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Skinny = sex drive?

I've seen some messages on here indicating that part of the motivation for losing weight is to help increase the sex drive you feel you've lost over the last years/months. That was part of my motivation, too -- I felt bad that I didn't want to have sex with my husband as often as I used to.

So here's the question for people who have succeeded in slimming down already: did it work? Or is low sex drive just an indication that we should "spice it up" in other ways? I know every couple is a little different, but I was hoping there is a general trend ...

Thu. Feb 21, 10:40am

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Sexy should always come from within. Sexy is a state of mind. If you only feel sexy when you're thin, then that is a mental issue, not a physical one. AND if you feel you need to be thin to be sexy, then you can never complain about guys being shallow and looks based, because you're doing the exact same thing.

Check out they're all big, but I still think most of them are sexy. Or watch a few episodes of "how to look good naked".

My drive has always been high, regardless of weight- even when I was 60lbs overweight. However, being in better shape allows for more positions and more stamina ;)

Thursday, February 21, 2008, 11:33 AM

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People definitely feel sexier if they are not thinking "my butts too fat" My thighs are huge" I hope he/she doesn't notice this or that. I don't think it is about sexiness as much as the release of inhibitions.

Thursday, February 21, 2008, 3:56 PM

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I also have a relatively high sex drive, and always have but now that I'm slimmer sex is much better because as 3:56 said, I don't have to think as much about staying in the most flattering position ect...

I don't think losing weight has increased my sex drive, but it has made sex more enjoyable!

Thursday, February 21, 2008, 4:10 PM

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Being skinny has not improved my sex drive. It's the confidence, the inner strength and the improved level of physical fitness I've gained in the process. I like myself and appreciate my body and its strength more than I ever have and that extends into my sex life. I like being touched much more now that I'm less self-concious, and I'm better able to relax and enjoy the sensations. However I do credit the being-in-shape aspect more than the 'skinny' aspect. i used to be very skinny and I was horribly self-concious. Now that I'm a good weight and in shape, things are much better.

Thursday, February 21, 2008, 4:42 PM

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My Hubby told me flat out, if you weigh 200 pounds I won't want to have sex with you. I didn't marry you that heavy (I was 174) and I am not attracted to heavy people. I got to 195 and he hasn't touched me since. I am now at 189 and still nothing. So, it doesn't matter how I feel about. Fat=No sex.

Friday, February 22, 2008, 10:32 AM

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I encourage you women to lose weight, and then tell your husbands you're not attracted to assholes, so they're not getting any.

Friday, February 22, 2008, 5:12 PM

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HAHAHAH 5:12!!! I totally agree. If my hubby had a problem with my weight then he married the wrong person. If you truly love someone weight isn't an issue. If you truly love some one and are concerned about their health then you try and help them with their "health" It should not be a weight issue. I'm losing weight for my and my hubby's future. I know I'm not healthy. If I could be this size (a 22 and 270lbs.) and be healthy, then awesome. However, it's not healthy so I must do something and hubby has started doing little things too since he's noticed it working for me. If he bashed my weight or called me fat, ha!! I'd say have fun sleeping on the couch jack a$$!! He wouldn't get any for a long long time.

Saturday, February 23, 2008, 2:00 AM

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When I was at my heaviest, I know my husband didn't love me any less, but he definitely wasn't as turned on by my body. Men are such visual creatures and it's not anything they can change, it's the way they're made. As women it's hard to truly understand how a hot body affects them. Now that I'm thin, my husband is much more attracted to me. He doesn't love me any more than he did, but he LUSTS me more!

Saturday, February 23, 2008, 8:38 AM

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