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Weight loss denial

I have lost 55 pounds in the last 8 months. However, I don't honestly believe I have lost it. When I go to the store to by new clothes, I just can't believe I fit in a size 10 and I think people are looking at me saying goodness girl your fat *** won't fit in those pants, who are you trying to fool. Or when I go out to eat I believe the waitress is thinking does your fat butt really need to eat that. Does any one else have this problem? Or am I just crazy? Another thing when people say oh you are looking so skinny you may just blow away, I think what are you talking about you are thinner than I am , although they may not be but I don't know.

Sat. Mar 15, 10:39pm

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From my understanding it is common for a persons mind not to have caught up with their body.
Give yourself time and try to look at yourself and think of yourself with a possitive light.
Possitive self talk is how I think of it.

By the way congratulations on your sucess.

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 12:13 AM

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My sister lost weight 7 yrs ago and still struggles with this. Just be patient and love yourself.

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 12:18 AM

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I had a hard time with my mind catching up with my body, too. Now, after over a year, I'm finally seeing what really is. I think it's just a matter of a little time for most people.

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 8:46 AM

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It can work the same way when a person gains weight.
They don't see that they have put on the weight and keep thinking it's only a few pounds until it's out of control.

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 4:37 PM

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This is really hard! I agree, it can work the other way too, you think you've only gained a couple & it's really been 20. I once sat in the mall & people watched & tried to pick woman who wore the same size as me. I couldn't do it. Had no idea how big/small I looked. Just give it time I guess!

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 5:45 PM

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I have this problem too. I've lost over 100 lbs in the last year, and it's hard to believe that I'm actually "normal" size now. It's slowly getting better. Every time I go try on new clothes, I get a bit more confident. Seeing a therapist might help you.

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 5:51 PM

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5:45 - that reminds me of Carson Kressley's new show - Look Good Naked. He lines up women of various sizes - from smallest to largest - and has the subject of the show decide where she fits in the lineup. Invariably, they go much larger than they actually are. Why do we view ourselves so harshly, do you think?

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 7:26 PM

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I'm with you OP! It is all mental - this whole weight loss thing. For me, anyway. I could have written this post! I replied to a similar post awhile back telling this story... I had lost about 60 pounds at the time, it was a warm day, and I felt like wearing capris. So, I pulled my size 20 pants down and tried to wear them out! I was a 14 or 16 in reality at the time. For some reason I truly believed that I was going to wear those pants. It is a very strange thing to go through. I don't know how to make my brain embrace the new me. Pictures will help. I was thinking of taking pictures of me next to average people. Like me standing in the mall, etc... My hubby did take some shots of me at the kids school last week, when I was unaware and they were nice. Not great shots, I mean, but nice because I was at ease and not posing and I got to see how I really look to others. I wish you all the best and CONGRATS!!!

Sunday, March 16, 2008, 10:47 PM

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I feel the exact same way, I also could have written this post.

We were at the mall in a Sony store and they had a huge mirror. I told my husband I liked this mirror because it made me look skinny. He almost started singing he was so happy I finally saw I was skinny. He said it wasn't the mirror, I was actually skinny.

Now, you would think having lost 100+lbs over 4 yrs that I would know what I look like, but I am constantly surprised and still see myself as huge. I see people who could very well be my size (though much better toned) and wish I was that small. I think I have really bad self esteem and can't see myself as good enough ever.

I hope you can overcome this, I hope all of us can. It would be great to let this whole "I look terrible" thing go, wouldn't it?

Monday, March 17, 2008, 9:02 AM

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OP here,

Thank you all for your comments, happy to hear I'm not alone but kind of sad that we all have these issues. Hopefully time will take care of this. Thanks once again to all.

Monday, March 17, 2008, 10:24 PM

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