have lost 50 lbs since I started working this job, so people give me crap about what goofy stuff I am eating, but not as much - and now with a note of grudging respect.
When you take off all those pounds they will stop questioning what you are doing because few people actually are sucessful in losing lots of weight and keeping it off.
Then all that hard work pays off ! ;)

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 5:32 PM

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My wife and family have been giving me a hard time that I look thin in my face and "You shouldn't lose anymore weight" or "you should stop that is enough" but according to BMI I am still "overweight" - so frustrating - I have 15 pounds to go - I think they are just used to my chubbier self...

I have really changed over the last few months eating healthy and working out and I need support toi make it lifelong- not criticism and resistance ! !

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 5:40 PM

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My fiance is not supportive either... I have been with him for almost 4 years stopped exercising reguraly( he doesn't), stopped eating less and was eating way too much!!!!! We fight alot which turned me into an emotional eater..I left him for 3 1/2 months and was back eating right, exercising and got back to 130 lbs.after being probably 145 , I am 5' was great ..well in the last year we have been back together I gained was up to 163 now's going down..but it hasn't been easy..he is not very supportive, I go workout and I want to at least 5 times a week at my gym but he always seems to try and sabotage...I do get some form of exercise in everyday walking, yoga, at home pushups,crunches etc..even if it's dancing with my son in the living room...well I have been working out for 2 weeks now and he always says your just gonna quit, and if I eat something not so healthy he says something like " Now that really looks like diet right to your ass". Now I am not really overweight according to statistics, but I have always had a model type body and it has been an emotional mess for far as him he has gotten excuse this but fat..I really think he is jealous, and scared..I mean I still get lots of attention and I get even more when I am at my normal weight...and he eats problem is he works 2nd and he gets home and eats high cal junk...i try not to eat after 8 but even if i go to sleep he makes tons of noise comes in the bedroom turns on the light turns on the tv and eats in i usually don't go to sleep till he does( and it makes it hard for me not to eat something when he's stuffing his face) but then if I want to go to the gym I have to wake up early and go before my son wakes up, or he bitches half the time if I try and go when he's up..even though all he does is sit and watch today I was going to go and he's like god I didn't know you were going to go everyday, I'm going to the store to buy myself sandles, and new shirts (there was time for both to be done), so I said fine go , then I make my lunch(Healthy choice)and he says later well I'm not gonna go today so you can go workout if you want but you have to leave now..right when I sit down to eat(first thing I had all day besides water) after he's had 2 t.v. dinners that are 700 cals a peice, needless to say I din't go..I didn't want to leave my son with him the way he was acting..I am thinking I will probably leave him again if things don't change, he wasn't always this bad..I am thinking there is something going on just not quite sure what it is..I tell him all the time that I am on the verge of leaving him and he pretty much says you have no where to go, no money etc..true but when my son leaves for the summer( his dads) I will be getting a job and saving money..thing is job will have to be close as he took away my van that was in both our names last year..its hid somewhere his aunts or something...I got news for him though I will succeed at getting this weight off and I might find someone better it's not like it would be hard to do..and I plan on going back to school in the fall ( oh ueah he messed that up too had to drop this semester because he kept taking car keys so I couldn't get to school..going to become a lawyer maybe he's scared I will make enough money to leave him)..After this summer I plan on getting my own place, and get back to school, I'll have to go back to my old job(dancing) to make it but at least I had an awesome body at the time.....just turned 30 though so I need to get my life back on track...thanks needed to vent

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 8:50 PM

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I must apologize to all because I am sort of a food police, I don't mean to be its just when I see someone eating fries and I know they are trying to lose weight I might mention it. So yes in the case of the OP, that lady seems a bit crazy, you are apparently eating healthy she is just unaware of what healthy is. But I too am bad about the whole food policing. Good luck to all.

Wednesday, April 09, 2008, 11:07 PM

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Dear 8:50- Your BF is not just unsupportive, he sounds like he is emotionally abusive. Leave him as soon as you can. No one deserves the treatment you describe. Hope you become independent of him soon.

Thursday, April 10, 2008, 12:16 AM

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