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I do not want to go to my sister in laws wedding.

Do I have to? It's half way across the world. I have to take a toddler with me. Is it possible to skip something this important? I don't like who is she is marrying, I won't have any friends there and it's not like it's only a rehearsal dinner and wedding. It's many days.

Mon. Mar 17, 11:43am

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Are you kidding me? Don't go and don't worry about it. She''ll be too busy to think about it herself and will probably forget about it in a few years.

Look, I didn't go to my cousin's wedding 20 years ago. I grew up with her and are still reasonably close, considering she lives across the globe from me as wel,now in Hong Kongl. I had other priorities: Financing a new kitchen remodel, for starters. Don't get me wrong... I would have loved to attend a wealthy, proper-type British wedding.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 11:55 AM

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When people have weddings that require a lot of travel for guest, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume some just won't be able to attend b/c of financial issues, time issues, or children issues. Express your wish to be there, if you give an explanation simply say travel with a toddler would be difficult and you couldn't predict their behavior at their wedding - you don't want to mar the wedding, after all - and send a gift.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 12:08 PM

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I wouldn't sweat it. If she lives that far...don't worry..

Monday, March 17, 2008, 12:38 PM

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I plan on not going to my sister in laws wedding in Mexico in May. It was simply not an option for me, and I don't feel bad for not going.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 12:43 PM

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Yep - I won't be going to my SIL's wedding either for all of those reasons except I don't have a toddler (which makes your excuse better than mine IMO ;-) ). She's getting married in Australia to a guy I don't like - it's ungodly expensive and I don't want to use my entire year's worth of vacation on it. Quite frankly if I'm going to Australia it won't be for her wedding.

Send her your good wishes and a gift and do not feel bad.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 2:44 PM

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Don't go, send cash.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 2:46 PM

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Well, it depends on how far it really is! I wouldnt want to go, under all your is the right thing to do!

Friday, March 21, 2008, 7:59 PM

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I'm surprised by the responses here. I would think the majority would have said of course you have to go, it's family.

Saturday, March 22, 2008, 1:32 PM

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I think the distance and the toddler changes the obligation. That's just me, though.

Saturday, March 22, 2008, 2:04 PM

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Just because she is somewhat family doesn't mean you have to go. Its hard enough to travel, let alone with a toddler. Where is your husband and his parents, I can only assume since she is your sister in law its your husbands sister. Is he planning on going and if not why would you go without him if you'd have to travel by yourself? You are not obligated to do anything just because it is family. I am sure she will understand and if you are that worried about it you can come up with an excuse, you just can't afford it right now.

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 8:40 AM

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misslizzi's input

Sometimes I wonder if people have far-away weddings so that most people DON'T show up!!!

Stay put and send her a really nice gift.

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 9:34 AM

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it would be selfish for her to make a big deal about you not going. time and money are huge considerations for most people. if she really wants people at her wedding she should have it where its convenient for her guests or pay there way...

Sunday, March 23, 2008, 10:23 AM

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LOL Ever see that Seinfeld episode where Elaine's friend is getting married in India or something? Elaine gets huffy because she says they were only inviting people for the gifts. LOL The PP's comment reminded me of that.

Back on topic, I'd say don't go. If it is truly halfway across the globe nobody should be obligated to attend.

Monday, March 24, 2008, 6:11 PM

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OP here. I LOVE you guys. You've made me feel a lot better about not going.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008, 7:53 AM

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