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Which would you pick?

A marriage where you are hopelessly and romantically in love, wild highs and lows, arguments, make up sessions


A marriage with a lot more peace and stability, more like with a best friend.

I've seen both with my friends and I wonder what works for the long term.

Thu. Oct 4, 10:10am

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i'd take the stability, the ease and comfort of each other over fighting any day.

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 10:35 AM

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I have the second, and I am very happy. 4+ years so far.

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 10:50 AM

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When I was in a passionate, yet unpredictable relationship...... I always dreamt of someday having the stable/ peaceful marriage.

Now that I have it ( love my husband), but all I fantasize about now is having passion..... I have even considered having an affair.

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 10:52 AM

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#2- 8 years and counting... ;o) but we're very passionate (no fighting), and best friends. aw i love my hubby!

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 10:56 AM

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I had the second kind and it bored me to bits after 2 years. Now that I'm older, I know that I thrive on unpredictability in my work, in my romantic relationships, in my workouts, in bed, you name it. Which means I either need #1 or I'm not the marrying kind.

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 11:16 AM

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'They' always say that bored people are boring ;)

Hmmm, I've got bits of both - the hopelessly romantic part, along with stability, peace and friendship AND good sex...If I had to choose one or the other...#2 (as long as there's sex!!)

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 11:22 AM

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11:22 again...forget to mention that we're going on year 19 together and I'm still on pins and needles waiting for him to come after work, we still 'date', and he still knows how to surprise me :)

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 11:24 AM

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I am no expert on the issue, I am not married. But I say why settle. You can have passion and a best friend. Hold out for what you need.

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 4:03 PM

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Thursday, October 04, 2007, 4:25 PM

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I guess I would classify my marriage as the second one. Our relationship is very stable and predicatable which is a huge relief since everything else in our lives is CRAZY. Having a stable, comfortable relationship doesn't mean you have to have a boring life.

Also, since our relationship is so even-keel, people who know us might guess we don't have a very exciting sex life...they would be wrong! ;)

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 4:44 PM

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the first option

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 7:44 PM

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I'd say, I have a little bit of both and I wouldn't have it any other way!!!!

Thursday, October 04, 2007, 8:55 PM

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