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I am trying to lose weight for th1000th time! Any suggestions

I am 54 and I am ready to give up.

Sun. Mar 23, 10:22pm

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Don't give up. I feel the same way, but I'll never give up b/c that means that eating and being overweight is more important to me than being healthy and losing this weight. I can't tell you how many Monday starts I've had in my adult life.

In the end there is no magic bullet. It's not that nothing works - it's that we're not sticking to anything long enough to yield long term results. Why? Are we impatient? Is our strategy flawed? Is food serving another purpose besided fuel? So many questions!

The one thing I do know - self loathing gets us nowhere. Feeling like a failure, a fat failure - does not help. Hating our bodies - unproductive.

Don't give up. Create a new plan. Decide that losing weight, getting healthy, and eating well are going to take priority over the habits that got you where you are today. Don't give up.

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 10:46 PM

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P.S. I'm starting over for the 1001th time tomorrow :)

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 10:47 PM

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Avoid fad diets....they don't work!

My suggestions:
- find out your BMR and eat about that many calories per day.
- do a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise per day
- drink lots of water and eats lots of fruits and veggies.

Good luck!

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 11:03 PM

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11:03 is right. and btw, a lot of fruits and veggies is pounds a day, not five servings. You need to eat lots and lots.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 8:39 AM

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all the pp's are right. just to let you know, it takes i think 3 weeks for something to become a habit. i hated to exercise and pushed myself to do it, hating it every step of the way. now, after 2 months i enjoy my time walking. my point is, if you can stick to it, it eventually will be a habit, a good habit i might add. good luck.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 10:28 AM

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Lift weights.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 10:50 AM

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- see the thread - "Eat the same few meals over and over again"
- 11:03 has good advice
-throw out the carbs in your cupboard !
- I had a hiking guide that said, when you are hinking with a pack and are tired, just tell yourself, "this is what I will be doing for the rest of my life" that makes it easier - DON"T THINK OF IT AS A "DIET" - pick a healthy eating plan that you can live with and keep telling yourself, "this is the way I am going to eat... FOREVER" - not, "after this diet I am going to eat a ______"
-you can suceed ! !

Monday, March 24, 2008, 11:00 AM

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I agree with the last poster: no diets. You need a live-it.

One thing that has come up in several threads is using a friend or relative as a model. If you have someone close to you who is the same sex and the body fat you would like to be at, ask them to log their activity, sleep, and food intake for a week so that you can get a feel for how they maintain it.

While it's true that we are all somewhat different in our metabolism and trigger foods and so forth, it's also true that most of us are not so honest about how different other people's lifestyles really are. I know that when I started on my weight loss journey I would follow slender women around the grocery store -- and I was shocked by what/how little they put in the basket!

Monday, March 24, 2008, 12:18 PM

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OP - what are you doing now or what have you done in the past?

The first step is believing you can do it.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 7:24 PM

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I think that a really good read is" YOU on a Diet". It is a good book that is entertaining and has a great message about how our bodies work and why we need to eat what we eat and why we are for the most part not succeeding in diets.

It gives some realistic ways to incorporate small changes into your life that can have big effects.

I love it.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 8:01 PM

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If you truly want to lose weight you can, don't make excuses. It takes change first start by writing down what you eat.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 10:22 PM

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Been there, what finally changed it for me is Paul McKenna, I can make you thin

Check out the series on TLC Sunday nts 9pm & see the shows you missed by checking out when they will air again.

I'm floored, this is working for me

But what ever you do dont give up, your worth the fight to gain your life back

Tuesday, March 25, 2008, 4:44 AM

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Stop eating things you know you shouldn't. It's that easy and that difficult. I look at it this way. If we have enough self control to prohibit us from doing things that are socially, legally, or morally unacceptable, then why do we make it so easy to justify overeating? Suddenly, people have "no control" over that. Yes we do, we just choose not to because food tastes good! Feeling full and sated feels good. Not having responsibility for yourself feels good. If you have enough control to not bash someone in the head who has done you wrong, then you certainly have enough self control to not put an oreo in your mouth.

And before everyone jumps all over me, I've started and ended diets 1000 times too. I hold myself just as accountable, and this is a theory that I try to hold myself up to as well. If I can hold my tongue to a person who annoys me, or I can pick up that $20 the person in front of me just dropped and return it rather than keep it, then why can't I treat myself with the same respect and not damage myself with unhealthy eating?

Tuesday, March 25, 2008, 9:51 AM

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Well said! There are so many times I would love to go for the wrong food choice because it tastes so much better...but I don't. I focus on what I want to look like and what I know to be the healthier choice. Does that mean that I 100% of the time eat perfectly, no of course not- I slip up just like everyone else...but I get myself back on track right after. I don't use making one poor choice for the day as an excuse to bag the rest of the day and eat all kinds of junk. It really is all about knowing what's right and wrong for your body- just the same as knowing what's right and wrong socially and morally.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008, 9:57 AM

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